Got a match tonight on Bumble and the conversation didnt seem to take off, let me know from this exchange if I could have done anything differently

[IntBrowser]

Thanks.   So here is the convo once we matched

 

Her......Hell how is your evening?

Me........"Good evening.   my evening is much better now that we had that big rain storm.   its much cooler now.  How was your Thursday?

Her...My day was good so happy tomorrow is friday

Me....Yes the end of the week is always a good thing and it will be even better once the summer starts   have you always lived in Philly?

Her....No I was born and raised in NYC and moved to Philly 3 years ago.

Me.....Ok cool, do you have a favorite area of Philly?

Her...Not really

 

That is where the convo seemed to lose momentum and I thought it was a nice back and forth up until that point.     I asked her one more question since she stated in her profile she was a pizza lover and gave her a compliment saying she looks nice in her glasses

Her response......Thank you and Pepperoni

 

I asked another question and havent got a response back.    And that's where we are right now.      So is there anything I could have done differently?     This is why I miss telephone dating

[Maldives]

No not really I'm pretty much like you I get that same kinda response and it fades out. The ones I really connect with just seem to flow naturally and the key being they are interested. Nothing you could have done here or even better 

[IntBrowser]

17 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said:

No not really I'm pretty much like you I get that same kinda response and it fades out. The ones I really connect with just seem to flow naturally and the key being they are interested. Nothing you could have done here or even better 

that response to the philly question killed the convo

[Maldives]

Such a trivial thing if they were interested that kinda question shouldn't matter that's my opinion 

[Maldives]

Try and think of it like this...if she said something to you that was trivial or superficial would it make you shut down the conversation? Probably not, why because your interested in this person 

[Gaeta]

You did fine, I suspect she was chatting several men at the same time so didn't invest too much into your converstation. By doing that she lost the opportunity to get to know more about an interesting man who's serious about dating. 

[SaraSays]

It reads to me like an interrogation. You're asking questions, but revealing nothing about yourself. An example would be before asking if she has always lived somewhere, you could have explained your background, or anything else interesting about your life or you. The questions are also predictable and a little boring in my opinion. You're giving someone little of yourself, in my opinion, and making them needlessly jump through hoops to get to know you. Questions can be very intrusive, so it's always better to pepper them with other bits of info, so a person can avoid answering something, if the answer would be painful or embarassing to reveal to a stranger.

Rainstorms would be a beautiful topic of conversation, I think. Both in the metaphorical sense (clearing away cobwebs in life, new starts, an ending before a new beginning), and to experience when we're safe and warm, whether we're outside dancing barefoot in them, or watching from a window with a warm cup of tea in our hands and jazz playing softly.

[elaine567]

The question about Philly was obviously a question too far, she couldn't answer that one, so maybe a scammer...

[Sun Seeker]

When she said she is happy tomorrow is Friday your next line should have been asking if she has any plans on the Friday evening, if not, does she fancy spending it having a few celebratory drinks with you.

Asking about Philly etc was so boring.

[poppyfields]

@IntBrowseryour questions were fine.  You simply weren't "vibing" that's all, there was no energy.

I am recalling having a somewhat similar convo with a man, but we were vibing, that energy was there; I even remember feeling nervous and couldn't type properly! Lol

I deleted a message inadvertently, I was even chuckling to myself how flustered I felt, this was our first chat!

Wouldn't have mattered what the hell he wrote, when you're vibing, you feel it and that's what matters. 

I actually don't bother anymore chatting with men I'm not vibing with, and yes you can feel that "energy" on line. And usually very quickly at least for me.

 

Edited April 30, 2021 by poppyfields

[IntBrowser]

3 hours ago, Punterxx said:

When she said she is happy tomorrow is Friday your next line should have been asking if she has any plans on the Friday evening, if not, does she fancy spending it having a few celebratory drinks with you.

Asking about Philly etc was so boring.

Well maybe if she said my favorite section is Cedar Park,  maybe I could have responded with mentioning cafe in that area to set up a meet

[IntBrowser]

4 hours ago, elaine567 said:

The question about Philly was obviously a question too far, she couldn't answer that one, so maybe a scammer...

Too far?  I dont understand

[IntBrowser]

2 hours ago, poppyfields said:

@IntBrowseryour questions were fine.  You simply weren't "vibing" that's all, there was no energy.

