Craff99 Posted May 5, 2021 Posted May 5, 2021 Hi everyone, I’m 21 and recently single after an 18 month relationship ended. The relationship didn’t end particularly badly, but my partner sighted her anxiety as a contributing factor to its downfall and that she needed to figure herself out alone and not drag someone else through it. I completely understand that but she spent the last couple of months giving me little to no attention or love and it’s really hurt me. Initially I thought I’d let her have some space and maybe it would work itself out but it didn’t seem to make a difference. When I confronted her about she said she felt bad for leading me on, and we broke up the next day over the phone. I found the initial idea of it very tough but over the next month I found myself feeling like a weight was lifted off of me and it felt good to have clarity finally. I started spending more time with my friends, really enjoying life again and even started thinking about going on dates, but last night I had an extremely vivid dream which messed with me. In the dream I opened my bedroom door to find my girlfriend outside, she hugged me, gave me a kiss and told me she loved me and we’ll get back together, she just needs time. I literally woke up in floods of tears, and I don’t know if I’m being soppy or if this is a sign? If you’ve read this far I was just wondering does anyone have any thoughts on my situation and thanks for reading! Sometimes you just need a place to vent :)
d0nnivain Posted May 5, 2021 Posted May 5, 2021 It's not a sign that you should get back with her. In the dream she is not her but a symbol. You are ready to open yourself up & find love again. So happy hunting for your next relationship.
Author Craff99 Posted May 5, 2021 Author Posted May 5, 2021 Thank you d0nnivain, I was going along that path until yesterday. Your explanation has pointed me back in the right direction again thank you! 1
Wiseman2 Posted May 5, 2021 Posted May 5, 2021 6 hours ago, Craff99 said: I found myself feeling like a weight was lifted off of me and it felt good to have clarity finally. I started spending more time with my friends, really enjoying life again and even started thinking about going on dates Excellent, keep it up. You dodged a bullet. Even so, breakups hurt and take time to unwind the memories, etc.
mark clemson Posted May 5, 2021 Posted May 5, 2021 8 hours ago, Craff99 said: I literally woke up in floods of tears, and I don’t know if I’m being soppy or if this is a sign? Uncontrollable crying is a possible symptom of depression. Being a bit depressed due to a break up is certainly not unheard of. However, if it keeps up or there are other signs, or your sadness continues to intensify substantially, consider seeing a counselor. 1
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