rudiger Posted May 14, 2021 Posted May 14, 2021 I broke up with my girl and she started roasting my physical appearance comparing me to another boy she found attractive really going in on me. And so I blocked her, but she created a new account and used my pic in a group chat and got all her friends to roast my face. About 10 people were taking turns to grill me It literally shattered my self esteem and confidence. And made me feel I needed to get plastic surgery for my nose and lips. All because I broke up with her, she even sent me a letter trying to emotionally manipulate me with threats. What do I do? She refuses to let me go and always finds a way back into my life through my social media pages. How do I get rid of her? Please someone help me out!
Author rudiger Posted May 14, 2021 Author Posted May 14, 2021 1 minute ago, Ami1uwant said: Report her to police Do you think they will take me seriously?
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2021 Posted May 14, 2021 7 minutes ago, rudiger said: Do you think they will take me seriously? No
Wiseman2 Posted May 14, 2021 Posted May 14, 2021 19 minutes ago, rudiger said: How do I get rid of her? Delete and block her and all her people from all your social media, messaging apps and devices. 1
Author rudiger Posted May 14, 2021 Author Posted May 14, 2021 9 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Delete and block her and all her people from all your social media, messaging apps and devices. I have but she knows my cousins and makes threats about taking her own life and not wanting to live which worries me and makes unblock and talk her out of it by returning to her. I fell like I am in this vicious cycle I can't get out of.
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2021 Posted May 14, 2021 (edited) 12 minutes ago, rudiger said: I have but she knows my cousins and makes threats about taking her own life and not wanting to live which worries me and makes unblock and talk her out of it by returning to her. I fell like I am in this vicious cycle I can't get out of. Don’t unblock her. Keep her blocked/don’t engage with her at all. She’s more likely to do it if she knows that it’s getting somewhere. If you think she’s in danger of harming herself, tell her family/authorities, but know you aren’t responsible for her mental stability. I don’t know how old you are but eventually you learn two semi important lessons in life. 1. you can’t really control what other people are going to say/do and 2. Don’t stick your D in crazy Edited May 14, 2021 by Cookiesandough 2
ShyViolet Posted May 15, 2021 Posted May 15, 2021 2 hours ago, rudiger said: I have but she knows my cousins and makes threats about taking her own life and not wanting to live which worries me and makes unblock and talk her out of it by returning to her. DO NOT unblock her or talk to her. This mentally unbalanced girl is online bullying you. You need to leave her blocked. Her ridiculous threats are not your problem, they are a pathetic attempt at manipulating you. Don't fall for it. 2
mortensorchid Posted May 15, 2021 Posted May 15, 2021 Stalking can be online as well as face to face. The best thing to do is to keep on blocking her if and when she appears on whatever networks you are on. Block her on everything, say no to her once and only once then walk away - no phone calls, texts, meeting to talk about things, etc. Remember, she doesn't love you. She doesn't even LIKE you, she hates you. Stalking behavior like hers is about making the victim (you) acknowledge her. She may be saying to others that she wants you two to be friends but what she is really saying by her actions is "you WILL acknowledge me".
Maldives Posted May 15, 2021 Posted May 15, 2021 9 hours ago, rudiger said: I broke up with my girl and she started roasting my physical appearance comparing me to another boy she found attractive really going in on me. And so I blocked her, but she created a new account and used my pic in a group chat and got all her friends to roast my face. About 10 people were taking turns to grill me It literally shattered my self esteem and confidence. And made me feel I needed to get plastic surgery for my nose and lips. All because I broke up with her, she even sent me a letter trying to emotionally manipulate me with threats. What do I do? She refuses to let me go and always finds a way back into my life through my social media pages. How do I get rid of her? Please someone help me out! Deactivate Ur Social media for a while a few months or create a new one with a nickname 1
Wiseman2 Posted May 15, 2021 Posted May 15, 2021 8 hours ago, rudiger said: I have but she knows my cousins and makes threats about taking her own life. She has friends and family. There are doctors, therapists, emergency rooms, mental health clinics and suicide hotlines. She can and will turn to those, but you need to let go. You're too attached and doing too much harm to yourself and her. If you are suffering from anxiety or depression or obsessions about her, there's help for that also.