I am recalling having a somewhat similar convo with a man, but we were vibing, that energy was there; I even remember feeling nervous and couldn't type properly! Lol

I deleted a message inadvertently, I was even chuckling to myself how flustered I felt, this was our first chat!

Wouldn't have mattered what the hell he wrote, when you're vibing, you feel it and that's what matters. 

I actually don't bother anymore chatting with men I'm not vibing with, and yes you can feel that "energy" on line. And usually very quickly at least for me.

 

Through electronic messages?

[Gaeta]

I thought asking her if she has a favorite spot in the city was a smart question and a great conversation starter. You're doing ok IntBrowser, she's the boring one if she doesn't have a favorite spot after 3 years. 

[IntBrowser]

2 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I thought asking her if she has a favorite spot in the city was a smart question and a great conversation starter. You're doing ok IntBrowser, she's the boring one if she doesn't have a favorite spot after 3 years. 

that's what I thought which is why I was shocked at..........."not really"     Very negative

[cleverusername]

You just need to work on conversation? Why did you completely change the subject from Philly to a compliment and pizza? That doesn't flow and is abrupt. Just cause she said, "no not really" doesn't mean she is being disingenuous, she may not have a favorite area. Just follow up, you can easily keep the conversation going

you- "so is there really a cheestake war in philly or is that a myth?"

You- "How many times have you done the rocky pose on the museum steps?"

you- "Which do you like better, philly or NYC?" 

So many options. You gotta have fun with it, ask questions you're interested and don't force small talk

Edited April 30, 2021 by cleverusername

[poppyfields]

20 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

Through electronic messages?

Yeah, it's a mental connection.  Hard to explain unless you've experienced.

I felt it immediately, like I said, I became flustered by it.

It's very rare... at least for me.  When it does, best to seize the moment and meet, cause sadly it can be fleeting.

 

Edited April 30, 2021 by poppyfields

[poppyfields]

13 minutes ago, cleverusername said:

you- "so is there really a cheestake war in philly or is that a myth?"

You- "How many times have you done the rocky pose on the museum steps?"

you- "Which do you like better, philly or NYC?" 

So many options. You gotta have fun with it, ask questions you're interested and don't force small talk

  That's some good texting game cleveruser.  

Int, learn from him!

Edited April 30, 2021 by poppyfields

[Miss Peach]

My guess is she was probably maintaining a few conversations and yours was boring. Just about every guy on an online dating site is asking how are you, how was your day, etc. IME it rarely, if never, has led to anything interesting that I want to let go further. I would work on a few more unconventional but flirty questions.

[kendahke]

I see nothing wrong with your side of the conversation--nothing that you should worry over.  Give it a few days and text her something light and airy--no "the day got better now that I've heard from you..." stuff.

Ask more "how" and "why" questions, instead of "who, what, where, when" questions--those are closed ended questions that require direct answers.  You want to ask open questions, that way, she will explain more.

[norealusername]

Your conversation was fine. She wasn't really interested from the start and/or she's a big flake. Don't waste another thought on her.

[Wiseman2]

16 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

Me.....Ok cool, do you have a favorite area of Philly?

Her...Not really

She seems like a real barrel of fun, no? Next.

[introverted1]

3 hours ago, Miss Peach said:

My guess is she was probably maintaining a few conversations and yours was boring. Just about every guy on an online dating site is asking how are you, how was your day, etc. IME it rarely, if never, has led to anything interesting that I want to let go further. I would work on a few more unconventional but flirty questions.

So much this.  It's almost painful how mundane some of the so-called "conversation starters" are.

I do agree that she could have done better with her response to you asking about her favorite part of Philly.  If you'd wanted to keep things going after that, you could have then shared a couple of your favorite parts (with some details about why), preferably parts ideal for a date, and then maybe even suggested showing her these favorite parts at some point.

 

[IntBrowser]

4 hours ago, kendahke said:

I see nothing wrong with your side of the conversation--nothing that you should worry over.  Give it a few days and text her something light and airy--no "the day got better now that I've heard from you..." stuff.

Ask more "how" and "why" questions, instead of "who, what, where, when" questions--those are closed ended questions that require direct answers.  You want to ask open questions, that way, she will explain more.

she unmatched me lol

[norealusername]

She's a flake. When you get no attempt from them at the conversation, just cease talking and move on.. Don't even say bye, just stop talking. Your conversation attempt was perfectly fine, she wasn't serious from the start. There's no magic formula for the initial conversation, she's either interested or she's not.