Lola Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 The picture is the worse idea. It would show him you are ready for him even if he ignores you for 12 hours and make excuses to avoid to see you. Men hate that, easy girls (at least not for a long term relation). Move on Pretty, I’m sure you are worthy and you deserve somebody who appreciate you 2 2
Wiseman2 Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, poppyfields said: Sending a pic (I presume a "hot" pic) is validation-seeking, that's actually worse than chasing! Agree. It's trying to stay on the radar, hinting around and yes, comes across as desperate. Maybe it's time to read between the lines. "I had a great chill weekend" (without a thought of you) Edited June 7, 2021 by Wiseman2 2 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 Do not send him any picutres. It's a very transparent cry for attention. Not cute. 2
Author Wenyyyy Posted June 7, 2021 Author Posted June 7, 2021 Yeah I have stopped replying him, I should remind myself that there’s no hopes on this now and that he has obviously found someone eventhough I will never know the truth. 1
chillii Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 5 hours ago, divegrl said: I don’t think opening a message..... tapping on a picture.... and pressing send, qualifies as “chasing” someone. It takes all of 2 seconds. I respect your perspective... we all see the world through a different lens. Sorry but that pic would come across sooooo desperate to him.
Gaeta Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 Wenyyy, the whys are not important. It doesn't change the fact he's not into it anymore. We date to find the right partner and he probably found someone he felt a stronger connection with. You've done nothing wrong, in fact he liked you quite a bit because he saw you 4 times. I don't know a man that will see a woman 4 times if he finds her annoying or unattractive. It's time to move on, the right guy is just around the corner. 6 1
introverted1 Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 26 minutes ago, Wenyyyy said: Yeah I have stopped replying him, I should remind myself that there’s no hopes on this now and that he has obviously found someone eventhough I will never know the truth. I am not sure why you are so fixated on whether he has found someone else. What should matter to you is whether he is giving you what you need and, if he isn't, that you have the confidence to move forward without him. All this stalking, wondering, questioning, analysing, etc., after only 4 dates is not healthy. You are wasting time/energy trying to second-guess his motives. Use that time to become clear on what you want from a man you date and building the strength to leave if you are not getting what you need. 5 1
smackie9 Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 Whatever the reason shouldn’t matter. The fact is he’s changed. He Stopped texting, didn’t set up another date, hasn’t replied to your message. I think that is enough there to assume he’s no longer interested. All you are doing is making yourself feel bad wondering why. Best to let it go and move on. If he reaches out fine, but don’t knock yourself out over it. He is not worth it. Your time is more valuable and better spent looking for someone else. 1
stillafool Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 I too agree that whether he has another girl or not is irrelevant at this point. The fact is he doesn't want to move forward OP and it's good he didn't waste any more or your time so you can move on. 1
Author Wenyyyy Posted June 7, 2021 Author Posted June 7, 2021 3 hours ago, introverted1 said: I am not sure why you are so fixated on whether he has found someone else. What should matter to you is whether he is giving you what you need and, if he isn't, that you have the confidence to move forward without him. All this stalking, wondering, questioning, analysing, etc., after only 4 dates is not healthy. You are wasting time/energy trying to second-guess his motives. Use that time to become clear on what you want from a man you date and building the strength to leave if you are not getting what you need. Yeah Actually it helps me to move on easily and got a clear reason to but Yeah I shouldn’t just depends on this I wish him luck and I should take time to focus on myself 1
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