killerlooks Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 I've been seeing this guy since the beginning of September. Well, over the weekend we had a disagreement. He was in a meeting and I was in the middle of a party for my kids so we didn't get to discuss things. I phoned him this morning and I apologized and said that I realized that I had over reacted and I explained why I had been so upset. Anyway, he said it's the second time that I have spoken to him in that tone of voice and he was very disappointed in me. Anyway, I tried to make light of the situation and I said that if were in an argument maybe we could have make up sex. He just grunted. Guys, do you think this is over. I really really like this guy. Also another question - do guys like it when girls have brazilian waxes?
NTB Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 make up sex is good and a brazilian is also good as for it being over i guess it really depends on the argumwnt and how much this guy really likes you....if my girl told me we could have make up sex i don't think i would grunt
alphamale Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 make up sex is good and a brazilian is also good I agree NTB
Art_Critic Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Baggage is wonderful huh ? If a girl I was just starting to date took a tone with me more than once my red flag alarm would be going off loud and clear. I would try and see if you can repair it.. but it sounds as if you guys aren';t compatable.. Arguing this early in a relationship is not a good sign
alphamale Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Arguing this early in a relationship is not a good sign Well A_C....not agruing at all is an even worse sign.
Art_Critic Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Well A_C....not agruing at all is an even worse sign. A_M you are right that not arguing is worse... But deeper in the realtionship.. They have only been seeing each other less than 45 days.. If neither are still on their good behavior then things are going to worsen..
Author killerlooks Posted October 17, 2005 Author Posted October 17, 2005 Let me just clarify something. I have actually known this guy for over 10 years. We have been very good friends. We decided that we would give a romantic - well really a sexual relationship a try. Anyway, the argument on the weekend happened over a problem with his ex-wife and he thinks my reaction was in the wrong. I really care about this guy. Is there anything I can say or do to get through to him.
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Just to update, we spoke again yesterday. He was a bit warmer but still standoffish. I still want make up sex but I think I will give him some room. If I don't hear from him again then so be it. My friend, who knows him as well, thinks that he's in love with me and that is why he was reacting that way to our disagreement. Anyway, I said I was sorry but I'm not going to grovel.
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Did you ask what bothered him? Or just assume? If you asked, have said sorry and are genuinely willing to change - as opposed to making light of whatever bothered him - he shouldn't sulk. Also another question - do guys like it when girls have brazilian waxes? Brazilian stubble is painful
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Yeah, I know exactly what bothered him. He had warned me during the week what would happen on SAturday and that I should try not to put him in the middle - which I really wasn't doing but he felt I was. So now he's disappointed in me blah blah blah. I said sorry, explained my point of view. Like I said, I'm not going to grovel.
elijahBailey Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Just to update, we spoke again yesterday. He was a bit warmer but still standoffish. I still want make up sex but I think I will give him some room. If I don't hear from him again then so be it. My friend, who knows him as well, thinks that he's in love with me and that is why he was reacting that way to our disagreement. Anyway, I said I was sorry but I'm not going to grovel. ahem.. you're not getting it.... the makeup sex, that is. What makeup sex means to me is that the girl does all the grovelling and jump me. That, to me, is the best kind of sex. I think he's waitin' for you to make the first move. I mean, think about it.... banging a woman who's submissive and who goes all the way out to make up for what she's done wrong................ whew, gotta stop, I'm sweating already.....
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Look, I told him I wanted make up sex. He has to come to me for it. I'm not going to beg. I really really want the make up sex though:D
Art_Critic Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 A little groveling never hurt anybody.. If you want him you may have to work for him.. Remember there is a fine line between a little groveling and pathetic weakness
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Doesn't too much grovelling make you look pathetic. He just seemed so upset with me yesterday like he was ready to end it. Was I so wrong.
elijahBailey Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Look, I told him I wanted make up sex. He has to come to me for it. I'm not going to beg. I really really want the make up sex though:D If I were him, yer gonna have to grovel
slubberdegullion Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 He had warned me during the week what would happen on SAturday and that I should try not to put him in the middle - which I really wasn't doing but he felt I was... Perception is everything. It sounds like he spoke to you about the details regarding Saturday but either you didn't listen, didn't care, dismissed his concerns as irrelevant or simply wasn't interested. Then his predictions came true. I'd be pissed off too, if all my warnings were disregarded and my partner got snippy about it. Sorry to be so blunt, but IMHO I think you've got some power issues you'd better clear up.
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Wow that was blunt but well taken. He misunderstood what I said to him. I did respect what he told me and I realized after that he didn't get what I was saying but he isn't listening. Seems like he's on a bit of a power trip too.
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 well, I think it's over. I just called him and asked him if he was still upset with me and he after hesitation said no and then I asked him if we were going to continue having our sexcapade and he said that he was in a bit of a situation and couldn't talk. I said just tell me yes or no and he said he could n't talk. If it was yes, he would just say yes. Anyway, I'm a bit depressed right now.
elijahBailey Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 wow! sorry. He sounds pretty uptight. You can still save it by implementing the emergency plan tho. Dress skimpy and show up at his door and grovel.. Men are suckers for that. If you do that and he's still standoffish then you're better off without him.
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Thanks. He needs to borrow my camcorder tomorrow. I will try and see. He's supposed to call me back so we can talk.......
slubberdegullion Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Talk, talk, talk, talk... You and he have already talked enough about this. Quit the needy yammering. Take action. Seriously.
Author killerlooks Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 i agree. He's the one that wants to keep talking. I just want the sex. Shut up already. Anyway, I think I am basically considering this relationship over already. Maybe I'll see if I can get one more out of him and then cut ties.
Author killerlooks Posted October 19, 2005 Author Posted October 19, 2005 Yeeehaaa. We just had great make-up sex in the vacant washroom in my office. AWESOME!!!
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