Potential at Home Depot

[Dis]

On 6/5/2021 at 8:27 AM, Calmandfocused said:

 

Have you moved back into your cottage yet? 

Yes I'm I've been back since early May

 

Sorry I didn't respond sooner but an  avalanche of sh*t has gone down...

 

Car broke down

Got covered in poison ivy

Mom got diagnosed with stage III ovarian cancer

Made a med error at work (which isn't uncommon but because I'm charge nurse and never make them it really hit hard)

Car broke down again

Cat is sick (vets tomorrow)

And tonight I saw what looked to be a roach on my front door BUT I get tons of bugs out here in the country and so not sure it was 

 

 

So yeah....things have just been wonderful as of late 

Edited June 8, 2021 by Dis

[Dis]

On 6/5/2021 at 12:28 PM, Ami1uwant said:

 

actually too long hair like that turns me off.  I like some length. Too long is high maintenance.  She might be too

 

Well, I am  aka...high maintenance

[Dis]

On 6/5/2021 at 1:00 PM, princessaurora said:

Not really alot more. I used to have hair that long and it was basically wash, mousse, and go. 

Yup not too long at all

 

The curling wand is quick too

[Dis]

On 6/5/2021 at 8:33 PM, lana-banana said:

 

The thing is about in-person meetings is you are rolling the dice and hoping you get along. For all the (deserved) s*** on online dating, you at least know what people's dealbreakers and pet peeves are. I met a guy in the "real world" that I was supposed to work with and accomplish a goal. Later we got married but sometimes I wonder: would we have clicked offline? Certainly not on online platforms. Stay open and authentic. I know I was so focused on work (and a traumatzing breakup) that I didn't realize we were in love until months later. Be true to yourself and see what happens.

THIS is so true though

 

With OLD at least you can vet them. You know up front if they have kids, what they do for a living, common interests. 

 

When you meet in person you know nothing except what they look like...that's it

 

I think that's why it might be more difficult to make an in person match work vs OLD...BUT OLD is a crap shoot too 

 

But yeah meets in person are so much more authentic. You attract what you put out. Flows easier. Convos are easier. 

Edited June 8, 2021 by Dis

[chillii]

You can tell and feel so much about a person in seconds though in RL . But at the same time too yeah l agree and think OLD does really have advantages in many ways too though . And yeah there's all the basic stuff you see right there if they've filled it in, but also one very biggie for me l found to back in the day were personality traits too. You'd find someone and all sounded great but then boom , while your reading through what they actually have to say and talked about you saw personality traits or an attitude that just turned you off like a switch. Things that could take ages to show up in RL. So it def' has it's advantages .

[Alpacalia]

I'm sorry to hear about your hardship.

So, Home Depot?

I met someone in the same bowling league once, so we had something in common there. He told me he liked a sports team jacket I was wearing and the rest followed.

A DIY project sounds fun and could be beneficial. Of course, when you're in better spirits.

Maybe refurbish a cute piece of furniture or a lamp makeover.

[Dull Hargraves]

On 6/5/2021 at 6:33 PM, lana-banana said:

Sometimes women just need things! We bought a 110+-year-old house and I got men "offering advice" every time I bought flashing and related supplies. Dude, I don't need you; I just want to prevent water damage.

The thing is about in-person meetings is you are rolling the dice and hoping you get along. For all the (deserved) s*** on online dating, you at least know what people's dealbreakers and pet peeves are. I met a guy in the "real world" that I was supposed to work with and accomplish a goal. Later we got married but sometimes I wonder: would we have clicked offline? Certainly not on online platforms. Stay open and authentic. I know I was so focused on work (and a traumatzing breakup) that I didn't realize we were in love until months later. Be true to yourself and see what happens.

  Very much agree.  Most people seem very down on OLD.  I try to look at it as just another option.  Right now it’s really my only option- I’m in a new city, don’t know anybody and of course Covid has greatly limited social activity.   Take match.com for instance- if you had told me in the 90s that there would be a website where you can do a search and find 1000 women who live close by and who are looking for a relationship, it would have been a resounding ‘hell yes!!’  Actually it’s good I didn’t have this in the 90s.  I tend to think a lot of people have the attitude of ‘I’m too cool to be doing this OLD thing’.  

[Wiseman2]

20 minutes ago, Dull Hargraves said:

Take match.com for instance- if you had told me in the 90s that there would be a website where you can do a search and find 1000 women who live close by and who are looking for a relationship, it would have been a resounding ‘hell yes!!’ 

Interesting. In 1960, a class project at Stanford used a questionnaire and an IBM 650 to match 49 men and 49 women. Full circle?

