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I don't know if I feel attracted to him. but scared to break up.


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Unfortunately it's toxic, no matter how you want to spin it. It's not about race, it's not about neuropsychiatric illnesses, etc.

Try not to put a lot  social media topics and issue into a blender and come up with reasons why he wants to break up.

 Just let go. It's not working in itself. You don't need  reasons.

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12 hours ago, xoxobby_25 said:

The slapping face part doesn’t sound as strange as what it seems. But I asked him why he slapping his face and he said he was doing it because he was trying stop himself from crying. 

Xoxobby, the majority of adults don't hit themselves. It's strange, no matter how you want to rationalize it, and no matter what reasons he gives for doing so. Something more is going on there.  

Anyway, I agree with @Wiseman2. This just isn't working and it's become toxic. Time to walk. 

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UPDATE:

I broke up with him...I basically just told him that I feel like we aren't compatible and we both deserve someone that's suited for each other. 

He responded telling me "thanks for letting me know...thank you for everything and I wish you the best".

How I am feeling? Terrible. All these what if's are popping into my head, that I could have given it another chance (especially because he said he "could" compromise with the stuff involving my family). It has hit me that the relationship is well and truly over. 

But I know deep down that this was the right decision. I just wasn't feeling it for him anymore. 

I know i'll find someone one day but now I just want to focus on myself. 

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6 hours ago, xoxobby_25 said:

I broke up with him...I basically just told him that I feel like we aren't compatible and we both deserve someone that's suited for each other. He responded telling me "thanks for letting me know...thank you for everything and I wish you the best".

Excellent. He seems as relieved as you are. That's ok, it's a great lesson in what works for you and what doesn't.

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