What are the chances I'm being played?

[Gaeta]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Mr quiet is going to be sad

Don't put your money on that yet. 

[Gaeta]

I have 2 prospects showing interest but we're Thursday and no one booked me for a weekend date.

If nothing changes by tonight, might be time to fish for prospect number 3.

[Gaeta]

2 minutes ago, S2B said:

So did he call last night?

did he ask how your daughter was doing?

did he show any concern or empathy for her and you/the situation at all?

He text last night around 22ish saying he felt really bad for what had happened to my daughter and hoping she was ok. He mentionned calling so I told him I was exhausted from my day (which was true, we went to 4 emergency clinics before finding one that could stitch her up) and I was heading to bed and if he could call tomorrow instead.

He text me around 11h today saying he was heading in a meeting and he'd call me in the pm. 

[Gaeta]

2 hours ago, S2B said:

sounds like a guy making little effort.

especially since he hasn’t planned a date for the weekend and asked you out!

I call this type “time wasters”

Yep, he said he'll call in the afternoon and we are 21h20 and not a peep out of him. 

On top of that when he text this morning to advise he'd call in the afternoon he started his text with: hello love...*rolling my eyes*

Quiet guy sounds better and better.

[travelbug1996]

His interest is minimal. Block and delete

[Gaeta]

Done, he's blocked everywhere.

 

[Wiseman2]

If you are multi dating that's great. That way you can see who fits and who doesn't.

Wait. Is hoody guy the player or quiet guy?

[balletomane]

On 6/8/2021 at 9:01 PM, Gaeta said:

That's interesting, something to keep in mind. 

As an autistic women who had to approach conventional social skills as though I were learning a second language, I feel both tired and disturbed by how ready many neurotypical women are to excuse creepy behaviour in man with "Maybe he's autistic." This is actually quite a hot topic in the autism community.

Autistic communication difficulties arise from over-precise, over-literal thinking, trouble reading faces/body language, and issues understanding tone of voice (meaning sarcasm can be hard to notice). General rudeness/creepiness isn't an autistic trait.

He told you he was testing you on your intelligence, which implies that he's intellectually your superior (how else could he administer a test?) and you took it as a compliment because you're tired of men who sexualise you. That's a really low bar to cross. It's not complimentary, it's arrogant. If you wanted to sign up for Mensa or go on Mastermind, you would have. You didn't sign up to be quizzed and judges by a date.

"As far as I'm concerned, you're already mine" set off massive alarm bells too. I think there is a real possibility that you're still hurt by what your ex did and are in danger of accepting bad behaviour providing it's not cheating behaviour.

[Gaeta]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

Wait. Is hoody guy the player or quiet guy?

Hoodie guy blocked 

The player blocked

Quiet guy still on

They are 3 different men

[Gaeta]

35 minutes ago, balletomane said:

As far as I'm concerned, you're already mine" set off massive alarm bells too. I think there is a real possibility that you're still hurt by what your ex did and are in danger of accepting bad behaviour providing it's not cheating behaviour.

Thank you for sharing what autism is not.

I'm not doing bad for someone just back on the dating scene. I met him once 5 days ago and he's already blocked. I wouldn't call that 'accepting bad behavior', actually l dumped  him pretty quickly. 

[norealusername]

I thought you were talking about quiet guy yesterday, that was the player.

[Gaeta]

31 minutes ago, norealusername said:

I thought you were talking about quiet guy yesterday, that was the player.

No sorry, there is no red flags to Quiet guy. We met twice. I did not eleborate on Quiet Guy, just said he's as normal as you can get.