[Dis]

so due to tough times I've been reaching out to my ex

 

I've never done this before. But he is so d*mn comforting and so nice to talk to. I've never had an ex who was like that before so never reached out to them before. 

 

We've been facetiming. We see each other sometimes at work too. He just talks me down like no other. Can't explain it. I told him tonight, is it weird that I'm talking to you? Are you over it? He said well I've been having dreams about you and that you're talking to other guys and it keep me up at night. We also have kind of sexual talks but just briefly. Our sex like was amazing so I guess we still want it. Idk. I just feel like things have been falling apart and I need a sense of normalcy. I need comfort and he's so good at that and from the sounds of it he still needs me too. 

 

I don't want to delve into this too much because I know this is backtracking but it's so nice to talk to him and to see his face and hear his voice. Try having all these things go wrong and not want someone to comfort you. I just feel like I need to do this to get through this. I feel like there's no other way around this. I just need to do it. That's not self destruction talking, it's some kind of journey I need to take. 

 

Do people who really love someone really get over them all  on their own or do they meet someone else who measures up and THEN get over them. We had no issues with each other. Our love wasn't a problem. Yes it's PC to take time to get over your ex before you find someone else but I don't think that's reality for every scenario. 

[Interstellar]

online dating casts are a wider net, it’s more efficient and filters out the people you’re not going for. but i look at it as more of a backup. one of the great things about real life is there’s no pressure to search for a great photographer. 

btw, sorry to hear about your mom Dis, i have a parent who went through cancer I know what it’s like. 

[Dis]

2 hours ago, Interstellar said:

 

btw, sorry to hear about your mom Dis, i have a parent who went through cancer I know what it’s like. 

Thanks. She is a Yale educated APRN and going to one of the best hospitals in the country. They surgically removed all visible cancer and she's starting chemo next week. She's a strong woman. I think she'll be okay. But...things are just a mess

 

Ever heard of wood roaches? Well apparently they are exclusive to wooded areas and are really like any other bug that makes it's way in to your home. They're not likely to cause an infestation unlike other roaches. If you have a wood pile against your house you are bound to have them. My Dad said he had a few in his very nice beach house because of a wood pile. Well anyway I saw one last night and again tonight. I found them on the side of the house that's up against the wood pile. So my landlord is having the outside of the house sprayed and I'm treating the inside, just in case. But anyway it is racking me to my core. I am so anxious. They're big too! Like two inches! Yuckkkkk! 

 

I lived in an urban area years back and my neighbor brought the bad kind of roaches in. I was so distraught by it and promptly moved out. So this is kind of reminding me of that time and really freaking me out. I feel uncomfortable in my home which I've fought so hard to get back into even though I know that factually this isn't a big deal. PTSD I guess. 

 

Just a lot of things going on.....

[Gaeta]

On 6/8/2021 at 12:00 AM, Dis said:

Car broke down

Got covered in poison ivy

Mom got diagnosed with stage III ovarian cancer

Made a med error at work

Cat is sick (vets tomorrow)

So sorry to read this Dis

I'm glad your mom couldn't be in better hands. 

Hope kitty is ok!

 

[smackie9]

Sounds like it's time for a big pitcher of sangria.

[SumGuy]

On 6/5/2021 at 8:16 PM, enigma32 said:

Now I definitely feel attacked!  I used to play a lot of D&D back in the day. That sort of thing held me back more when I was younger than it does now. Older ladies seem to despise nerdy hobbies and more younger ladies are into them. 

Your dating the wrong older ladies then    Geekdom is not limited to men, never was...the antisocial geek who couldn't get a girl or lift 50 lbs just a prejudicial stereotype perpetuated by confirmation bias, guys like Joe Manganiello were always ignored as the rare, rare exception (except they were not)...maybe to keep nerds in their "place"...alas nerds "won"...the very device you are using to post on LS, the infrastructure that supports it, all of it brought to you by geeks and nerds.    

[introverted1]

22 minutes ago, SumGuy said:

 geeks and nerds.    

These are the best guys!

[Els]

3 hours ago, SumGuy said:

Geekdom is not limited to men, never was...

Indeed, I always get a bit miffed whenever I talk on Discord during a raid and people go "grill!?!?1111" Lots of women are geeks and play games, we just don't always reveal our gender because teenage dudes (which, lets face it, still form the majority of the demographic) can really be asshats about it. I know quite a few female gamers who just don't talk in voice with pugs (pick-up groups) because they don't want people knowing.

