Mr X Posted May 28, 2021 Posted May 28, 2021 Hey everyone. So... I've met a girl online. We met in an online game. And somehow we became a couple in that game. To be clear we both live in the same country like 80 miles away from each other. And yeah... we started to chat in real life more and more often. I know her pretty well now. We have been chatting a lot for like 3 months now and I'm really into her. We do a lot of cute things like: she has to wake up at like 8 AM and I always get up earlier to spam her and wake up by my messages and she really loves it. Also, on the evenings we make a call and watch movies and tv shows together. Sometimes feels like we could talk 24/7. Also... funny thing. We often say the same thing at the same time and it happens really really often. We both like same food, movies, we have the same hobbies, life goals and so on.. Feels like she is me and I am she. Ohh.. and we really often make goals that we try to accomplish together. Also, we tease each other sooo muuch with food pics, coffee pics and so on. Is that a good sign that we are both soooo similar? Because it's really weird and it never happened to me before. It feels like we knew each other before we met. And it feels like there was a reason that we met. Sooo... A couple days ago we both checked cinema website to see what new movies have been released. We both were so happy when we saw a new Statham movie and she said something like "I would love to see this movie" and I was like "yeah, would be nice". And ofc I plan to invite her to see that movie and meet her for the first time. But all I think about is what if she won't like me? Would be so sad to lose her. I can clearly see that she likes me rn even if we didn't met yet. But what if everything will change after we meet?
Gaeta Posted May 28, 2021 Posted May 28, 2021 Then nothing, life goes on. You will be disappointed but you'll survive and be just fine. Have you video chat? 4
ShyViolet Posted May 28, 2021 Posted May 28, 2021 It's very possible that she won't like you. That is life. In life, there are no guarantees that everyone will like us. It's a chance you take. It's still absolutely worth taking the chance. If she doesn't like you, you will survive and move on and meet new people in the future.
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2021 Posted May 28, 2021 She already likes you. The issue is whether she will want a romance with you. That is something you can only ascertain in real life. Nothing ventured. Nothing gained. Take the risk & meet up. You may very well get shot down but it may morph into something wonderful. You have to try. Yes, rejection hurts. Yes you will miss talking to her but the world of gaming is filled with people . It will be very easy to fill the void left if you lose her virtual friendship because she did not want a real life romance with you. 1
Author Mr X Posted May 28, 2021 Author Posted May 28, 2021 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: Then nothing, life goes on. You will be disappointed but you'll survive and be just fine. Have you video chat? Naah we didn't. We only make calls every day. 2 hours ago, ShyViolet said: It's very possible that she won't like you. That is life. In life, there are no guarantees that everyone will like us. It's a chance you take. It's still absolutely worth taking the chance. If she doesn't like you, you will survive and move on and meet new people in the future. Yeah, you are right. And I will take the chance. Never know maybe this will lead me to something cool and nice. 2 hours ago, LoopyLoop99 said: Has she seen pictures of you??????????? We both follow each other on instagram. So yeah, she have seen me. 2 hours ago, d0nnivain said: She already likes you. The issue is whether she will want a romance with you. That is something you can only ascertain in real life. Nothing ventured. Nothing gained. Take the risk & meet up. You may very well get shot down but it may morph into something wonderful. You have to try. Yes, rejection hurts. Yes you will miss talking to her but the world of gaming is filled with people . It will be very easy to fill the void left if you lose her virtual friendship because she did not want a real life romance with you. Thanks for your answer! This really motivates me. Ofcourse I will take a risk, but it hurts so much when someone rejects you. But Ofcourse it's not the first time when I've been rejected and I got over it. Hopefully everything will be okay. I've never met someone like her before so that's why she means a lot for me. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2021 Posted May 28, 2021 14 minutes ago, Mr X said: I've never met someone like her before so that's why she means a lot for me. Understood. Don't come at her like gangbusters. Don't make some big announcement. Schedule the movie date. Spring for the popcorn you can share. When you initially greet her, try for a quick hug, a lean in brief one where your midsections & hips do not touch. It should last no longer than 10-15 seconds. Read her reactions to this. See if you can manage to hold her hand during the movie. Take a walk or something afterwards, again with the handholding. Read her body language & see if she's open to a kiss on your date or at least a kiss goodbye as a promise for the 2nd date. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you & send you positive vibes. 2
BeanCounter Posted May 28, 2021 Posted May 28, 2021 The short answer is Yes, trying to date her could 100% mess up what you currently have. Dating is always a risk. And the fact is, the majority of relationships end. And the majority of those ended relationships result in people not talking to each other anymore. So it's a risk, but for me, it's a risk always worth taking. Connecting with someone on another level than just talking about your hobbies and likes is something you can only achieve through a romantic relationship. 80 miles isn't too far, it's manageable. My opinion, totally go for it, but understand that yes there is no doubt about it that it's a risk it'll mess up what you have today. But what you gain could be so much more than that! Speaking from personal first-hand recent experience, don't get too far ahead of yourself. Take the first date for what it is. Based on your story, it seems pretty obvious she is interested in you. Sending positive thoughts your way, hopefully there is a good follow-up story soon 2
smackie9 Posted May 28, 2021 Posted May 28, 2021 Stop worrying about it. look on the bright side, you have a chance to meet her and go out on a date. that in itself should be a win.
LoopyLoop99 Posted May 29, 2021 Posted May 29, 2021 13 hours ago, smackie9 said: Stop worrying about it. look on the bright side, you have a chance to meet her and go out on a date. that in itself should be a win. this
chillii Posted May 29, 2021 Posted May 29, 2021 lt's worth finding out whatever the outcome at least you'll both know . You've talked about it right , probably joked about it . Why haven't you met sooner btw ?
Author Mr X Posted June 1, 2021 Author Posted June 1, 2021 On 5/28/2021 at 10:12 PM, BeanCounter said: The short answer is Yes, trying to date her could 100% mess up what you currently have. Dating is always a risk. And the fact is, the majority of relationships end. And the majority of those ended relationships result in people not talking to each other anymore. So it's a risk, but for me, it's a risk always worth taking. Connecting with someone on another level than just talking about your hobbies and likes is something you can only achieve through a romantic relationship. 80 miles isn't too far, it's manageable. My opinion, totally go for it, but understand that yes there is no doubt about it that it's a risk it'll mess up what you have today. But what you gain could be so much more than that! Speaking from personal first-hand recent experience, don't get too far ahead of yourself. Take the first date for what it is. Based on your story, it seems pretty obvious she is interested in you. Sending positive thoughts your way, hopefully there is a good follow-up story soon On 5/29/2021 at 3:11 PM, chillii said: lt's worth finding out whatever the outcome at least you'll both know . You've talked about it right , probably joked about it . Why haven't you met sooner btw ? UPDATE. Well... we already met IRL. Damn it was so weird to see her haha but it was super fun to spend the day with her. I guess we both liked each other and we are going to meet again soon. So I guess everything is fine! I'm so happy 2
BeanCounter Posted June 1, 2021 Posted June 1, 2021 1 hour ago, Mr X said: UPDATE. Well... we already met IRL. Damn it was so weird to see her haha but it was super fun to spend the day with her. I guess we both liked each other and we are going to meet again soon. So I guess everything is fine! I'm so happy Good for you! Hope it ends up becoming something genuine, real, and lasting!
Author Mr X Posted September 25, 2021 Author Posted September 25, 2021 Update: we are still dating and everything is more than perfect! I'm so happy that I met her! 3
chillii Posted September 25, 2021 Posted September 25, 2021 (edited) Fantastic congratulations , how old are you guys btw ? Edited September 25, 2021 by chillii
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