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Ghosting is actually the better type of rejection because the other type makes me wanna SNAP out and send her a nasty message

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introverted1 Established Member

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1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

You don't drive?

 

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Gaeta Established Member

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Some men need to understand the following: 

You don't drive = no sex

As simple as that. 

 

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d0nnivain Established Member

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13 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Some men need to understand the following: 

You don't drive = no sex

As simple as that. 

That is one person's opinion.  Depending on where you live driving is not that important.  In a big city or someplace with good public transportation it's not a deal breaker.  In the sticks, well it becomes an issue.  Ride sharing makes it's less important but being autonomous is key 

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I've been ghosted a few times, and it hurts and does feel like a waste of time. I much prefer the person just reach out and tell me they aren't interested or that the connection wasn't there. Closes the door for me on that situation and makes it easier to move ahead. However, when I've tried this myself I've gotten mixed responses. A lot of people get defensive and want to know why it isn't working, or just get nasty. So it's like a double-edged sword. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

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Gaeta Established Member

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29 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

That is one person's opinion.  Depending on where you live driving is not that important.  In a big city or someplace with good public transportation it's not a deal breaker.  In the sticks, well it becomes an issue.  Ride sharing makes it's less important but being autonomous is key 

It's important I'd say to the majority of women with children. She doesn't want to add to the equation a man that doesn't drive. Women with cars don't want to drive their BF, it's embarassing.  I understand 2 single people with no kids and no cars it works just fine because they have the same life style but this woman has a car, has kids, I assure you she knows everywhere they'll go she'll be driving and she won't be able to count on him for emergencies, errands, and the whatsnot we encounter as a parent, and not just as a parent. 

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elaine567 Established Member

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 I have a feeling that hug she gave you as you got out of HER car was more about pity than affection.
"Poor guy, no car and I am about to dump him, oh dear..." 
Gaeta is right, a woman with kids will not want to have to drive her bf around too...
Yes, it is embarrassing and it will also be a source of arguments and resentment... 
 

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52 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

That is one person's opinion.  Depending on where you live driving is not that important.  In a big city or someplace with good public transportation it's not a deal breaker.  In the sticks, well it becomes an issue.  Ride sharing makes it's less important but being autonomous is key 

Agreed, it depends on the location. But if this woman needs to drive him and he takes Uber then public transport isn’t great or doesn’t exist where he is. 
 

I have a car and I don’t want to be driving around a man who’s not even my boyfriend. 
I’m independent and he should be too. He’s not 18. He’s 38. 

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2 hours ago, sunny-daze said:

I've been ghosted a few times, and it hurts and does feel like a waste of time. I much prefer the person just reach out and tell me they aren't interested or that the connection wasn't there. Closes the door for me on that situation and makes it easier to move ahead. However, when I've tried this myself I've gotten mixed responses. A lot of people get defensive and want to know why it isn't working, or just get nasty. So it's like a double-edged sword. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

For me I don't understand why someone would keep messaging you if she was interested. Just send a nice message saying you're not interested and that saves both of you time and heartache.

Why string someone along texting them if you're not interested? If they get nasty just block them.

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4 minutes ago, max3732 said:

For me I don't understand why someone would keep messaging you if she was interested. Just send a nice message saying you're not interested and that saves both of you time and heartache.

Why string someone along texting them if you're not interested? If they get nasty just block them.

Some people don’t see a problem with stringing people along for company, conversation, sex, and a whole bunch of other possibilities that will never happen even though the other person probably wishes it would. I agree with you it seems wrong 

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15 hours ago, elaine567 said:

 I have a feeling that hug she gave you as you got out of HER car was more about pity than affection.
"Poor guy, no car and I am about to dump him, oh dear..." 
Gaeta is right, a woman with kids will not want to have to drive her bf around too...
Yes, it is embarrassing and it will also be a source of arguments and resentment... 
 

well its over, I will be at the casino until about late june and get back to dating in July

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4 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

well its over, I will be at the casino until about late june and get back to dating in July

All that money you waste on gambling why not use it for something that will render you more independant and appealing, like a car?

