Guy who was seemingly emotionless is finally starting to show signs that he likes me after 3 months… is this normal?

[Throawaypam]

Hoping to gain some insight here, preferably some male perspective.

Prior to leaving on vacation to see his boys for Memorial Day weekend, the guy I’ve been talking to for the last 3 months texted me to say that he needed to get his last fill before leaving. We went back and forth for a couple of hours and I wished him well on the trip. He returned on Tuesday evening, but I didn’t wanna reach out in case he had the post vacation blues. 10 days passed and he finally texted me. We had a very great conversation and at the end he said, “I wanted to make sure we didn’t go out of touch because I do like talking to you a bunch. I have a tendency to be shitty with reaching out, but didn’t want to let that happen here.” Furthermore, he called me a gem and said he would keep the train moving somehow.

3 days pass and I text him to see how he’s doing. Not just that, but I let him know that he was on my mind. He responded by saying he thought his novelty would’ve worn out by now. Wished me a goodnight and said, “You know you’re in my mind, too.”

This morning, he finally asked me out. I’ve never had to deal with a man who took 3 months to figure out if he likes me. Did I make a good decision in holding out for him?

[Gaeta]

15 minutes ago, Throawaypam said:

 Did I make a good decision in holding out for him?

You will only know when you meet him and how he treats you after that. 

[divegrl]

I hope your date goes well! 
 

Definitely set strong standards for dating this man ( or any really)! How often you want to meet during the week. How often you communicate.

 

If this guy takes a long time to set up the 2nd/3rd date..... his interest level is low. But I hope that is not the case!

 

Wishing you the best!

[norealusername]

What were you talking about for 3 months? You shouldn't hold out that long for anybody. He should've asked you out within a week or two.