Is this a sign of something to come/to do with my EX?

[Anon92]

I'm someone who never used to believe in 'signs' from the Universe or somewhere, but recently I've discovered Law of Attraction and Manifesting, and since then I've been getting signs and not sure how I feel.

Me and my ex have been split up a while now, amicable break up. In terms of break ups, it was a good one. Can't speak for her but I've slowly got over it. Recently I've got back into the dating scene which I've enjoyed so far and, not related, but discovered manifesting and Law of Attraction as heard it helps for a health mind (I've always had a healthy mind but doesn't hurt to try and be healthier).

So I started manifesting and being grateful for a healthy life, friends that support me, family that love me, that the sun shines. That I'm worthy of respect, love, and to live a healthy life. All that feel good stuff.

Now to protect myself and to be anonymous, let's call my ex 'Anna M'.

For the last few days, I've been seeing variants of 'Anna M' pop up in different places. I hardly ever ready articles about bloggers and their lives. But read one about an issue I was having (and how they related to that issue) and the blogger signs off as AM (turns out her first name is Anna). At my job I'm currently running a project where I work with different CEO's, and one of them is stated as 'Anna M', all the rest have their full first and surname.

I open twitter. The first post on my feed is about someone called 'Anna'. I go on Reddit, see a post where people are hating on people called 'Anna'.

Also seen the phrase 'two weeks' pop up a lot. I had a dream the other night where I was talking to my family and they randomly said reach out in 'two weeks'. Since then I open a work email, there's a new deadline for 'two weeks'. First post on Facebook I see is that someone is getting a car in 'two weeks'. Just like 'Anna M' I'm starting to see 'two weeks' everywhere. I'm a very aware person, I remember things well and very observant, but I'd say out of all the posts I see, emails I receive and articles I read (not a lot of these recently over the last week), they either involve 'Anna M' or 'Two Weeks'. 

Like WTF is happening?

Can this actually be a sign of something?

Apologies if this is the wrong place to post this 

[d0nnivain]

Nothing is happening.  You are just more attune to this & you have a bias.  I don't remember what the clinical name for the bias is but it's well documented.  If you weren't thinking about your EX, you probably would have glossed over all these other Annas because they would not have been within the realm of things you cared about.  The names have nothing to do with how you do your work products or why you were on Twitter in the 1st place so your brain would have filtered them out but because you were thinking about her, the names stuck out to you. 

Look up clustering illusions & confirmation bias.  

Edited April 26, 2021 by d0nnivain

[Anon92]

1 minute ago, d0nnivain said:

Nothing is happening.  You are just more attune to this & you have a bias.  I don't remember what the clinical name for the bias is but it's well documented.  If you weren't thinking about your EX, you probably would have glossed over all these other Annas because they would not have been within the realm of things you cared about.  The names have nothing to do with how you do your work products or why you were on Twitter in the 1st place so your brain would have filtered them out but because you were thinking about her, the names stuck out to you. 

If you ever find out what that bias is then I'd love to know! I'm fascinated

The strange thing is that I've not been thinking about her at all it's so bizarre! Take away the social media stuff, the only bloggers article I read for like over a month and it's by an 'Anna M'. The only name in my work emails to not have a full name is 'Anna M' (I checked just then). Other things have happened as well where the 'Anna M/AM' is the only thing there, with no alternative or other names laid out the same. Best way I could explain one of those things was let's say you're on a London Tube, you see the row of people sitting opposite you and only one person is reading a book, and the author is 'Anna M'. I wasn't looking for that, I just got bored, looked around to see what others were doing, and then clocked the authors name. Now imagine those things happening multiple times a day for 5 days straight, exactly same amount of days I started manifesting about my life, but no one in particular.

I even watched a video about it on YouTube about manifesting and seeing patterns. I didn't scroll, just clicked the first video at the top of the search results page on YouTube. If you watch YouTube on the YouTube mobile app, you can only see one comment in the comment preview section below the video. So after I watched it, I scroll down to see the comments. Guess what name was in the one comment preview section: Anna M.

That's freaky.

[d0nnivain]

3 minutes ago, Anon92 said:

If you ever find out what that bias is then I'd love to know! I'm fascinated

I think it's confirmation bias or cluster illusions. 

