Phallacy Posted June 6, 2021 Posted June 6, 2021 If there’s a 1% chance of sex, I’ll meet for a date. If there’s a 0% chance? Nope. So if she lives 30 miles away and doesn’t live alone? No thanks
HotRevolver93 Posted June 6, 2021 Posted June 6, 2021 (edited) I’ve legit tried everything and every site over the last decade and can’t even get one single date lol. The only matches I’ve gotten are bots. It’s a scam IMO. I finally gave up last year Edited June 6, 2021 by HotRevolver93
chillii Posted June 6, 2021 Posted June 6, 2021 23 hours ago, Gaeta said: His profile said he had a car and a job! Lol i'm not too demanding the date was great! He looked way better than his 1 picture. Very nice man, polite, respectful. He was a nice surprise. A car and a job , gees your fussy haha. 2
Weezy1973 Posted June 7, 2021 Posted June 7, 2021 Tips. From someone who met his wife through OLD. 1. Know what you want. A one night stand is a far cry from marriage and kids. Ultimately, what are you looking to accomplish through OLD. 2. OLD is very different from dating in real life. Don’t treat them the same. With OLD you’re dating strangers and the chances of meeting someone compatible are extremely slim. Have realistic expectations. It will reduce burnout. 3. Deal with your sh**. Seriously most of us have “stuff” that prevents us from dating / having relationships successfully. Recognize it and deal with it through therapy. 4. It’s a numbers game. That means getting as many dates as possible. Multiple apps / sites is highly recommended. 5. It’s all about the pics. Have recent pics of you doing interesting things. Do stuff and get pics taken. Go traveling; take pics. Go hiking; take pics. Go to a farmers market; take pics. You get the point. Keeping a steady stream of recent interesting pics on rotation is very beneficial. Max 1 selfie. 1 1
introverted1 Posted June 8, 2021 Posted June 8, 2021 (edited) On 6/5/2021 at 1:56 PM, Gaeta said: I want to address that. Tons if men put up pictures of their fishing trip, holding anormous salmons, sunglasses and hat on, unshaven. Gentlemen those pictures only look good to YOU!! Same with pictures of you on golf court 15 meters away! Annoying. Pictures of you in full leather with helmet on next to your bike......sigh. My screening: No pics with dead animals/fish (ew) No pics of cars or motorcycles (dating you, not your car) No pics from ~20 years ago (not sure why guys load up their profiles with these) No pics of kids/grandkids (wth are these guys thinking) No pics where previous gf or wife has been cropped or scribbled out Only 1 pic but it's posted multiple times No shirtless pics (thanks @Gaeta) Edited June 8, 2021 by introverted1 2
Gaeta Posted June 8, 2021 Posted June 8, 2021 1 minute ago, introverted1 said: My screening: No pics with dead animals/fish (ew) No pics of cars or motorcycles (dating you, not your car) No pics from ~20 years ago (not sure why guys load up their profiles with these) No pics of kids/grandkids (wth are these guys thinking) No pics where previous gf or wife has been cropped or scribbled out Only 1 pic but it's posted multiple times That leaves us with very little choices lol You forgot the pictures with no shirt on 1
introverted1 Posted June 8, 2021 Posted June 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: That leaves us with very little choices lol You forgot the pictures with no shirt on Oh, you are right - no shirtless pics! I don't know what it's like where you are, but there are still a bunch left even after this!
Amanda92 Posted June 8, 2021 Posted June 8, 2021 I do read description. I need to know that a man seems to be intelligent. 2
babybrowns Posted June 9, 2021 Posted June 9, 2021 10 hours ago, Amanda92 said: I do read description. I need to know that a man seems to be intelligent. Same. In my younger days I’d swipe right and meet up with any Tom/Dick/Harry I found attractive, but now in my early 30s my preferences have changed. They can be the most gorgeous guy in the world but what puts me off swiping right on said individual is: - it being clear that he is only after casual, either from stating this on his profile or it being obvious from the pictures - he’s not educated/ doesn’t have a reasonable job - has pictures where it’s him with a group of women
introverted1 Posted June 9, 2021 Posted June 9, 2021 3 hours ago, babybrowns said: - has pictures where it’s him with a group of women Or sometimes, pics of him with a group of men and I can't figure out which one *he* is. 1
Fletch Lives Posted June 9, 2021 Posted June 9, 2021 (edited) The one pic profiles are sometimes scammers. The scammers are pretty smart, unfortunately. Edited June 9, 2021 by Fletch Lives
Calmandfocused Posted June 9, 2021 Posted June 9, 2021 No naked selfies in the bathroom mirror! That is so off putting. I don’t know why so many men do that. Unless you’re under 30 do not use pics that show you drinking, smoking, or in the pub surrounded by alcohol or lots of people . I’m 42 so if you look like you’re a ageing party animal it’s a big turn off for me. Smile on your pictures. I want to see your teeth. I can tell from pictures when a man is hiding his teeth, which suggests to me that he has bad teeth. If you do happen to have bad teeth, get them fixed pronto! 1
BeanCounter Posted June 9, 2021 Posted June 9, 2021 #1 worst offense I see with women: ALL of your pictures are with other people. I'm not spending time trying to discern which one you are, if all of your pictures are like this, it's an instant pass for me. 1-2 pics max that have other people in them 1
SumGuy Posted June 9, 2021 Posted June 9, 2021 I try not to set too many bright lines regarding pics, profile is what makes or breaks it for me. But I was never using the swipe right apps like Tinder when OLD. Never would have met my girlfriend if followed the more than one picture rule. Perhaps it is me or the people, but for me and every woman met through OLD the words in the profile mattered. This may be why had very few issues or bad experiences in OLD. Certainly far less than the tales of woe on LS would have me believe are common. 1
Fletch Lives Posted June 10, 2021 Posted June 10, 2021 Rule number one is to go by your intuition (sometimes called gut feelings, radar). If something feels off it probably is. 1
SumGuy Posted June 10, 2021 Posted June 10, 2021 (edited) 57 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: Rule number one is to go by your intuition (sometimes called gut feelings, radar). If something feels off it probably is. Perhaps...depends on how well that strategy has worked for someone and it can lead to equating ones feelings with facts. Now to ones "gut" reaction being you are just not feeling the connection that you two are simpatico....sure that is valid but then again there are plenty of people who feel attracted to relationships that are bad for them over and over, or have no idea. Some times ones "gut" reaction is just ones emotional reactions to ones preconceptions and prejudices. Edited June 10, 2021 by SumGuy
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