d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2021 Posted May 26, 2021 3 hours ago, lala156 said: Video editing Then he can set his own schedule. He knows something about what's in his queue. He's not punching a clock. If he has a deadline he can work odd hours to have time to meet you. I'm sure you look fine on Zoom. Get over that fear. I was super self conscious at first but had to do it for work so I got over it quick. It's the way of the future. Watch a video or something to get tips to make yourself look better. You will be fine. 1
Wiseman2 Posted May 26, 2021 Posted May 26, 2021 It's very important to be careful not to categorize every lukewarm guy as commitment phobic, scared, hurt, damaged, gay, shy, busy, etc., etc.
Author lala156 Posted May 29, 2021 Author Posted May 29, 2021 (edited) On 5/26/2021 at 6:05 PM, d0nnivain said: Then he can set his own schedule. He knows something about what's in his queue. He's not punching a clock. If he has a deadline he can work odd hours to have time to meet you. I'm sure you look fine on Zoom. Get over that fear. I was super self conscious at first but had to do it for work so I got over it quick. It's the way of the future. Watch a video or something to get tips to make yourself look better. You will be fine. It turns out you guys were right he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he said he just didn’t have the time. That explains absolutely everything. I think the whole ‘shy inexperienced’ thing was a complete lie based on his confidence on the phone. Funny thing is I’d originally cut him off in fear of getting hurt because of some red flags but stuff just made me run back and not want to leave which I suppose is understandable... I even didn’t want to end it because I thought I’d break his heart lol silly me. Clearly just lost interest I guess Edited May 29, 2021 by lala156 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 30, 2021 Posted May 30, 2021 I'm sorry to hear that, OP, but at least you won't be wasting any more time on this guy. He had too many different excuses, which usually means none of them are exactly true. An important lesson here though - don't spend this long talking to someone who won't even speak to you live until after 3 months. 1
Author lala156 Posted May 30, 2021 Author Posted May 30, 2021 3 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: I'm sorry to hear that, OP, but at least you won't be wasting any more time on this guy. He had too many different excuses, which usually means none of them are exactly true. An important lesson here though - don't spend this long talking to someone who won't even speak to you live until after 3 months. Thank you. I appreciate all your advice and help
Not So Sad II Posted June 1, 2021 Posted June 1, 2021 On 5/29/2021 at 10:10 PM, lala156 said: It turns out you guys were right he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he said he just didn’t have the time. That explains absolutely everything. I think the whole ‘shy inexperienced’ thing was a complete lie based on his confidence on the phone. Funny thing is I’d originally cut him off in fear of getting hurt because of some red flags but stuff just made me run back and not want to leave which I suppose is understandable... I even didn’t want to end it because I thought I’d break his heart lol silly me. Clearly just lost interest I guess Sounds a bit like my ex! He used to let people believe he was shy and "not looking for a relationship". Turned out he was sleeping with other women at the time and very secretive! "Being shy" was a very useful label for him to hide behind.
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