I believe in the power of the universe but you just have to be careful that you are not over-reading things or seeing patterns where there are none 

 

[Ami1uwant]

3 minutes ago, Anon92 said:

If you ever find out what that bias is then I'd love to know! I'm fascinated

The strange thing is that I've not been thinking about her at all it's so bizarre! Take away the social media stuff, the only bloggers article I read for like over a month and it's by an 'Anna M'. The only name in my work emails to not have a full name is 'Anna M' (I checked just then). Other things have happened as well where the 'Anna M/AM' is the only thing there, with no alternative or other names laid out the same. Best way I could explain one of those things was let's say you're on a London Tube, you see the row of people sitting opposite you and only one person is reading a book, and the author is 'Anna M'. I wasn't looking for that, I just got bored, looked around to see what others were doing, and then clocked the authors name. Now imagine those things happening multiple times a day for 5 days straight, exactly same amount of days I started manifesting about my life, but no one in particular.

I even watched a video about it on YouTube about manifesting and seeing patterns. I didn't scroll, just clicked the first video at the top of the search results page on YouTube. If you watch YouTube on the YouTube mobile app, you can only see one comment in the comment preview section below the video. So after I watched it, I scroll down to see the comments. Guess what name was in the one comment preview section: Anna M.

That's freaky.

 

bias is in you are dating again so points of reference will come to recent ones you dates for a long time as a comparison benchmark.

 

I don’t know how linked you two are in social media with common friends.  If you see ads on web page it’s driven by your web history as well as others in social media.

 

 

[Ami1uwant]

If you are over reading into things you might have a denied bias in wanting to get back with her. How would you react to seeing her face to face again and talk?

[Wiseman2]

55 minutes ago, Anon92 said:

Me and my ex have been split up a while now

Sorry to hear that. How long did you date and how long ago did it end?

When something is heavily on your mind, it seemingly pops up everywhere simply because your attention is focused on it.

For example if you saw 20 things with "sally g" recently, you wouldn't pay attention or notice except in passing.

Do you still talk to your ex or follow her social media?

Edited April 26, 2021 by Wiseman2

[Gaeta]

It's like when I bought my Prius, suddenly I was seeing Prius everywhere! in every darn movie or series there is a Prius did you notice that? No because you don't own one.

[Anon92]

31 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said:

If you are over reading into things you might have a denied bias in wanting to get back with her. How would you react to seeing her face to face again and talk?

I don't think I'm over-reading into these things, I'm just noticing these things more since I started manifesting.

[Anon92]

7 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

It's like when I bought my Prius, suddenly I was seeing Prius everywhere! in every darn movie or series there is a Prius did you notice that? No because you don't own one.

One of the big main examples of seeing signs from Law of Attraction and the universe is when you buy something, then all of a sudden you see that product everywhere. The example they gave was buying a new car! Now I would say, what are the chances haha!

[Anon92]

25 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Sorry to hear that. How long did you date and how long ago did it end?

When something is heavily on your mind, it seemingly pops up everywhere simply because your attention is focused on it.

For example if you saw 20 things with "sally g" recently, you wouldn't pay attention or notice except in passing.

Do you still talk to your ex or follow her social media?

Don't speak to her, don't follow her.

Couple of months now.

But the thing is that it's not played on my mind for a while now.

Are you saying it could be my subconscious or something.

 

I'll tell another story. My mate applied for 98 jobs last few months. One got back to him offering an interview. It went well but he didn't get it. He started doing manifestation and  following law of attraction. He said stuff like he was deserving for a good job where the employee respects him. Next day he receives a call saying the guy hired dropped out and they offered it to him. Since then he's been smashing the job and his boss told him you really deserved that job. It can be seen as a coincidence or it could be seen as a sign, suppose it depends what side of the fence you sit on.

[flitzanu]

^^ it doesn't have to be coincidence or synchronicity.  you could also see it as your friend was 2nd choice for the job, and the first choice bailed, so the job went with the 2nd best.  is that a sign from the universe?  that you're 2nd best and 2nd most deserving? 

[Ami1uwant]

4 hours ago, Anon92 said:

One of the big main examples of seeing signs from Law of Attraction and the universe is when you buy something, then all of a sudden you see that product everywhere. The example they gave was buying a new car! Now I would say, what are the chances haha!

That’s a bias in your perception....ie perceptual bias

 

 

You bought it you are familiar with it, thus you see it easier.

[Ami1uwant]

1 hour ago, flitzanu said:

^^ it doesn't have to be coincidence or synchronicity.  you could also see it as your friend was 2nd choice for the job, and the first choice bailed, so the job went with the 2nd best.  is that a sign from the universe?  that you're 2nd best and 2nd most deserving? 

or seeing a pattern that just isn’t there....

[Ami1uwant]

You say you buy something you decided to buy...why because of advertising.  The same source affected others to buy the same things.

