She told me she's 'scared' of me?

[Zebarbu]

I don’t mean physically. I mean she told me “I’m scared of you because I like you so much”

Kind of confused I asked her what she meant and she replied “It’s like I meant, I like you too much”

So I guess I should just take her word for it and keep going?

 

 

[NYAG]

Maybe she doesn't trust easily, maybe she's afraid of getting her heart broken. I would have asked for more clarity.

[Zebarbu]

3 minutes ago, NYAG said:

Maybe she doesn't trust easily, maybe she's afraid of getting her heart broken. I would have asked for more clarity.

Yeah, I probably should have pushed to open up a bit more about it. 
 

If she meant what she said, we’re obviously on the same page  

 

It did make me feel really good when she said it, because she cuddled up to me too. 
 

I think I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing and date her more  

 

[usa1ah]

There is some bs out there saying not to get to close. Which as I said is bs. 
 

If you feel the same way, tell her so. Just mention that it doesn’t scare you because you are with her. Then talk about it more. 

[Zebarbu]

4 hours ago, usa1ah said:

There is some bs out there saying not to get to close. Which as I said is bs. 
 

If you feel the same way, tell her so. Just mention that it doesn’t scare you because you are with her. Then talk about it more. 

I do feel the same, I do feel afraid too...

It's just it's only been one month are we're both clearly at the infatuation stage... 

[d0nnivain]

She's not scared of you as much as she's scared of getting hurt.  Be gentle & less intense with her but remaining reassuring & trustworthy.  

[poppyfields]

Take it as a compliment, it means she's into you.

Edited May 21, 2021 by poppyfields

[Wiseman2]

9 hours ago, Zebarbu said:

It's just it's only been one month are we're both clearly at the infatuation stage... 

If you analyze and hang on every word like this, you'll take all the fun out of a new romance. Relax and enjoy.

People say all sorts of giddy things at this stage that are basically meaningless.

[NYAG]

2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

If you analyze and hang on every word like this, you'll take all the fun out of a new romance. Relax and enjoy.

People say all sorts of giddy things at this stage that are basically meaningless.

It doesn't mean it's meaningless. Does he know her past? Maybe she's been badly hurt before.

[Miss Spider]

Idk that seems weird... an attempt at flattery  or a warning of trust issues perhaps 

Edited May 22, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[NYAG]

21 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

Idk that seems weird... an attempt at flattery  or a warning of trust issues perhaps 

Or maybe a willingness to show vulnerability to someone they want to trust. Good on her for saying this. I could never expose my vulnerability like that - I'm too distrusting.

[Zebarbu]

4 hours ago, NYAG said:

Or maybe a willingness to show vulnerability to someone they want to trust. Good on her for saying this. I could never expose my vulnerability like that - I'm too distrusting.

I managed to open her quite a bit last night:

I could tell she was down and something was on her mind. I asked her to come to my room.

After a bit of chatting, she let me know she had forgotten the anniversary of her dad's death. I asked her questions and stuff and she started to tear up a bit.

 

When we had finished, she told me 'Thank you so much for listening to me' and kissed me.

[d0nnivain]

That was very sweet of you to empathize with her grief. 

I think if you are patient & don't push in time she will learn that you have earned her trust.  Let her get there on her own & her terror will diminish.  

[Wiseman2]

7 hours ago, Zebarbu said:

I asked her to come to my room.

Do you live in the same dorm/houseshare?

[dramafreezone]

ha, I would've said I don't bite, unless you want me to.

I'm not even that type that uses "lines" but that's too good of an opening

[Zebarbu]

8 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Do you live in the same dorm/houseshare?

Block of flats... just not the same appartement