Need your thoughts on understanding this situation better. Not sure if it's rebound or not

[hoppe]

It's been a lil over a month after the break up , we were in a long and committed relationship for almost 4.5 years . Had ups and downs .  She broke up with me saying that shes tired and won't be  taking my s*** any more .

 

Out of this 4.5 years , we were living together for 3 years . So the reason she gave me I'm sure it isn't it , it can be wanting to be single and independent etc etc . 

Before she dated me she had this relationship with a guy for a year. Always told me it wasn't serious and I believed it , she's one of those avoident type. So after the break 40 days  I noticed she followed him on instagram. where as I've been blocked since the break up had minimal contact .

1.Am I the  rebound in thsi condition ?

2.What do you think about her following him?

3. Did she leave me for her old ex ?

[Wiseman2]

46 minutes ago, hoppe said:

we were in a long and committed relationship for almost 4.5 years . She broke up with me saying that shes tired and won't be  taking my s*** any more .

Unfortunately it sounds like living together wasn't working as well as the relationship as a whole. Did she move out?

Has nothing to do with "rebound" after 4.5 Years of "ups and downs". That in itself is reason to end it. 

Delete and block her And All her people from all your social media and messaging apps.

Move forward in peace by not checking her social media.

You know the reasons it ended and it was the stagnant conflicted relationship.

[hoppe]

12 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Unfortunately it sounds like living together wasn't working as well as the relationship as a whole. Did she move out?

Has nothing to do with "rebound" after 4.5 Years of "ups and downs". That in itself is reason to end it. 

Delete and block her And All her people from all your social media and messaging apps.i

Move forward in peace by not checking her social media.

You know the reasons it ended and it was the stagnant conflicted relationship.

what do you mean by stagnant conflicted ?? like fights ? conflicts ? yup nothing too severe .I gotta move forward. yea number also deleted . 

No no tbh it was working out but we were in a different state persuing our education. And I had come back to my hometown and same for her . 

Yea I don't believev that  it's over , she couldn't take it , so I guess she has space rite now . To think about  everything . and I'm fixing my issues too. 

see the first ex they broke up after that she  commited to me was that commitment " rebound" relation ship ?

My questions still unanswerd 

2. what do you think about the follow part 

3.did she leave me for him those question

 

please don't come at me like ", that's non of your concern" . 

I want your openions  

 

 

 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, hoppe said:

She broke up with me saying that shes tired and won't be  taking my s*** any more

What is she referring to here?

I don't think you were a rebound. I think she's simply looking up an old flame in the aftermath of a break-up. A lot of people do this, even if it's not always the best idea. It is impossible for any of us to tell you if she left you for him. We have no clue. 

Edited June 8, 2021 by ExpatInItaly

[Lotsgoingon]

You were not the rebound. Rebounds don't last 4.5 years.

The guy on Instagram is the rebound. That won't last, assuming she's involved. 

Move on. BTW: I will note that your description shows absolutely zero insight about what broke you guys up. Zero. 

Get clear on why you broke up (and yes we can get clear even when we're at fault) ... and then you're on the path towards success in the future---with someone else.