jomaxfury Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Hello Guys, My birthday is in two days. I have not talked with the ex since the break up. which was 2 1/2 months ago. To tell you the truth she is not going to call thats because she is as stubborn as they come and she is having the time of her life with her new partner. Just in case if I received a pitty birthday call or anything what should I do. I mean I am feeling good right,but I just want to be prepared for if she call and also if she doesn't. If she doesn't call I believe it will help me get over her quicker, I think it would be the best for me not to hear anything form her. Her birthday is a week later after my. What advice do you give me. Thanks guys.
Art_Critic Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 West is right.. Nothing to prepare for if you don't answer the phone.. Why worry about it ?? you want to answer it don't you ??
Free At Last Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 But by not answering you are giving her control of the situation in another way.... Are you going to screen your calls from your family and friends because of a phone call that as you said, she probably won't make anyway? If she does call, it might provide affirmation to your hidden hopes that she still cares about you and perhaps would want you back. Which would be wrong, because she is with another man instead of being there beside you now. I think it would be normal for her to still care about you at some level, but it is easy to want to take that as meaning you should hold out for her, hold on to those feelings, not let go. The reality is the opposite. In order to be in a place that you can do anything with her in the future, it sounds like you need to move further away from her for some time right now. The fact that this is an issue for you shows this. So why not turn this situation into an opportunity? How far can you move yourself from her in this situation? Do something that is outside your normal boundries for your birthday, perhaps. Make sure that you fully immerse yourself in the love of friends or family that you are spending it with. Take special care in making plans that will allow you to be proud of your actions. In short, have the best, most crazy birthday ever. This will help put her phone call, or lack thereof into perspective. Good luck!
LexiB Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 The reality is the opposite. In order to be in a place that you can do anything with her in the future, it sounds like you need to move further away from her for some time right now. The fact that this is an issue for you shows this.Good luck! Agreed. You need to get over her--especially since you know she's moved on. Your best course of action IF she does call you, is to let it go to VM--listen to it once if neccessary, then DELETE. But honestly after 2 months and a new BF, you most likely won't hear anything from her. But who cares? You'll be too busy partying:cool:
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