pepperbird2 Posted June 18, 2021 Posted June 18, 2021 On 6/16/2021 at 5:41 AM, vdsry said: I hate to say this but you are right… i dont know what’s happening. I am worthless I feel stupid and worthless. you're not stupid or worthless. You're someone who made some bad choices, but that doesn't give him the right to treat you this way. Am I right that you "outed" the affair to his wife? I can just picture the aftermath...him crying and begging her to stay and give him another chance all while blaming this all on you. he does that, and then turns around, meets up with you and sleeps with you, then goes back to his wife? this guy's a true jackass, but you didn't make him that way. That's just who he is. 2
torn_heart Posted June 18, 2021 Posted June 18, 2021 5 hours ago, elaine567 said: With respect, you are not in the same boat, You are a MM who is messing with the lives of two women, as you are too scared to make the decision to dump at least one of them for good. You have more in common with her MM, than you have with the OP... I'm dealing with the breakup with my OW, dealing with anxiety, going to therapy, and with one week of NC, which if I break I might lapse again.
Author vdsry Posted June 18, 2021 Author Posted June 18, 2021 Hi guys, I survived the day. right now, I am on the way to the beach with my bestfriend. i’ll be going back on sunday.. 7
Starswillshine Posted June 18, 2021 Posted June 18, 2021 56 minutes ago, vdsry said: Hi guys, I survived the day. right now, I am on the way to the beach with my bestfriend. i’ll be going back on sunday.. Enjoy it! And do NOT contact him. Just try to be in the moment. And when you think of him, think of something negative associated with being with him. 3
Author vdsry Posted June 18, 2021 Author Posted June 18, 2021 15 minutes ago, Starswillshine said: Enjoy it! And do NOT contact him. Just try to be in the moment. And when you think of him, think of something negative associated with being with him. I definitely wont contact him!! Thank you guys!!! and Happy father’s day to your dads! 3
pepperbird2 Posted June 19, 2021 Posted June 19, 2021 19 hours ago, vdsry said: Hi guys, I survived the day. right now, I am on the way to the beach with my bestfriend. i’ll be going back on sunday.. Have a great time I am glad you're able to take some time away to just have fun.
Author vdsry Posted June 20, 2021 Author Posted June 20, 2021 Hello guys, do you think i should greet him a Happy Father’s Day? Lol
ExpatInItaly Posted June 20, 2021 Posted June 20, 2021 31 minutes ago, vdsry said: do you think i should greet him a Happy Father’s Day? Lol Are you serious?
Aether Posted June 20, 2021 Posted June 20, 2021 30 minutes ago, vdsry said: Hello guys, do you think i should greet him a Happy Father’s Day? Lol I think you already know that would be an absolutely not, you should have blocked and removed him, if you haven't do it now!
Wiseman2 Posted June 20, 2021 Posted June 20, 2021 41 minutes ago, vdsry said: Hello guys, do you think i should greet him a Happy Father’s Day? Lol Is he the father of your kids? If not,then no. It's time to let go and leave him and his family/fiancee in peace. Use this time to go through your devices, social media and messaging apps. Delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Also spend time with your own family and friends. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting single available men who share your goals. 1
HadMeOverABarrel Posted June 20, 2021 Posted June 20, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, vdsry said: Hello guys, do you think i should greet him a Happy Father’s Day? Lol No contact means... NO CONTACT! Go back and read through your thread. Surely you must have the strength to go longer than just one day of no contact, right? Why don't you read your post where you wrote how you broke no contact, he used you again, discarded you again, and then you discussed how worthless you felt? Is that what you're going for? Itching to feel that sense of worthlessness again? That's all you'll get if you contact him for ANY reason. Pull yourself together please. Joking about contacting him is not funny. Not funny for you. Not funny for those of us who are trying to help you get out of the very bad place you've been in with this guy. Edited June 20, 2021 by HadMeOverABarrel Why>with (typo)
Author vdsry Posted June 20, 2021 Author Posted June 20, 2021 (edited) Good morning - UPDATE I haven’t contacted since friday. Apologies if you think that I am still thinking of contacting him. That’s just my emotional thinking speaking. Anyway, I had fun in the beach! You guys are right, when I thought of all the things he did to me, I allowed it. If he tries to hoover me back, I might consider him as one of the persons I have encountered with the thickest faces thinking they can get anything in the world. Thanks again and more power! Edited June 20, 2021 by vdsry 3
vla1120 Posted June 21, 2021 Posted June 21, 2021 17 hours ago, vdsry said: Good morning - UPDATE I haven’t contacted since friday. Apologies if you think that I am still thinking of contacting him. That’s just my emotional thinking speaking. Anyway, I had fun in the beach! You guys are right, when I thought of all the things he did to me, I allowed it. If he tries to hoover me back, I might consider him as one of the persons I have encountered with the thickest faces thinking they can get anything in the world. Thanks again and more power! Good news! I'm glad you made it through and maintained NO CONTACT (I was worried when I saw you ask whether you should wish him Happy Father's Day.) Now that you have a point of reference (how much fun you had at the beach), any time you start to question yourself, just remember how much FUN you had at the beach and it did not involve him at all whatsoever!! One day at a time! STAY STRONG!! 1
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