k55 Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Hi all, This is my first post here, was really looking for a place that I could possibly give my story and have some others analyze it for me, as im extremely confused at the moment. Sorry in advance this is a rather long post but I think the information might be valuable in helping someone figure out what is going on in my head =) I think the first bit of information that would be relevant would be my first real relationship when I was 19 years old. I was with a younger girl for about 1 and a half years, the last few months were extremely difficult and without going into the complex details she cheated on me and I was pretty crushed for about 4 months after. After getting over that relationship I began dating again. Now however I went from being a nice guy to being extremely sarcastic etc. Interestingly I found it incredibly easy to get girls with this new outlook; the less I seemed to care the more they seemed to want me. Obviously I was doing this simply to avoid being hurt again, and during this time I had a relationship with a girl that lasted slightly over 2 years, I never would cheat on a girlfriend, but I definitely did not treat this girl as well as I would have liked. She was an angel to me and at times I was very unaffectionate and indifferent. That relationship ended on good terms for a variety of good reasons about 1 year ago. Now the real problem starts. A girl I had known for about 8 years graduated college and moved back home. We began hanging out and 2 weeks later we were inseparable. One month after that we were a couple and I can honestly say that I have not cared about someone this much before. We have now been together for almost 4 months and spend at least 6 days of the week together. I’m having several problems right now. She recently told me that she loved me, and I love her but I can’t say it back. I look at her as a very high risk girl and almost feel that if I tell her I love her things are going to go down hill. The main problem im having is Extreme frustration I will have. I’m a very logical relaxed person and realize that I get this deep feeling of frustration for absolutely no reason but I have no idea why. She could simply mention a guys name who we have both been friends with for years, show me a picture with a guy near her in it, tell me she’s going to hang out with her roommate one night of the week (even though im with her the other 6 days) and I will get this feeling in my stomach that I hate. I understand that this is completely irrational, she has never done anything to make me not trust her, and tells me that she has never felt like this before, yet I am still having these problems, any thoughts as to what is going on ?? its driving me insane. Thanks, k
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