k29 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Hi all, This is my first post here, was really looking for a place that I could possibly give my story and have some others analyze it for me, as im extremely confused at the moment. Sorry in advance this is a rather long post but I think the information might be valuable in helping someone figure out what is going on in my head =) I think the first bit of information that would be relevant would be my first real relationship when I was 19 years old. I was with a younger girl for about 1 and a half years, the last few months were extremely difficult and without going into the complex details she cheated on me and I was pretty crushed for about 4 months after. After getting over that relationship I began dating again. Now however I went from being a nice guy to being extremely sarcastic etc. Interestingly I found it incredibly easy to get girls with this new outlook; the less I seemed to care the more they seemed to want me. Obviously I was doing this simply to avoid being hurt again, and during this time I had a relationship with a girl that lasted slightly over 2 years, I never would cheat on a girlfriend, but I definitely did not treat this girl as well as I would have liked. She was an angel to me and at times I was very unaffectionate and indifferent. That relationship ended on good terms for a variety of good reasons about 1 year ago. Now the real problem starts. A girl I had known for about 8 years graduated college and moved back home. We began hanging out and 2 weeks later we were inseparable. One month after that we were a couple and I can honestly say that I have not cared about someone this much before. We have now been together for almost 4 months and spend at least 6 days of the week together. I’m having several problems right now. She recently told me that she loved me, and I love her but I can’t say it back. I look at her as a very high risk girl and almost feel that if I tell her I love her things are going to go down hill. The main problem im having is Extreme frustration I will have. I’m a very logical relaxed person and realize that I get this deep feeling of frustration for absolutely no reason but I have no idea why. She could simply mention a guys name who we have both been friends with for years, show me a picture with a guy near her in it, tell me she’s going to hang out with her roommate one night of the week (even though im with her the other 6 days) and I will get this feeling in my stomach that I hate. I understand that this is completely irrational, she has never done anything to make me not trust her, and tells me that she has never felt like this before, yet I am still having these problems, any thoughts as to what is going on ?? its driving me insane. Thanks in advance
Outcast Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 You are still suffering the effects of having been cheated on. If you can't get over it, get counselling.
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