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Ladies if you was on a dating app, what would make you swipe right on a guy 55 miles away?

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IntBrowser Established Member

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Im flattered she matched with me and was a little surprised because its rare when she would have so many options locally.     Would any lady on here swipe right on someone that is not local?   

Pumpernickel Established Member

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Yes, if I did OLD, I’d not be put off by 55 miles. It’s not that far

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13 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said:

Yes, if I did OLD, I’d not be put off by 55 miles. It’s not that far

IF you have a car...the OP has no car...

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20 minutes ago, elaine567 said:

IF you have a car...the OP has no car...

I have two working legs and a Uber credit card and train station LOL

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A swipe right doesn't really mean all that much, don't read too much into it.  She may not have even noticed your distance.

Focus more on what you want and not always what she wants.  Do you really want to date someone that's 55 miles away?

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1 hour ago, elaine567 said:

IF you have a car...the OP has no car...

Oh - I missed that one 😬

Gaeta Established Member

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That's 88KM. 

No, I would not swipe right on a man living 88km away, no matter what.

My maximum is 30 miles. 

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ShyViolet Established Member

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I would never consider someone who is 55 miles away.  What a complete waste of time.  Why start something up that is going to require you put in hours and hours of traveling?  Makes no sense.  Date locally.

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To be honest, it may not mean anything that she swiped you right. When I was single and on the dating sites, I used to swipe right guys I found attractive.  I wasn't even aware if they were local or not. I usually did swiping when I was completely bored. Just a way to pass some time.  It meant absolutely nothing. Would be surprised how many messages I received from guys saying that they don't think that we were compatible or that we lived too far away from each other. 99% of time I wasn't even aware of who they were or what they were talking about. What I am trying to say, don't put too much significance over this. No point trying to analyze what it means for her or how on earth you would be able to actually meet. 

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Donnas Established Member

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Could be just she likes whats she see.lol

And will think about 55 miles later on.😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

 

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Back when I used Tinder I changed my maximum from 50km to 100km at one point because I kept seeing the same guys over and over again and often got the „There are no more people in your area“ message. But... I have a car and don‘t mind driving. And I used to have a 50km commute for 15 years. If I was willing to spend a lot of time in the car for work, I‘d definitely do it for love 🥰

 

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2 hours ago, dramafreezone said:

A swipe right doesn't really mean all that much, don't read too much into it.  She may not have even noticed your distance.

Focus more on what you want and not always what she wants.  Do you really want to date someone that's 55 miles away?

I asked her is my distance an issue and she said no.   she gave me her number and I am calling her tonight

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2 hours ago, dramafreezone said:

A swipe right doesn't really mean all that much, don't read too much into it.  She may not have even noticed your distance.

Focus more on what you want and not always what she wants.  Do you really want to date someone that's 55 miles away?

Well if nothing is happening here lol

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1 hour ago, Donnas said:

Could be just she likes whats she see.lol

And will think about 55 miles later on.😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

 

Just hit me I dates someone 65 miles in 2017.     So 55 should be fine if it gets to that.

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To swipe on someone that far away, he'd need to live somewhere which offers great lifestyle and where I could imagine spending lovely weekends.   By the water/lots of restaurants and entertainment/skiing. 

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55 miles isn’t a huge deal if it’s got long term potential. That being said, my ex decided it was an issue for him over a year later of dating and he “couldn’t deal with it anymore”. We both have cars and each other’s keys and would just stay overnight.🤔

Now I’m super apprehensive to date anyone that’s remotely far because I’m worried it’ll happen again. 

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1 minute ago, TaintedLuv said:

55 miles isn’t a huge deal if it’s got long term potential. That being said, my ex decided it was an issue for him over a year later of dating and he “couldn’t deal with it anymore”. We both have cars and each other’s keys and would just stay overnight.🤔

Now I’m super apprehensive to date anyone that’s remotely far because I’m worried it’ll happen again. 

well I will be calling her in a few so lets see how this goes

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I'm a guy but it is more time than distance, in one direction 55 miles is an hour, in another 20 miles is an hour.

Regardless, and hour is on the edge of my limit...but have done it and generally it can be difficult.   But there are a couple million people within 20 miles of me so has to be pretty amazing for me to go for someone 55 miles away.  If I lived in a rural area in the western US, then 55 limes is not much of  things and less than an hour away. 

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No because:

1) Catfish

2) Married people trying to cheat

3) Emotionally unavailable and/or bored people just playing around

4) I enjoy being spontaneous

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Wiseman2 Established Member

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16 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

Im flattered she matched with me 

Could be catfishing. Distance is a great excuse not to ever meet.

Anyone who deliberately chooses distance is suspicious.

Just delete it and move forward.

 

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On 6/4/2021 at 6:38 AM, Wiseman2 said:

Could be catfishing. Distance is a great excuse not to ever meet.

Anyone who deliberately chooses distance is suspicious.

Just delete it and move forward.

 

divorced with a 6 year old child.    I knew it was something lol

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4 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

divorced with a 6 year old child.    

Why would someone in this situation choose distance dating?

Divorced with kids is in itself not a red flag. Seeking out distance however is.

If single mothers are a deal breaker for you you need to review and reset your criteria.

Not only for your preferences per se, but to stop wasting time like this pondering what the deal breaker (for you) is.

Since you don't have a car, it's ridiculous to even bother with distance dating.

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Is 55 miles away - distance?
On good fast roads it is hardly an hour away.
The problem is not the distance, the problem is the OP does not own a car.
If this potential date has her own car, which I guess she does, 55 miles being no problem to her, I doubt she will want to ferry him around... 

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6 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

divorced with a 6 year old child.    I knew it was something lol

And? You say it like it's something she should be shameful of. 

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6 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

divorced with a 6 year old child.    I knew it was something lol

Sorry, are you a prize?

Whats wrong with being divorced with a kid? 

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