Blind-Sided Posted May 15, 2021 Posted May 15, 2021 12 hours ago, rudiger said: I have but she knows my cousins and makes threats about taking her own life and not wanting to live .... The police will take that serious. In the USA the would pick her up and put her in Psych watch for 72hrs. Happened to a buddy of mine 1
Calmandfocused Posted May 15, 2021 Posted May 15, 2021 Op there is nothing wrong with your nose, face, lips whatever. I can guarantee you that even without seeing you. Let me enlighten you to what exactly is going on here: This is vindictive, abusive, angry revenge. Nothing more than a smear campaign. This is about her. It is not about you. Helps her to feel better about herself. Think about it. If you really are the worthless, ugly creature she’s making you out to be she wouldn’t be spending her time and energy victimising you. Shes pissed that you left her. End of! Don’t let her win by allowing your self esteem to be shattered. Think highly of yourself , focus on recovery and move on. Ignore and report her. 4
mark clemson Posted May 15, 2021 Posted May 15, 2021 ^^ excellent points (and many above were as well). I'll add that she is abusive as well at least now in the current situation. Unfortunately there are those in the world who do not process break ups well. You "hurt" them so suddenly (in their minds) all the normal social conventions suddenly don't apply. Slash tires, kidnap the dog, stalking, fake rape reports, etc, etc. What you are, unfortunately, experiencing is all very much her issue (and a real problem that she will have to address sooner or later) and very, very little to do with you. 5
Miss Spider Posted May 16, 2021 Posted May 16, 2021 (edited) Thank you so much. Had an ex steal my dog, go completely apes***. I just learn to pick them more carefully now. People be crazy. i’m sorry she is doing this to you but realize there is nothing wrong with your face she is just angry and trying to lash out at you and hurt you. Don’t let her Edited May 16, 2021 by Cookiesandough 3
spiderowl Posted May 16, 2021 Posted May 16, 2021 I am really sorry to hear what is happening to you, Rudiger. As far as I can see, all you have done is to break up with her. She has the kind of personality that is not coping very well and is stalking you, being actively vindictive, and trying to manipulate you to stay in touch with her. The stuff she did with encouraging her friends to roast your face is despicable. Like another poster said, if there was anything wrong with your looks, she would not be so desperate to get back with you. Her friends are probably joining in because (a) they are stupid, or (b) they have been given a false story by her of how you treated her. She is probably telling them you abused her and stuff, all sorts of made-up rubbish. She is trying to get you to engage with her by threatening to harm herself. She has some kind of personality problem and this is not your responsibility. You need to block her on all fronts and block those who have supported her on your social media. You do not have to put up with this. If harassment continues, report it to the social media company. I hate to say it but you should also be mindful of your own safety. Assume she is a hostile stalker and take advice on how to keep safe in such circumstances. If she does anything like turning up at your home and refuses to leave or continues to turn up, then report her to the police for stalking and harassment. You could always phone them to ask for advice anyway. Stalkers are not rational and your ex has been vindictive. Take care of yourself. 2
smackie9 Posted May 18, 2021 Posted May 18, 2021 (edited) Dude don't sweat it. Everyone knows she is bat S%^& cray cray and totally butt hurt. You let her shenanigans get the best of you, she wins. Don't let her win, just ignore it. Nothing more will make her happy than you reacting to it. She will know she's getting to you and will amp it up. She gets no reaction, eventually she will deflate like a balloon. This storm will blow over.....relax. Edited May 18, 2021 by smackie9 1
kendahke Posted May 18, 2021 Posted May 18, 2021 On 5/14/2021 at 6:03 PM, rudiger said: I have but she knows my cousins You know them better and they know you better. I'm sure you've had conversations with them about how she is, so they already know that she's crazy. Still, you have a better rapport--through blood--than she ever will. Their loyalty is to you, not her, so level with them about what she's trying to do and for them to call the police if she's calling them, threatening to harm herself or anyone else. They will take it from there. This isn't your battle, it's hers. Quote and makes threats about taking her own life and not wanting to live which worries me and makes unblock and talk her out of it by returning to her. I fell like I am in this vicious cycle I can't get out of. Do. Not. Do. That!! Keep her on block. She is manipulating you by doing all of this drama. Don't return to her--you are pretty free of her right now, make that a permanent policy going forward. You can break the cycle by not feeding this beast. Anyone in your social circle who choose to believe her aren't really your friends and it's best you know that sooner rather than later. If she tells you she's going to take her life, report her to the police--they will take her to 24 hour observation and she'll straighten up her silliness under observation. 2
dramafreezone Posted May 19, 2021 Posted May 19, 2021 (edited) On 5/14/2021 at 2:31 PM, rudiger said: I broke up with my girl and she started roasting my physical appearance comparing me to another boy she found attractive really going in on me. And so I blocked her, but she created a new account and used my pic in a group chat and got all her friends to roast my face. About 10 people were taking turns to grill me It literally shattered my self esteem and confidence. And made me feel I needed to get plastic surgery for my nose and lips. All because I broke up with her, she even sent me a letter trying to emotionally manipulate me with threats. What do I do? She refuses to let me go and always finds a way back into my life through my social media pages. How do I get rid of her? Please someone help me out! Hmmm, this seems unusually mean spirited. What was your role in all of this? How did you break up with her? Were you hurtful, call her names? People don't just behave this way out of nowhere and there's always two sides of the story. Edited May 19, 2021 by dramafreezone
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