What does this mean?

[remembethename]

I'm dating a girl who is 25 when I couldn't see her she started posting on social media saying she "hates men" and "all men are jerks" and "all men are liars"

 

I asked her if this was about me and she just laughed and said no and deleted it. It was really weird because all I did was say  I had to work so couldn't take her out she then told me that I made her cry a few times I asked her why and she said its when i told her i couldn't see her.

She also demands i text her 24/7 and if i don't respond after 30 minutes she starts double texting tripple texting calling me and saying she's sad because i'm ignoring her.

[Dull Hargraves]

10 minutes ago, remembethename said:

I'm dating a girl who is 25 when I couldn't see her she started posting on social media saying she "hates men" and "all men are jerks" and "all men are liars"

 

I asked her if this was about me and she just laughed and said no and deleted it. It was really weird because all I did was say  I had to work so couldn't take her out she then told me that I made her cry a few times I asked her why and she said its when i told her i couldn't see her.

She also demands i text her 24/7 and if i don't respond after 30 minutes she starts double texting tripple texting calling me and saying she's sad because i'm ignoring her.

Don’t walk, run, In the other direction.  Bullet dodged.

[remembethename]

6 minutes ago, Dull Hargraves said:

Don’t walk, run, In the other direction.  Bullet dodged.

but she is so nice and loving when she is with me but when she isn't she is so passive aggressive and mean

my friend says this is some trauma bond but i have no idea what this means and i think he is jealous because she's so hot she is so lovign and the sex is great ive never been with  girl like this 

[mortensorchid]

Oh Lord... Some of us are different people on social media.  Some things may be jokes but one learns the hard way not to share too much of themselves on social media.  But I digress...

She may be an irrational female - says one thing but does another, or vice versa.  Measure her out and then see what else happens.  I am serious and rational and black & white.  Period.  Some don't like this but that's too bad.

[remembethename]

6 minutes ago, mortensorchid said:

Oh Lord... Some of us are different people on social media.  Some things may be jokes but one learns the hard way not to share too much of themselves on social media.  But I digress...

She may be an irrational female - says one thing but does another, or vice versa.  Measure her out and then see what else happens.  I am serious and rational and black & white.  Period.  Some don't like this but that's too bad.

bit weird how she says she hates men and they are all liars and cheaters and posts this on social media but shes nice to me when i give to her

[remembethename]

any other thoughts

[basil67]

Other thoughts?   If the genders were switched and a man I was dating wrote hatred against women on his social media, I would end it.  No discussion. Just end.

Edited June 1, 2021 by basil67

[remembethename]

4 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Other thoughts?   If the genders were switched and a man I was dating wrote hatred against women on his social media, I would end it.  No discussion. Just end.

yea she said she hates her dad and he is a liar

but she seems really nice to me? but only when i give her attention or then she chucks a tantrum 

[dramafreezone]

11 minutes ago, remembethename said:

any other thoughts

No not really, I think all of us can see she has serious issues.  Let me guess, no father in her life?

[basil67]

If she chucks tantrums, then she's not really nice to you.

Is she the first girl you've dated?  

[remembethename]

22 minutes ago, basil67 said:

If she chucks tantrums, then she's not really nice to you.

Is she the first girl you've dated?  

not really chuck tantrum but she say sshe is upset if i dont respond to her then starts posting on social media about how men are evil

[MsJayne]

I could be wrong but it sounds like garden variety immaturity,  Daddy Issues, and a soupcon of Crazy.  Demanding constant attention and reassurance is juvenile, needy, controlling, and well, abusive. If you want a child to look after, someone who will eventually drain the happy out of you with their neediness, someone who will become more and more abusive because you can never fill that great big needy void inside them, stick with her. Otherwise, run. 

[remembethename]

10 minutes ago, MsJayne said:

I could be wrong but it sounds like garden variety immaturity,  Daddy Issues, and a soupcon of Crazy.  Demanding constant attention and reassurance is juvenile, needy, controlling, and well, abusive. If you want a child to look after, someone who will eventually drain the happy out of you with their neediness, someone who will become more and more abusive because you can never fill that great big needy void inside them, stick with her. Otherwise, run. 