Edited June 10, 2021 by Elswyth

[Angelle]

2 hours ago, enigma32 said:

Just been my experience. I grew up playing D&D back in the 80's-90's with friends and I was the only athletic guy in the bunch. We had a D&D group in my high school and they were all the short, nerdy, never had a GF type boys that played. A lot of us even knew better than to admit we played that stuff because it would get you laughed at by the normies. To be fair, you almost had to be a nerdy kid to understand the rules to D&D back then since the game was vastly more complex than the modern version is today.

I played D&D with a neighbour, played computer games, etc. I don't remember it being a boy versus girl thing, or a "normie" thing. Maybe because I grew up in a different country.

[Angelle]

12 hours ago, Elswyth said:

Indeed, I always get a bit miffed whenever I talk on Discord during a raid and people go "grill!?!?1111" Lots of women are geeks and play games, we just don't always reveal our gender because teenage dudes (which, lets face it, still form the majority of the demographic) can really be asshats about it. I know quite a few female gamers who just don't talk in voice with pugs (pick-up groups) because they don't want people knowing.

I don't talk in discord, but I have made the mistake of talking in video games, when queueing up with strangers. Some are nice, one kid was amazed that he was in a game with a girl, and told me that he would get us a win - so cute! When he added me, I told him that I was a grown-up like his mum, because I feel weird when kids add me to their friend's lists on there. Then you get the guys who have to insult a woman, or ask inappropriate questions. 

[Els]

39 minutes ago, Angelle said:

I don't talk in discord, but I have made the mistake of talking in video games, when queueing up with strangers. Some are nice, one kid was amazed that he was in a game with a girl, and told me that he would get us a win - so cute! When he added me, I told him that I was a grown-up like his mum, because I feel weird when kids add me to their friend's lists on there. Then you get the guys who have to insult a woman, or ask inappropriate questions. 

Oh, def, some are nice. I've made lifelong friends in some of those games. A friend of mine met her H through WoW voice chat. And I met H at a LAN party, after all.

But not knowing what you're gonna get - a cordial response? someone spamming you with whispers asking personal questions? people insulting you? - some days I just don't feel it's worth playing the roulette.

[Wiseman2]

Yes. It's a good idea to become a regular in your local stores, places etc.

It's conducive to saying hi, chitchatting, etc.

It's more rewarding in itself but also opens the door to talking with locals.

A lot better than meeting catfish online.

 

[Dis]

Made another trip to Home Depot today for a charger for my electric screwdriver...but...mainly just because I wanted to go 

 

Idk why but it was dead. Not busy at all. Ran into two guys and they were cute. One kept smiling at me and I smiled back. The other one passed ways with me a few times, he asked how are you in passing but I think he was shy so he kept going lol

 

It's nice though developing those flirt skills. I used to be really shy and not able to make much eye contact when a guy looked at me. Now I look right at him with a little smile. 

 

Tomorrow I need to get some plants so I'm going to go back but during busy hours

 

I'm sorry but this is fun...   I'm much more open to in person meetings now too. I feel like when you get older you become more relaxed and things flow more easily. I've become bolder and the energy I put out now is more conducive to meeting someone IRL. 

[poppyfields]

Keep smiling Dis, that's all you need to do.  Give him a window, if there is interest and he's available, it will inspire him to approach.

Yeah, as we get a little older, 30+, we become more comfortable in our own skin, less defensive and more approachable, good job!!

I haven't read your new thread yet about your ex, but will later, and will respond..  

Life is good!

Edited June 13, 2021 by poppyfields

[Wiseman2]

Ok so women hanging around Home Depot is ok for meeting guys . Where should men hang out to meet women? Cooking stores?

[Dis]

Was to supposed to go out with my girlfriends today but we all had to cancel and I did too because I'm dropping 1.5k on my cat tomorrow at the vet. Urgent tooth extraction. Smh. She's lucky she looks like the cutest little black bear cub with the cutest little snaggle tooth...and that tooth is going to bankrupt me lol 

 

So I ending up dropping by HD today and went at a busier time. I was going to buy some decorative lights for my new place anyway. No cute guys though. None. And didn't even get the lights because I decided I didn't want to spend any more money than I have to. Just one dude in the parking lot with his friend saying, "now that's an ass". He thought he I didn't hear him...I did 

 

So I was thinking, the chances of meeting someone IRL aren't really that high....when you think about it. So if someone makes an effort to go out to a promising spot pretty frequently it probably increases those chances quite a bit. I just feel like chance meetings are so rare. 

 

I also don't want to go all the time either because I feel like that could work against me somehow 

Edited June 13, 2021 by Dis

[Alpacalia]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

Cooking stores?

Costco, toilet paper aisle.