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Someone you love Versus Someone you *want* to love?


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Which is a better reason to marry someone?

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Someone you love.
Someone you want to love will not sustain you through all the ups and downs of life.

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Relationships are hard so you need love to sustain it.

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2 hours ago, luiscasabuena said:

Which is a better reason to marry someone?

The doctor if you want a sugar mama or someone who wears the clothes you like if passion/sexuality are more important.

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I happen to think love is built on complementary/mutual interests and respect.  It develops over time, but has to be based on those things.

Sexual attraction is something that's often intermixed with love but is separate ultimately.  You can have love without sexual attraction and vice versa.

True love is more scarce than people realize though.  People overlook how important respect is as a component of love.  In my own family and many other families I could see marriages that devolve because one person gradually loses respect for the other. 

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Wanting to love someone is meaningless. 

You don't bet the house on "wanting" to like someone. You need a lot stronger desire to be with them RIGHT NOW and for the long term. Relationships are so hard. Going into one without even real love for the person ... absolute disaster. And yes, I've tried, but dating people I liked but wasn't really into. Doesn't work. 

And over time, your partner can actually notice that you don't love them. It comes through in body language. 

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I agree with lots going on.   Wanting to love someone means nothing. 

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You know it's not going to work out with that girl, luiscasablena. 😥

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