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Just now, ExpatInItaly said:

What was your love like before this weasel showed up?

I think you are being derogatory to weasels... 

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1 hour ago, elaine567 said:

Trouble is, she may know she can't stop her husband having access to his child but she will not want you around.

Oh she will definitely have it set up that the baby will be handed off by a third party to ensure MM and her don't come in contact with each other.  That will be a condition she will set with him.   That is unless she goes for full custody if no other reason than spite.

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as I said above she stated to my family member her and her husband moved on, they are one happy family and I am insignificant - so looks like there won’t be any revenge after all tbh... neither of them care. I have a feeling he forgot what my name is if anything and enjoys happy family time. 

my love life before was alright, had long-term relationships, managed to stay friends with previous partners, all the guys were decent and respectable 

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3 minutes ago, BiancaSW said:

I said above she stated to my family member

She's in touch with your family?  How did she get their contact info?

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3 minutes ago, BiancaSW said:

so looks like there won’t be any revenge after all tbh... neither of them care. I have a feeling he forgot what my name is if anything and enjoys happy family time. 

That's because they aren't aware that you really are pregnant.  She's not going to take that lying down.  His whole world is going to blow up sooner or later.  You can't hide a child for long.

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when there was that harassment going on - my family member found the wife on a social media and kindly asked her to stop what she is doing. my family member stated I’m in a situation to which MM contributed, to which the wife responded that I am a liar - lying about my situation and lying about being harassed. after that I had to turn to legal ways to resolve the issue.

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tbh I think neither of them think I’m pregnant and what he did to me is all yesterday’s news. he never checked what is happening to me as I’m sure what he thought is that I’m a spiteful revengeful woman who made things up trying to make him communicate with me and not let him go.and that’s what his wife thought too.

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2 minutes ago, BiancaSW said:

tbh I think neither of them think I’m pregnant and what he did to me is all yesterday’s news. he never checked what is happening to me as I’m sure what he thought is that I’m a spiteful revengeful woman who made things up trying to make him communicate with me and not let him go.and that’s what his wife thought too.

Like I said you can't hide a baby and as you grow bigger and bigger someone, somewhere will let them know.  Trust me, they'll find out.

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unlikely - not many ppl know except his colleagues and I’m leaving the job in a couple of weeks. 

btw his wife blocked me on certain social media site after she made her kids call me on FaceTime - to probably show how unimportant I am. but I’m sure she is watching my every move. so if I post something she will find a way to see it.

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I don’t know why he cudnt call me even for five minutes and ask where the things stand. you can’t be involved with someone so closely for a year and then just cut them out of your life like they never existed. what human being does that.

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Well like you said, they've moved on for now.

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I told him on the phone - I am 2 months pregnant (with her listening).

1 month passed by and MMs best friend and colleague messaged me and asked if I have done the COVID jab and I said no, he asked why - I said coz I’m pregnant. He asked - ah I know the father, do I? I said yes you do.

in 2 hours time he blocked me (best friend) and in 2 days time she started the harassment agenda.

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I hate how **** he made it for me. Why wouldn’t he just talk to me like a man - no one would know! He could have discretely called and spoken to me - asked if things are true or not. Why to involve her? Why to repeatedly tell me he doesn’t believe me when he knows I never lied to him?

 

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16 minutes ago, BiancaSW said:

He could have discretely called and spoken to me - asked if things are true or not. Why to involve her? W

If he gets caught, he faces divorce. Your mind is on him, his mind is on saving his marriage. 

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Just now, Starswillshine said:

If he gets caught, he faces divorce. Your mind is on him, his mind is on saving his marriage. 

he had a year to consider what is important to him and where he stands on his marriage and what he had to lose.

him calling me from work - how would he get caught? he could use work phone and my friend offered him to call from her phone.

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surely he would want to know if he fathered a baby or not? he is not a heartless creature (I want to believe) - his job is one of the most caring ones in the whole world and he takes all the ones under his care so so close to heart. the ones under his care reported him as someone having a heart of gold.

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11 minutes ago, BiancaSW said:

he had a year to consider what is important to him and where he stands on his marriage and what he had to lose.

She didn't know at that point. He didn't think she would find out. Now that it has come out, he has to save his hide. He knows if he has contact with you, it is over. How does he know that you won't take a screenshot of the phone call and send to his wife? There are many ways he could get caught. Bottom line, right now saving his marriage is his top priority. 

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8 minutes ago, Starswillshine said:

She didn't know at that point. He didn't think she would find out. Now that it has come out, he has to save his hide. He knows if he has contact with you, it is over. How does he know that you won't take a screenshot of the phone call and send to his wife? There are many ways he could get caught. Bottom line, right now saving his marriage is his top priority. 

because if I wanted to tell her anything I had thousand chances to do that. she was contacting me herself - calling my mobile and my secretaries office at work, trying to get me contact her on social media - he knows about that. and I never once spoken to her because I never wanted to betray him. why on earth would I want to do that? there are things that’s between him and her, and also things between him and I. that’s all adult stuff, not some Kindergarten 

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he knows well enough I never played any games with him. everything is and was far too serious for that.

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26 minutes ago, BiancaSW said:

he knows well enough I never played any games with him. everything is and was far too serious for that.

He is a deceiver. So he actually does not know what you would do because he knows he is not who he presents himself to be. Right now, he is saving his rear. Period. 

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yes, you are right. don’t know how someone so wonderful working with people and caring for them in such a great way can have these colours to him. he would always stand up for his team, for the ones he cared.... and I adored him for that. I was proud to be his. that’s like not even him. I don’t know. came as a big shock to me

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1 hour ago, BiancaSW said:

he had a year to consider what is important to him and where he stands on his marriage and what he had to lose.

him calling me from work - how would he get caught? he could use work phone and my friend offered him to call from her phone.

He never had any plans to leave his marriage so there was nothing to consider.  You're right if he had wanted to call you he would have found a way.

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1 hour ago, BiancaSW said:

surely he would want to know if he fathered a baby or not? he is not a heartless creature (I want to believe) - his job is one of the most caring ones in the whole world and he takes all the ones under his care so so close to heart. the ones under his care reported him as someone having a heart of gold.

No, knowing about the baby would mean he'd have to do something, support you in some way and have you expecting him to leave his wife for you.  That he wasn't going to do.

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2 minutes ago, stillafool said:

He never had any plans to leave his marriage so there was nothing to consider.  You're right if he had wanted to call you he would have found a way.

while his wife was listening on the phone he said he wanted to leave her in summer as he thought things were getting serious, but also during the same phone call he said we never had a rship and never had feelings... like what...

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55 minutes ago, BiancaSW said:

because if I wanted to tell her anything I had thousand chances to do that. she was contacting me herself - calling my mobile and my secretaries office at work, trying to get me contact her on social media - he knows about that. and I never once spoken to her because I never wanted to betray him. why on earth would I want to do that? there are things that’s between him and her, and also things between him and I. that’s all adult stuff, not some Kindergarten 

No you were between them.  Maybe you should have told her then you would have found out who he was sooner.

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