[MsJayne]

No, it's just an illusion created by the mind. @d0nnivain I think is describing the phenomena discussed in the article below.  If your ex-GF's name was Rumplestiltskin and you kept encountering other people called Rumplestiltskin, then yes, that would be weirdly coincidental. But it still wouldn't mean that your thoughts are impacting the universe.  

https://lighthouse.mq.edu.au/article/july-2020/What-is-the-Baader-Meinhof-Phenomenon#:~:text=Second take%3A Seeing the same,%2C the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon.

[ExpatInItaly]

I personally don't think it's a sign of anything, no.

And even if it were - then what? Unless your ex is communicating directly with you, and expressing a desire to work things out, signs are meaningless. 

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I personally don't think it's a sign of anything, no.

I think it's a sign that you're obsessing about her but hope to think that the universe is sending these thoughts.

It takes the burden and responsibilities off you and your own thoughts by ascribing it to miscellaneous cosmic signs.

[introverted1]

16 hours ago, d0nnivain said:

I think it's confirmation bias or cluster illusions. 

 

I think it's frequency illusion. 

[SaraSays]

16 hours ago, Anon92 said:

Next day he receives a call saying the guy hired dropped out and they offered it to him. Since then he's been smashing the job and his boss told him you really deserved that job. It can be seen as a coincidence or it could be seen as a sign, suppose it depends what side of the fence you sit on.

I've known people a day before they were fired be told "you're 1 of the best people here". I've watched someone go person to person, agreeing with anything the person said (even where agreeing with person 2 contradicts what they just told person 1 they agreed with), to try to curry favour. I've known women lose their jobs for speaking out about discrimination. I've known poor performance reviews to suddenly be given, in order to get rid of people. I've known people who found out they were leaving when their badge no longer worked, when they were approached from behind at their desk with a box to pack their personal effects into, or when they received 1 of 2 possible envelopes (staying or leaving).

Little is genuine in business. I'm afraid comments like this are throwaway - only things documented in contracts matter in business, as a general rule. Take anything complimentary with a pinch of salt.

[ShyViolet]

No, I do not believe in this stuff at all.  It sounds like made-up nonsense.  You are reading too much into things and seeing what you want to see.  A person could do this with anything.  What exactly is your point with all this?  Are you wanting to get back together with the ex?  If that's what's on your mind then why don't you just say that?

[Alfano]

I had a girlfriend once who pointed out how often 11:11 comes up on a digital clock.

That was over 10 YEARS ago and I notice quite often that the clock says 11:11.

Is 11:11 some sort of "sign"? Does 11:11 come up any more often than any other time?

Of course not. But when you're looking for something you're more likely to find it.

A close correlation is that when you're looking for something and actually find it, it will have much more meaning then if you weren't obsessing over it in the first place.

 

My dog's had the runs for the past 3 days because she got out of the property, ran around the block and ate something she shouldn't have. I've been cleaning up her messes all over the place. Now I see dog crap EVERYWHERE. Even stuff that isn't actually dog crap, LOOKS like dog crap.

 

 

 

[d0nnivain]

13 hours ago, Alfano said:

But when you're looking for something you're more likely to find it.

Exactly!

 

Hope your dog feels better.  

[Maldives]

I believe you call that synchronicity. 

When you experience synchronicity, you’ll have experiences that seem far too significant to be mere day-to-day serendipitous encounters. Some people describe these as ‘freak encounters,’ ‘miracles,’ ‘signs from the heavens,’ guidance from one’s personal spirit guides, or even mystical instances of Soul connection.

Synchronicity can manifest in an endless number of forms. For example, those who experience synchronious events usually report seeing or hearing meaningful names, numbers, words, or symbols.

So, what actually creates synchronicity? Common explanations for the origins of synchronicity include the following:

The unconscious mind. We get warning messages in our dreams, so why can’t we get them in waking life as well? Our unconscious mind influences a lot of our behavior, and at the same time, can also communicate with us. Spiritual signs and omens (or instances of synchronicity) are the unconscious mind’s way of guiding us.

Harmony of energy. As everything consists of tiny vibrating atoms (aka. energy), synchronicity could also be a manifestation of global/environmental harmony, where the frequencies and vibrations of the moment sync together in perfect equilibrium (or Oneness) producing uncanny experiences.

Law of attraction. This theory states that good and bad events in life are caused by your thoughts and feelings. Thus “like attracts like,” which possibly explains why synchronicity occurs.

Psychic abilities. Synchronicity is also thought to be a manifestation of psychic abilities where, for example, we intuit that a certain person will call us or a significant event will befall us, and it does.

There's a meaning here somewhere, keep your awareness and attention up for the meaning guidance 

Edited April 29, 2021 by Goodguy05