I'm tired of being the one who makes any effort on OLD

[Not So Sad II]

4 minutes ago, TheDarkMiller said:

You say you have no distaste towards women but several commenters here have said how women also suffer with low effort attempts by men but you never address that, just the ones where women make low effort.

Every reply you address how women are problematic here, but do you know that there are loads of men that make no effort too or is that hard for you to believe? I've seen the quality of conversation some of my female friends have and the men make shocking effort, dull opening comments or messages about sex and/or their cock.

I actually couldn't believe how awful Tinder was, so as an experiment, I changed my settings to a man looking for women.  There were very, very few women on there, and the ones who were, they mostly seemed a little odd/eccentric in terms of both appearance and world views.  I should imagine that for women who for whatever reasons have to rely on OLD to meet potential partners, they would become very jaded, very very quickly.

If men, mostly total strangers, spoke to me in person the way in which they spoke to me on sm, I'd have the police on speed dial.  It truly is appalling.  Perhaps my area is particularly bad.  It upset me so much. 

3 weeks I lasted and I met no-one.  There are normal, reasonably attractive men on there but they are clearly in relationships and never want to meet up.  Total waste of time.  I don't even have any difficulties in meeting people in real life!

[dramafreezone]

1 minute ago, Redguitar36 said:

I've never gone psycho with a woman I dated. What I have been is this: sitting at home alone on Xmas after I just got dumped by my parter who said two weeks earlier that we would spend that time together. A partner who I drove to airport, loaned money to buy work clothes, helped to find career counseling, listened when she had depression. I have never seen a relationship where I actually got back anything that I put in.

Of course, since I'm not a woman, I don't expect you to sympathize. 

I think if I were to read the minds of some on here, I'm sure I would actually be considered misogynistic if anything. 

In actuality, I try to be balanced, but I am a man so probably biased towards the plight of other men.  But I can call out men that appear misguided, and I think you are.

I do remember you writing all about your past relationships.  Do you think other men haven't been hurt?  The rest of us have moved on.  You're very hurt still and you need to deal with that.  You're bringing it into your current dealings with women and it's only damaging you more.  To be blunt, no one owes you any understanding or sympathy.  Everyone has their own stuff going on too.

[Redguitar36]

9 minutes ago, dramafreezone said:

To be blunt, no one owes you any understanding or sympathy. 

Unless you are woman lol. The you can be passive aggressive because you weren't in the mood to chat and commenters like you will defend your rudeness and even question the integrity of the men who dared to send you a message about video games instead of the politics of transgender bathroom bills. 

Edited June 1, 2021 by Redguitar36

[TheDarkMiller]

4 minutes ago, Redguitar36 said:

Unless you are woman lol. The you can be passive aggressive because you weren't in the mood to chat and commenters like you will defend your rudeness and even question the integrity of the men who dared to send you a message about video games instead of the politics of transgender bathroom bills. 

Good lord can you hear yourself? You said no one but a woman owes you an understanding, so the woman commenters on here have given you an understanding and you still won't accept it or even meet in the middle because kts not what you want to hear.

Good riddance your ex left you, its clear she came to her senses and saw this version of you. Nobody likes a psycho.

[Redguitar36]

3 minutes ago, TheDarkMiller said:

Good lord can you hear yourself? You said no one but a woman owes you an understanding, so the woman commenters on here have given you an understanding and you still won't accept it or even meet in the middle because kts not what you want to hear.

Good riddance your ex left you, its clear she came to her senses and saw this version of you. Nobody likes a psycho.

You accused me of being a psycho and a misogynist. I'm not terribly interested in anything you have to add.