What would you do if you met someone and things were good but they had red flags?

[Alfano]

You're going to get burnt out from her clingyness and insecurity. You'll start to withdraw and she'll become even worse and the cycle will escalate until it completely implodes.

Sure she's taking great care of you in all those ways but you my friend are in a cage and won't realize it until you try to get out.

 

 

[GoldMind]

8 hours ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said:

Quit using her for sex and gifts, and move on. You can already tell this isn't going to work out long term.

but she's the best girlfriend

- great body

- sex anywhere, any time anything

- cooks for me

- buys me gifts

no girl is as good as her but she has alll these other issues that make me not sure bout her

[GoldMind]

what do i do guys god the sex is incredible she buys me another giftt as well but then she posted her boobs on social media i dont get it am i not enough

[GeorgiaPeach1]

4 hours ago, GoldMind said:

but she's the best girlfriend

- great body

- sex anywhere, any time anything

- cooks for me

- buys me gifts

no girl is as good as her but she has alll these other issues that make me not sure bout her

Okay, then it's time to seek professional help so that you can get assistance deciding what to do. 

[GoldMind]

10 minutes ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said:

Okay, then it's time to seek professional help so that you can get assistance deciding what to do. 

she is a gret gf

[elaine567]

If you are Ok with this being a short term fling then no problem, if you are getting attached then it is time to step back as you are going to get very hurt here otherwise.
When a girl talks about their ex all the time, even if it is in not very complementary terms, it is a sign she is not over him and you are just the rebound.
She treats you so good as she has slotted you straight into to where her ex used to be. You feel so loved but the love is really for him, but you are there and he isnt.
What usually happens is that one day she realises that you are NOT her ex, probably nothing like her ex, you are the rebound and she will pull back and likely dump you

3 hours ago, GoldMind said:

i dont get it am i not enough

You are not enough. 

[GoldMind]

4 minutes ago, elaine567 said:

If you are Ok with this being a short term fling then no problem, if you are getting attached then it is time to step back as you are going to get very hurt here otherwise.
When a girl talks about their ex all the time, even if it is in not very complementary terms, it is a sign she is not over him and you are just the rebound.
She treats you so good as she has slotted you straight into to where her ex used to be. You feel so loved but the love is really for him, but you are there and he isnt.
What usually happens is that one day she realises that you are NOT her ex, probably nothing like her ex, you are the rebound and she will pull back and likely dump you

You are not enough. 

this is interesting

i feel like she is always comparing me to him she told me he could make her squirt and other sexual things

 she also is doing activities with me that i know she did with him

but im pretty sure she is over him he has moved on nd has a gf now we even saw him as we were together nd she just alughed and said thats my ex

that was all

but she is always saying stuff liek my ex cooked for me my ex did this for me my ex did that for me its a bti weird

[GoldMind]

also why would she post pictures in her g string on social media but then say she is doing it for me when her profile is public?

[basil67]

8 hours ago, GoldMind said:

this is interesting

i feel like she is always comparing me to him she told me he could make her squirt and other sexual things

 she also is doing activities with me that i know she did with him

but im pretty sure she is over him he has moved on nd has a gf now we even saw him as we were together nd she just alughed and said thats my ex

that was all

but she is always saying stuff liek my ex cooked for me my ex did this for me my ex did that for me its a bti weird

This is interesting.  Just above this, you said that she's a great girlfriend. 

Edited June 4, 2021 by basil67

[Acacia98]

14 minutes ago, basil67 said:

This is interesting.  Just above this, you said that she's a great girlfriend. 

The response to this is probably going to be something along the lines of "She is a great girlfriend."

I think OP will have to come to the realization that she isn't on his own. 

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, GoldMind said:

 post pictures in her g string on social media when her profile is public?

Is this an escort? 

[GoldMind]

46 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is this an escort? 

No she posts selfies in her g string and her bra.

She tells me she has slept with rich drug dealers

 we go on dates and she says "that looks like a guy i met off tinder"

i'm not sure exactly how many guys she's been with but i think the number is huge

she treats me great though maybe she has changed? the past is the past.

My friend says this is stupid and the past does matter. He is a wealthy high value guy and always has hot girlfriends/ good girlfriends

[tynkrbel]

Hi GoldMine,

Always be Aware and BEWARE the Red Flags !!  What You see is what You get !!   These things worsen over time, they never become more tolerable.   This I know is true.

Regards,

tynkrbel

[Wiseman2]

10 hours ago, GoldMind said:

No she posts selfies in her g string and her bra. She tells me she has slept with rich drug dealers

So would you say she's GF/wife material?

[GoldMind]

6 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

So would you say she's GF/wife material?

No she is not girlfriend material but how can i fault her

what if i told you , you met a girl who cooks, cleans, sexy, does anything in bed for you, is fun, loving, has great date ideas great chemistry?

[Wiseman2]

6 hours ago, GoldMind said:

what if i told you , you met a girl who cooks, cleans, sexy, does anything in bed for you, is fun, loving, has great date ideas great chemistry?

I would think you were making it up/trolling.

[elaine567]

On 6/4/2021 at 8:04 AM, GoldMind said:

also why would she post pictures in her g string on social media but then say she is doing it for me when her profile is public?

She is obviously NOT doing it for you is she?
Not rocket science.

[GoldMind]

52 minutes ago, elaine567 said:

She is obviously NOT doing it for you is she?
Not rocket science.

yea but she says she dresses up for me.

[GoldMind]

52 minutes ago, elaine567 said:

She is obviously NOT doing it for you is she?
Not rocket science.

 

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

I would think you were making it up/trolling.

not trolling, she cooks, cleans, sexanything i want, buys me ggifts etc.. but also the bad traits,

[ExpatInItaly]

19 hours ago, GoldMind said:

yea but she says she dresses up for me.

She's full of equine manure. 

 

[balletomane]

The writing style in this thread is remarkably similar to that of another thread that was recently deleted for trolling. The poster joined at roughly the same time. Even if they're not the same person, I struggle to accept this is real. "She is gret gf. The sex is great and she buys me gifts" followed by a list of obviously questionable behaviour? Seriously?

[Wiseman2]

21 hours ago, GoldMind said:

not trolling, she cooks, cleans, sexanything i want, buys me ggifts etc.. but also the bad traits,

I don't even want to picture what you are doing while you write this.