notyouraveragebabe Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 So let me start by saying I never date anyone at work. I work at this job per diem (2 days a week). In January he was was hired to work and we never cross path or worked the same shift. He is a new grad that graduated from physician assistance school and i been working for the company for 2 years. People at work would tell him hey there's a hot Nurse practitioner that works here, you might like her. So EVERYONE would tell him about me. They showed him my pics and IG, so he followed me on IG. For 2 months watched all my stories, but never messaged me. He wanted to meet me and always asked about me at work, but i worked at my other job and didn't really run into him. One day I was working and an MD called sick so I was left to see all his patients and was behind at work. He worked at a different clinic a mile away and heard about it, so he offered to help me after his shift (not paid for) wasn't approved by management to help clean up the patient load. So I met him and thanked him for coming to help. The next day he told everyone at work how smitten he was about me, and he messaged me on IG. We chatted a lot for a week and he went out his way to see me. He bought tickets to the dodgers game all weekend and asked if I wanted to go with him. I said I would have to check my schedule. So we went on a date and had a great time, we laughed a lot and he kissed me good night. We talked that weekend and he asked if I wanted to go to the Dodgers game, but I couldn't go. So then we just chatted and a couple of calls after that. A few days later, I asked him if he wanted to meet for dinner after work. He agreed then cancelled saying he didn't want to drive an hour in traffic. After that I didn't really hear from him. He never really called/text/followed up on anything. So I'm confused, a guy that was head over heels for me all of a sudden just not giving me any attention its been 2 days since, so I might be over analyzing too soon. But for someone chasing me for a while all of sudden not follow up on a date.. Im confused. I know he works a lot. He is working 130 hours per week, I see his schedule- we have the same job. But still a simple call or text would be nice. anyways done with this rant? ladies and gentlemen what do you think?
Ami1uwant Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 My thoughts..... he might have been on the fence on even asking you on a date at first. Employers have dating rules. maybe there was something in your behaviorthat sent a message of not interested thus he doesn’t want to get into a sex harassment case. 1
Author notyouraveragebabe Posted June 5, 2021 Author Posted June 5, 2021 8 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: My thoughts..... he might have been on the fence on even asking you on a date at first. Employers have dating rules. maybe there was something in your behaviorthat sent a message of not interested thus he doesn’t want to get into a sex harassment case. I thought I gave him vibes i wasn't too interested- on the date he tried to kiss me and hold my hands a few times and I dodged it. At the end of the date I gave hi a small kiss and he tried again and I walked away. Then I cancelled the Dodgers game on him. I made it up by asking him to dinner, but he cancelled on me and never heard from him.
Ami1uwant Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 2 minutes ago, notyouraveragebabe said: Invisible ink? 1
Author notyouraveragebabe Posted June 5, 2021 Author Posted June 5, 2021 1 minute ago, Ami1uwant said: Invisible ink? opps. scroll up. I replied to that
Ami1uwant Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 2 minutes ago, notyouraveragebabe said: opps. scroll up. I replied to that You dodged his kiss and cancelled going to a game. ball is in your court. You need to do the work her because he isn’t...you turned him down.
Author notyouraveragebabe Posted June 5, 2021 Author Posted June 5, 2021 Just now, Ami1uwant said: You dodged his kiss and cancelled going to a game. ball is in your court. You need to do the work her because he isn’t...you turned him down. I think I threw the ball back into his court. I asked him out on a dinner date and he cancelled. Never called me, text me nothing. I reached out again today and replied to a story, but he was very minimal with his replies. 1
Ami1uwant Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 25 minutes ago, notyouraveragebabe said: I think I threw the ball back into his court. I asked him out on a dinner date and he cancelled. Never called me, text me nothing. I reached out again today and replied to a story, but he was very minimal with his replies. The issue is you rejecting his kiss. how does he know you asking about going to dinner is a date vs a work meeting? Or you going to talk to him on just be friends. you need to do something bigger here. Fight for it. 25 minutes ago, notyouraveragebabe said: I think I threw the ball back into his court. I asked him out on a dinner date and he cancelled. Never called me, text me nothing. I reached out again today and replied to a story, but he was very minimal with his replies. 1
Author notyouraveragebabe Posted June 5, 2021 Author Posted June 5, 2021 3 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: The issue is you rejecting his kiss. how does he know you asking about going to dinner is a date vs a work meeting? Or you going to talk to him on just be friends. you need to do something bigger here. Fight for it. I did kiss him after the date at the very end. He tried to go for a second kiss after the first but I walked to my car.
Sun Seeker Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 Sounds like he is interested in someone else. He was so quick to be head over heels for you, he could easily do the same with someone else. Only time I ever turned down someone I'm interested in is because I got a better offer elsewhere. 1
Wiseman2 Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 Sounds like he likes you, but is meh after the date because there's not much in common. Maybe he'll be back after baseball season. One and done dates happened all the time. Especially when you want dinners he wants baseball and your dating styles seem too diverse. 1
introverted1 Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 (edited) I think it's weird/OTT that the whole office seems to know about yours and his interest in each other, and is actively championing a relationship. Anyway, the most logical answer is the one right in front of you: He's not interested enough to want to deal with a long commute to be able to date you. He may have other closer prospects. Since he doesn't actually know you, any statement by co-workers that he was "head over heels" was likely either exaggerated or based on looks only, which can change once you've spent time together. Edited June 5, 2021 by introverted1
ShyViolet Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 This is really quite simple. He was interested, now he's not. Actions speak louder than words. He's didn't like you enough to drive an hour to see you, he's not reaching out to you now... he's just not interested anymore. Feelings change all the time. For whatever reason he's lost interest. It might have nothing to do with you, maybe he something else going on in his life. 1
stillafool Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 11 hours ago, notyouraveragebabe said: But for someone chasing me for a while all of sudden not follow up on a date.. Im confused. I know he works a lot. I don't think following your stories on IG was necessarily chasing you but curiosity. I just think for whatever reason he lost interest. Maybe he is involved with someone else. I see you live in L.A. so that is very likely.
dramafreezone Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 (edited) So you live an hour apart? That's difficult when beginning a new relationship. Edited June 5, 2021 by dramafreezone
Starswillshine Posted June 5, 2021 Posted June 5, 2021 7 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: So you live an hour apart? That's difficult when beginning a new relationship. Especially if one is working 130 hrs/weeks. How does one have time to sleep much less waste in the car for an hour.
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