Kelly19 Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Hi any help on this would be great.. I've been with my bf for around 8 months now. He's at law school & i'm also at university but because of his work load we don't get to see each other more than once or twice a week at the most. I'd like a more serious relationship & although I love him I'm thinking of ending it. I understand that it's hard for him to be more serious at the moment but I'm just not happy in this kind of a relationship. I've told him this many times but he says it's impossibe for anything to change at the moment as he has a lot of work to do for his degree. I've recently met a guy who wants a serious relationship & I think it could work between us. So I was wondering if anyone could help me make this decision. What's the right thing to do? Should I stay in a relationship with a guy I love but a relationship that I'm unhappy in or should I end it so that in future I could have a "proper" relationship? I've ended it before but I he always begs me to reconsider & because I love him I end up taking him back. My friends think that because we love each other I should just wait it out & things will improve once we've finished university. But I'm not too sure that love is enough to ever have a future in such a casual relationship. Thanks alot.
StellarCat Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I don't think that you can compromise your own happiness for anyone. It's way too codependent. If you're not happy, you shouldn't stay in a relationship. However, I would not jump into another relationship right away. It's just a recipe for disaster. You need to give yourself time to heal, or you will not have a successful relationship. If you are really unhappy with the way things are, you need to change it. If you end it, you need to be firm. If you end it and he begs you to come back don't do it. Just give yourself some time. I think you may love each other, but the time is not right. Why don't you take a break from each other until things can be different?
noitoved Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I'm just not happy in this kind of a relationship. I agree with the previous post in that you should not compromise your happiness . And is "love" enough to sustain a relationship without time, commitment, and compromise to one another? I personally do not believe so.
Jayhawks Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I think the problem is you in the relationship. You want more of his time and you are not willing to wait. If you just want someone who wants to do what you want, when you want it then by all means end the relationship. He deserves someone who loves him as well as stands by him when times are not so fun.
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