Thanks

Wow i've also read about "trauma bonding" and this seems like what she is doig

when i'm with her she wil act super nice, kind, loving, and do anything for me and give me gifts but as soon as i don't give her what hse wants the nasty comes out and she gets angry, passive aggressive, makes comments / put downs/ says i'm awkward/ weird 

like relly up and down

[MsJayne]

6 minutes ago, remembethename said:

Thanks

Wow i've also read about "trauma bonding" and this seems like what she is doig

when i'm with her she wil act super nice, kind, loving, and do anything for me and give me gifts but as soon as i don't give her what hse wants the nasty comes out and she gets angry, passive aggressive, makes comments / put downs/ says i'm awkward/ weird 

like relly up and down

The put downs aren't about you,  that's her venting her anger at being deprived of a healthy relationship with her father by the sound of it. How long have you been dating? Has the psycho jealousy started yet? Because it will. It's part of the cycle of her relationships, (as demonstrated by her social media posts attacking men). She's pretty so she attracts guys, no problem, but then the clinging starts, and that's to do with abandonment by her father, and that drives men away, which fulfills her expectation of being abandoned again.  If you care for her perhaps guide her towards getting help to understand why she's so needy and manipulative. Tolerating her behaviour is only fueling it, the more you put up with the worse it will become, and to put the icing on the cake, you will actually be blamed for causing her behaviour.  

[CollinW]

She sounds like a drama queen susceptible to tantrums when she doesn't get her way. I'd run not walk but then again we all know you won't considering she's so hot as you put it. 

Edited June 1, 2021 by CollinW

[remembethename]

Just now, CollinW said:

She sounds like a drama queen susceptible to tantrums. I'd run not walk but then again we all know you won't considering she's so hot as you put it. 

what do i do i've never been with such a hot girl she has such an incredibl body and the sex and her over the top love keeps me coming back but then she does the wierd oher stuff what do i do? its like im under her spell!

[remembethename]

4 minutes ago, MsJayne said:

The put downs aren't about you,  that's her venting her anger at being deprived of a healthy relationship with her father by the sound of it. How long have you been dating? Has the psycho jealousy started yet? Because it will. It's part of the cycle of her relationships, (as demonstrated by her social media posts attacking men). She's pretty so she attracts guys, no problem, but then the clinging starts, and that's to do with abandonment by her father, and that drives men away, which fulfills her expectation of being abandoned again.  If you care for her perhaps guide her towards getting help to understand why she's so needy and manipulative. Tolerating her behaviour is only fueling it, the more you put up with the worse it will become, and to put the icing on the cake, you will actually be blamed for causing her behaviour.  

Thanks! yea i'm just blindsided at the moment because of her over the top love and sex.. she seems to have some bad issues now that i think of it when she was showing mer her phone she had 1000s of selfis on there in her bras/panties and naked. i thought that was a bit weird.. do girls usually have heaps of selfies like this?

[MsJayne]

1 minute ago, remembethename said:

Thanks! yea i'm just blindsided at the moment because of her over the top love and sex.. she seems to have some bad issues now that i think of it when she was showing mer her phone she had 1000s of selfis on there in her bras/panties and naked. i thought that was a bit weird.. do girls usually have heaps of selfies like this?

This is sounding like the Love Bombing process:

https://www.healthline.com/health/love-bombing

Also this is a good article, never hurts to be well informed......

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/idealize-devalue-discard-the-dizzying-cycle-of-narcissism-0325154#:~:text=The relationship cycle typical of,idealization%2C devaluing%2C and discarding.

[remembethename]

Just now, MsJayne said:

This is sounding like the Love Bombing process:

https://www.healthline.com/health/love-bombing

Also this is a good article, never hurts to be well informed......

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/idealize-devalue-discard-the-dizzying-cycle-of-narcissism-0325154#:~:text=The relationship cycle typical of,idealization%2C devaluing%2C and discarding.

Thank you 

so in essence i should get out now and this girl will ruin me?

[remembethename]

okay

[Lotsgoingon]

Dude, it it feels strange and awkward, assume that it IS strange and awkward. People put on their best faces early on. She wants you to text her 24/7 ... then she does the random attacks on me. 

Run brother run. There is plenty to criticize about a lot of guys, but there are red flags in the way she's doing it. Combined with the obsessive texting, major red flags of insecurity, anger, unstable personality ... lashing out. 

Run and do not look back. 

[remembethename]

13 minutes ago, Lotsgoingon said:

Dude, it it feels strange and awkward, assume that it IS strange and awkward. People put on their best faces early on. She wants you to text her 24/7 ... then she does the random attacks on me. 

Run brother run. There is plenty to criticize about a lot of guys, but there are red flags in the way she's doing it. Combined with the obsessive texting, major red flags of insecurity, anger, unstable personality ... lashing out. 

Run and do not look back. 

thank you 

ur right now that i think of it there s a lot of weird things she has said and done but i just look over it because of her body sex and fun and she lways makes it up to me

oh well ill cut her out 

[remembethename]

bumped

[cleverusername]

You should have just asked her if she was ok and thrown in some humor,

"I just wanted to know If you're doing ok It seemed like someone hurt you? You just say the words and ill call in a favor with "the Don" and have him "taken care of"  "

[smackie9]

This is a dangerous situation,..... you know this will lead to her monkey branching for attention right? This is what crazy insecure girls do when they don't get what they want. it's coming.

Edited June 1, 2021 by smackie9