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[WesHightower]

I prefer slender to athletic women on the taller side.  That’s just what I like and I can’t change it.  I met a woman for drinks last night.  Her profile photos show an extremely pretty woman.  The problem is she only had photos from maybe chest up.  I  want to be nice in how I put this but I was not attracted to her body.  She wasn’t ‘fat’ or out of shape.   I guess you would just say she was ‘big boned’. It’s obviously my problem- she’s not unattractive, it’s just that I am not physically attracted to her. I’m very particular.  I would compare this to a guy who hadn’t listed his height on his profile and he is well below average height.  It’s established that women in general prefer taller men.  It’s just a cold fact.  He didn’t claim to be tall but in some cases, if the woman knew his height she would not have met him.

This has happened to me a couple of times.  Now, I’ve heard horror stories of guys having a girl show up like this and they leave immediately or soon after. Also Ive heard of guys being total jerks and making the girl feel bad.  My attitude is “you know what? I’m going to make the best of this.  I invited this girl here, I’m going to show her a good time.”  And we had a great time.  The hard part is that I liked this girl, as far as personality. I found myself sitting there thinking “omg, I wish I was physically attracted to her”.

In my profile I put at least 2 full length shots and I make sure that I look like or better then my photos.Do women purposefully do this?  Can I assume if a woman only has pictures from chest up or neck up that she is not wanting to show some of her features and I should avoid these? I know the dating sites have standards for mainly what types of photos can NOT be posted.  Would it be terrible for a site to require a full length shot?

Also, who has had similar experiences and what are your thoughts on this?

[basil67]

People who put up half body shots may indeed be hiding something.   Or they could be gorgeous and do the half body shot as a sh*t test to filter out those who are shallow.  Back when I was young, if I'd been online dating, the latter is exactly the kind of thing I'd do.

Question is though, if you meet and marry a tall athletic woman and she puts on a few pounds over the years and becomes regular sized rather than slim, then what?   It's wise for a woman to think ahead.

Edited June 13, 2021 by basil67

[Dis]

I put up as many full body shots as I do from the neck/chest up because I don't want to walk in to the date and have the guy be surprised by what I look like from top to bottom

 

You will find a lot of women do what your date did. Just face shots. Which means you'll have to weed through quite a few of them 

[basil67]

Or of course, meet women in person.  Then you immediately see how they present.  OLD isn’t for everyone

[d0nnivain]

Perhaps in the future skip those who don't offer full body shots.  

[norealusername]

Women who only post upper body or head photos are almost always large sized.

[Interstellar]

this is why I get suspicious when their photos only show their faces.