Lotsgoingon Posted June 12, 2021 Posted June 12, 2021 OP, you had courage to come here. Bravo to you. Sometimes if we don't have the strength to do the right thing (for ourselves or for others) we do need to get strength from others. I think you got lots of strength here. Credit yourself for initiating that. And keep reaching out here and with IRL friends when something doesn't quite feel right. It's amazing how often our bodies tell us we're heading for danger and we ignore that warning by concocting some elaborate story-fantasy in our heads. Kudos to you!
spiderowl Posted June 27, 2021 Posted June 27, 2021 Roughly translated, it was great being with you, I loved it, a bit of fun. I'm still in a relationship and that's not likely to change for the foreseeable future. If you are having doubts, perhaps we should just have coffee for the moment? Last thing I need is someone getting overly involved with me and rocking the boat.
Luna66star Posted June 27, 2021 Posted June 27, 2021 The classic tactic of MM is to day how unhappy they are at home. It happened to me. The relationship was starkly different than dating a single guy. First, they don't share much of substance about themselves. Only a bit in beginning. After they got you, it's all superficial. Second, most of the time he spent just doing things to manipulate me. Being the victim was common. Like things are bad at home, without going into much detail about it. Very vague majority of the time. For all I know it could have been made up and he's just bored at home. He always got me with sending cute emojis and of course my heart fluttered! That's all the investment he made. He kept me on a string with these low investment texts, seeing me every so often and getting me jealous by mentioning "female" friends out of the blue. It's just all a game to them. No genuine feelings on his part. It took a long time but I finally figured out I was being played. They are VERY good actors, being super nice, complimentary, helpful, and all around looking "perfect". My naivety took me down a dangerous path. Now I am more cautious and judicious. I stay FAR away from Mr. attached. I won't even entertain a friendship with them. 3
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