I've also heard you complain that you live paycheck to paycheck in a dead end job. You think bringning that paycheck to casino will fix that? It doesn't, casino just numbs you. 

You sound like a man with a lot of wasted potential. 

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23 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

well its over, I will be at the casino until about late june and get back to dating in July

 

18 hours ago, Gaeta said:

All that money you waste on gambling why not use it for something that will render you more independant and appealing, like a car?

I've also heard you complain that you live paycheck to paycheck in a dead end job. You think bringning that paycheck to casino will fix that? It doesn't, casino just numbs you. 

You sound like a man with a lot of wasted potential. 

Yes OP. What's going on in your mind?

 

Get a car, better yourself, get a good job. 

 

All of those things will help you feel better and will also help you get a quality woman. I can tell you right now, there are no good women who are willing to seriously date a man who spends what little income he has on the casino and THIS is probably why you can't lock a woman down. 

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7 minutes ago, Dis said:

 

Yes OP. What's going on in your mind?

 

Get a car, better yourself, get a good job. 

 

All of those things will help you feel better and will also help you get a quality woman. I can tell you right now, there are no good women who are willing to seriously date a man who spends what little income he has on the casino and THIS is probably why you can't lock a woman down. 

I have to move first since this area I live in doesn't have many places to park.     Even when I had visitors they had a hard time finding a parking spot.

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8 minutes ago, Dis said:

 

Yes OP. What's going on in your mind?

 

Get a car, better yourself, get a good job. 

 

All of those things will help you feel better and will also help you get a quality woman. I can tell you right now, there are no good women who are willing to seriously date a man who spends what little income he has on the casino and THIS is probably why you can't lock a woman down. 

then when I get a car I will see a woman saying this in her profile............."i dont mind guys who dont drive because I think its romantic to catch a cab together"  lol

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10 minutes ago, Dis said:

 

Yes OP. What's going on in your mind?

 

Get a car, better yourself, get a good job. 

 

All of those things will help you feel better and will also help you get a quality woman. I can tell you right now, there are no good women who are willing to seriously date a man who spends what little income he has on the casino and THIS is probably why you can't lock a woman down. 

the casino funds is in a separate account and not connected to my everyday living account.    So when I lose nothing its no big deal

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Sry if this sounds harsh, but it’s clear to anyone with any insight at all who reads your posts why you struggle with dating so much. And not just your job/living situation though that’s a thing.. but your whole attitude about dating that bleeds through your posts. Ask yourself...  would you want to date you ? I think you need to work on yourself your life/yourself first, I mean that with no disrespect , I’m far from perfect myself... but like, look at the title of this thread.....

 

I feel that otherwise you’re just going to become more embittered with more dating failures  .

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8 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

then when I get a car I will see a woman saying this in her profile............."i dont mind guys who dont drive because I think its romantic to catch a cab together"  lol

Like that is going to happen?
 

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8 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

then when I get a car I will see a woman saying this in her profile............."i dont mind guys who dont drive because I think its romantic to catch a cab together"  lol

No woman would ever say this. Ever. 

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55 minutes ago, hippychick3 said:

No woman would ever say this. Ever. 

But even if they did... You can have a car and not drive it everywhere. I have a car. I don't drive when I go out. Because I want to be able to have a drink and I don't want to drink and drive. So I get a cab/Uber/Bolt/whatever, or I walk. Or take public transport. I don't drive if I know it's gonna be a pain to park. 

So you can drive, have a car, and still get a cab. They aren't mutually exclusive. 

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12 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

then when I get a car I will see a woman saying this in her profile............."i dont mind guys who dont drive because I think its romantic to catch a cab together"  lol

No. 

We don't think that's romantic. Stop making excuses for yourself. 

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22 hours ago, Dis said:

 

Yes OP. What's going on in your mind?

 

Get a car, better yourself, get a good job. 

 

All of those things will help you feel better and will also help you get a quality woman. I can tell you right now, there are no good women who are willing to seriously date a man who spends what little income he has on the casino and THIS is probably why you can't lock a woman down. 

I dont live paycheck to paycheck.

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