Super89Rex Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Well last week met this amazing girl off of a personals site. On Friday we met up, there was amazing chemistry so I thought. She was laughing and giggling, blushing, she even complimented my eyes ("gorgeous eyes") and I thought 100% without a doubt I had something good. I asked her out to lunch on Saturday, Saturday comes around; I was supposed to call, no where to be found so I left a message. Called again Sunday, no answer; ok so I left it at that. Last night she emails me saying she doesn't want a commitment, and isnt interested, bla bla saying shes sorry? like wtf is that all about? She said she was worried it would move too fast, how could it have moved too fast if she agreed to go out with me then ditched me.. I admit maybe I was a little too into her and got my hopes up big time, I had my screen name changed to "I saw an angel today, yes im talking about you" did that like freak her out or something? This makes no sense! its like I did something terribly wrong, I mean maybe I came off as needy or something; but this absolutely sucks, we definitely clicked and I felt that chemistry; not she all of a sudden out of the blue doesn't want annything to do with me; she even ignored me instant messeges and emailed me instead.. man, I think im going to take a break from women for a long time.. Sorry for the rant, any input?
NTB Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 rex.. don't chase this girl, she ditched you......move on and look for another who will at least take your phone calls
slubberdegullion Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 You've got no real attachment to this chick yet, so close the door. Anyone who'd be that callous with your feelings isn't worth your time. Move on.
westernxer Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Definitely move on. Next time don't call so much, either. If you leave a message and they don't respond, don't call again. Chemistry be damned. It's a learning experience, I know, but the sooner you learn this the better off you'll be.
Neptune Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 This is the second post in a matter of days from a guy that got excited about a first date with a gal he met on the internet. With the same result....she didn`t want anything more to do with him. The problem most likely is the guy is not percieving things correctly. He`s into her but, and here I`m speculating, she is disappointed in the meeting. So why did she seem to be so into the moment? Because it is all an act to get through the date and get the hell outta there. The big problem for the guy is he is coming on too strong. But, chances are she was somewhat disappointed from the beginning. Guy`s listen up. If you are tuned in close enough to what is really going on with that gal in front of you would know that all was not well. There is not a woman on the planet that is that good an actress. There is enough body language info there that would at least say she is ambivalent. But, the guy being caught up in the moment, misses the clues.
Author Super89Rex Posted October 18, 2005 Author Posted October 18, 2005 Well, I just spoke with her on MSN finally.. I thought she was ignoring me for sure. Anyways, she told me she doesnt think im an obsessed freak or anything; I told her I was sorry if I gave her that impression and would still love to be friends. I also told her if she ever wanted to go out sometime she can let me know but I wasn't going to pressure her or anything. She said it was her fault for bailing on our plans and that she simply isnt ready for a relationship; so it is good we are talking again. I dont see how its an issue of not being attractive to her considering how she complimented my eyes and constantly called me cute and adorable before; and now all of a sudden stopped.. She said she just "realized" she cant be tied down, etc.. This is just crazy, is she like ignoring her feelings or something here? How should I play this? As of now we're just talking on MSN I dont want to call her or anything it might seem a bit obsessive or something.. Any suggestions?
westernxer Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 How should I play this? As of now we're just talking on MSN I dont want to call her or anything it might seem a bit obsessive or something.. Any suggestions? Yeah, don't call her.
hooghie Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 She let you down easily. Even if she liked your eyes or thought you were cute, that doesn't mean she felt the 'connection' she was expecting. I can admit lots of guys are attractive, but they may not really be all that attractive to me. MOVE ON. It's not that she doesn't want to be in a relationship, she doesn't want one with you. I'm fairly certain she is still trying to meet guys online.
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