Author Miss Peach Posted May 6, 2021 Author Posted May 6, 2021 14 hours ago, Soak said: Ahh yeah, fair enough. If you'd already broken up and he was just "reaching out" over text and it was low-investment, then ignoring or sending a light-hearted, non-committal text is okay, imo. Good idea to be sensible and keep it surface level, in case you see him again. The only part that I don't was clear was he forced the "I want more time and for this to be a relationship" talk and I said no and we wished each other well in the break up call. It was him reaching out for a second chance. I tried to gently remind him nothing changed and wished him well. The last contact he reached out on I just let it go to voicemail and did NC. It's probably likely to be over now. 9 hours ago, Caauug said: FYI: Men, for the most part, can not read minds. Men, for the most part, can not pick up on hints. Men, for the most part, are very poor at understanding cryptic female languages... If you need a man to know something tell him straight in his native language, plain and simple. Being dumped for Guy B is going to hurt!!!. I was very upfront with Guy A. I laid out my schedule and said this is how much time I have for you, here are other things I have going on in my life, etc. I friend zoned him when I met him though that line was crossed a little on both sides and and he initially was happy with "whatever this is". I hadn't even reconnected with guy B yet through these discussions. He was the one who chose to have other priorities for a lot of that free time and then when our schedules didn't line up well for two weeks (one of those weeks he went out of town) he freaked out. If I hadn't met Guy B I would have gone with no guy at that point.
Caauug Posted May 6, 2021 Posted May 6, 2021 1 hour ago, Miss Peach said: I was very upfront with Guy A. I laid out my schedule and said this is how much time I have for you, here are other things I have going on in my life, etc. I friend zoned him when I met him though that line was crossed a little on both sides and and he initially was happy with "whatever this is" My point is: Don't try to be kind. You being kind to him is really being cruel.... If you don't want him to be a BF/lover/what ever, let him go. Keeping him in the FZ is only allowing him to torcher himself wanting/waiting more in limbo living on hopetom..... He may not be the man you want, or that any woman wants, but that doesn't mean you should use him for your own ego boost at his expense.... I know, I'm talking on deaf ears.... Guy A is a simp, he will take what ever he can get from you.... Even if it is just a fraction... That is really sad...
glows Posted May 6, 2021 Posted May 6, 2021 On 5/4/2021 at 2:31 PM, Miss Peach said: The initial breakup was over phone since he initiated the conversation that way. He reached out a week later over text asking to talk (second chance). I was trying to find a nice response to say nothing has changed but best of luck. At this point I'm not engaging anymore unless I happen to run into him socially. Yes, just leave it at that. There's no need for other discussion. If you run into him socially also, keep it light and brief. 2
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