Does He Not Want Me??? Am I Blind or Something?? I Don't Get It!

[kgal]

Here are the signs I have been getting lately from my bf who is over 2,000 miles away.

 

- Less talkative, always makes an excuse to get out of conversation

- Starts arguments , threatens to end relationship if I bring up another guy flirting w/me.

- Doesn't say I love you, I say it first,, then he'll say it.

 

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! I AM DEVISTATED BY THESE SIGNS... I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING AGAINST HIM.. NOR DO I HATE HIM. IS HE OUT OF LOVE?

 

Someone help!!

[Jayhawks]

threatens to end relationship if I bring up another guy flirting w/me.

 

Why do you do this? Are you trying to get a rise out of him?

He may have found someone else or he wants to.

The only way to know is to ask him about his behavior.

[kgal]

I asked him if he had other women pursuing him, in which he replied, "Some, maybe more" He then asked, "Do you?" and I said there was someone who liked me at work. He then replied, "Well, if you're going to play games and not take this seriously, we're over." I told him how I was just being sarcastic and there was nobody else that I wanted but him. He told me he was just saying that and no other women were in the picture. So anyways,, it turned into this huge thing.. and he just blew me off. I called and was all upset and told him I was just joking around. He got mad at me.. but he said he had other women... so thats why I said that! Pretty childish, I know.. we did make up.. but I still wonder if he loves me or wants to give up on me.

[d'Arthez]

You know I have not been to optimistic about this LDR.

 

I have the impression that he does want you to end it, and his behavior is meant to make you do that.

[JS17]

Pretty childish, I know.. we did make up.. but I still wonder if he loves me or wants to give up on me.

 

Do you want to be with someone who is this childish?

I'm not sure why you're tolerating such behavior, I wouldn't.

 

And, as always, d'Arthez is right, he is trying to get you to end it. Many men would sooner run a relationship into the ground than have to tell the women that they're involved with that it's over.

 

Sorry kgal

[kgal]

He knows he can end it if he wants...he just hasn't. I'm not going to end it, cuz I don't want it to end. (Yes, that's what I said.. I know you're all shaking your heads) I just don't want to see our 1.5 yr relationship go down the toilet b'cuz of distance.

 

I guess I'll just back down...he'll either pick up the pace or he'll show his lack of interest. I think this is the last time I'm going to try this tactic.. if it fails.. I'm going to have to let it go, knowing I did EVERYTHING possible.