Got a new match and tried to limit the Phone conversation to 20 mins and that still didnt work lol

[IntBrowser]

1 hour ago, Dis said:

She was trying to catch your vibe by talking to you on the phone....and something you did/said turned her off

 

Think about what it could have been and what you need to do differently in the future 

I had another match tonight and I was turned off.    She sounded like a older drug addict.   Her voice was not feminine or clear lol    I was like..........."My diinner is waiting

[Dis]

29 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

I had another match tonight and I was turned off.    She sounded like a older drug addict.   Her voice was not feminine or clear lol    I was like..........."My diinner is waiting

Okay well are you giving these women a good impression when you talk to them? What are you like over the phone or when you meet a girl?

 

Are you friendly, approachable? Do you smile and can you carry on a convo?

 

I think these are all important things for you to think about because something is turning these women off

[IntBrowser]

33 minutes ago, Dis said:

Okay well are you giving these women a good impression when you talk to them? What are you like over the phone or when you meet a girl?

 

Are you friendly, approachable? Do you smile and can you carry on a convo?

 

I think these are all important things for you to think about because something is turning these women off

 

In your opinion, if a woman matches with me on a saturday and ask for my number and calls me,  as the guy should I be suggesting a face to face meet?     

[Dis]

32 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

 

In your opinion, if a woman matches with me on a saturday and ask for my number and calls me,  as the guy should I be suggesting a face to face meet?     

Yeah of course  

[Gaeta]

6 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

 

In your opinion, if a woman matches with me on a saturday and ask for my number and calls me,  as the guy should I be suggesting a face to face meet?     

If women are asking for your number then you come across 'first' as a catch. Then something goes wrong.

Do you take an interest in what these women have to say? Do you listen? You said she interupted you, could it be you monopolize the conversation?

[smackie9]

14 hours ago, dramafreezone said:

Well maybe.  He could just as easily have said something on the call that killed her attraction.

 

Shoulda coulda woulda, Who cares why.  My point of my post is that it takes confidence in yourself to move on, and I think that's a step in the right direction...know your value, and know there are many other opportunities going forward. 

 

[TrueGuy]

On 5/24/2021 at 5:37 PM, Cookiesandough said:

Ice cold.... I get texting is not everyone’s ideal medium, and if she’s blowing off dates and ONLY texting , I get not wanting to keep communicating, but if she is going on dates what’s so wrong with humoring someone who tells you something through one most common forms of communication in the 21st-century? 

Because the problem for guys is that they fall into the trap of becoming her text-puppie, and eventually her text-stalker, and neither of these male behaviors is appropriate or attractive. They destroy relationships. Disappearing between dates and being hard to get for us guys has always--and always will be--a winning strategy. 

[IntBrowser]

17 hours ago, Gaeta said:

If women are asking for your number then you come across 'first' as a catch. Then something goes wrong.

Do you take an interest in what these women have to say? Do you listen? You said she interupted you, could it be you monopolize the conversation?

Im done talking about myself the rest of the summer lol

[Acacia98]

Personally, I'm not a fan of interrupting a phone conversation mid-sentence to take another call unless it's a matter of life and death or an international call. Outside these two situations, I'd complete the sentence or let the other person do so. Then I'd end the conversation politely and agree to talk later or meet or whatever. Then I'd call the person who was trying to get hold of me.

I have no way of knowing who was calling the woman described in the post or why. Maybe it was urgent. Maybe it wasn't. But I do think that if she valued the conversation with you, @IntBrowser, she would have texted or called back after some time. After a couple of days, it's certainly okay to cut your losses and focus on other matches.

[Acacia98]

On 5/25/2021 at 5:39 AM, Fletch Lives said:

The main reason you call is to set a date - just make sure you do that by the end of the call.

I agree with this.

[Acacia98]

On 5/25/2021 at 6:13 AM, Dis said:

BUT, what I don't get about this is, timing the phone call? Limiting to 20 minutes, 5? Very odd. So because she had to take another call meant you needed to cut the convo before that? OP, you need to work on not being so reactive to women. Not every little occurrence is a malicious slight to you. 

It sounds like he's had problems keeping the phone calls reasonably brief in the past (to his detriment). So if he has to time them to avoid talking for over an hour, I think that's understandable.

I understood from his post that she was the one who cut short the conversation and she never called back or texted afterwards.

[elaine567]

I do not know if this happens in real life but  here the OP has a habit of ignoring and not answering questions asked but merely making an often unrelated statement of his own on what he is going to do, what he thinks.
He doesn't engage, he appears to be on a separate train of thought.
If this is a habit he takes into real life conversations then I can see why women do not want to take things further.