sunshine12345 Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 (edited) I’ve been dating my GF for roughly 5mths. Things were going great and recently in the past few days she gone distant on me. Hardly texting or wanting to see me. It’s as if she’s walked out and forgot about me! I cannot even think what could have sparked this! This whole thing has really made me anxious and at my wits end over the last few days not knowing what’s going on. i dunno what to do! Wait till she gets in contact ? Edited April 30, 2021 by sunshine12345 Spelling error
Alfano Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 How many times have you reached out via texts and calls?
Author sunshine12345 Posted April 30, 2021 Author Posted April 30, 2021 Well we have texted every so often for the last few days. My last message I sent to her last night, at the very end I said I missed her and when she texted back she ignored that part of the text and wrote back something else! Today I’ve not heard anything or neither have I attempted to message her.
Alpacalia Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 You're in a relationship, so you'll have to talk about difficult subjects from time to time. I think I’d tell her your concerns (about her actual behavior, not its suspected cause) and see if there is a way back to how you were together before.
Wiseman2 Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 1 hour ago, sunshine12345 said: My last message I sent to her last night, at the very end I said I missed her and when she texted back she ignored that part of the text and wrote back something else. Sorry this is happening. Was there an argument? Is she on/off with an ex? It seems like she's texting, not ghosting, but apparently tiptoeing out of the relationship. Have you asked her what's wrong? "I miss you" seems pretty vague, no?
d0nnivain Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 5 hours ago, sunshine12345 said: Well we have texted every so often for the last few days. My last message I sent to her last night, at the very end I said I missed her and when she texted back she ignored that part of the text and wrote back something else! You are over thinking it. After 5 months you have to have faith that a small hiccup is not the end of everything. Send her an upbeat positive message & set up your next date. She did not forget about you. However, if you regularly see each other you saying that you miss her is ridiculous & comes across as clingy. Have you been exhibiting other clingy needy behaviors that are pushing her away?
Author sunshine12345 Posted May 1, 2021 Author Posted May 1, 2021 10 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: 6 hours ago, d0nnivain said: You are over thinking it. After 5 months you have to have faith that a small hiccup is not the end of everything. Send her an upbeat positive message & set up your next date. She did not forget about you. However, if you regularly see each other you saying that you miss her is ridiculous & comes across as clingy. Have you been exhibiting other clingy needy behaviors that are pushing her away? No never been clingy with her. She has always been the 1st to put in her messages that she misses me. We only see each other when I’m off work which can be some weekends or during the week.
glows Posted May 1, 2021 Posted May 1, 2021 Have you heard from her today? Do you know why she may be busier than usual? Trust a person by their actions, not their words. Things like missing you etc are words. Words fall flat and sound empty when they don't match a person's actions. At five months all you have to do is look at her actions over time. Ask her out this weekend if you're both free and plan something together. Make time. Don't just text it either. Call her if possible.
Wiseman2 Posted May 1, 2021 Posted May 1, 2021 So, when is the next date set up? What's the point of "I miss you" back and forth if you are not setting up dates? You seem panicked over supposed ghosting but how is the communication and dating going? Is she losing interest? Are you long distance? What's up with the "I miss you" if you see each other regularly?
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