SumGuy Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 5 hours ago, unusedturnip said: ....Did I do something wrong by reaching out about her things? No you did nothing wrong and it was taking the high road, the right thing to do. But like I said, how you ask about her wanting her stuff back is critical (it's a minefield man)...to avoid her reading it as an excuse to see her and thus "convince" her to come back/talk about it. That is exactly how she read it it seems from her response. I agree though she was rude about it all, good riddance. 1
Wiseman2 Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 7 hours ago, unusedturnip said: She only blocked me on Whatsapp...... Ok, just leave it. Once someone starts blocking etc., just stand up, and walk out.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 30, 2021 Posted April 30, 2021 11 hours ago, unusedturnip said: I messaged her last night, just asking if she wanted her stuff back. She replied saying "I'm sorry but I don't think it's helpful for us to talk, please do take care x", I replied just saying "sorry I didn't know if you were still struggling, but I totally get it, no worries". She instantly read and then blocked me straight away, before I even got the chance to write "take care". She probably didn't want whatever guy she's spending time with to see your messages.
Author unusedturnip Posted April 30, 2021 Author Posted April 30, 2021 1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said: She probably didn't want whatever guy she's spending time with to see your messages. I can see why you'd guess that but it's not the case. I saw her Instagram story for last three days (was in my feed) and it's constantly her week off from work doing stuff with her family in their cottage in the middle of nowhere on holiday. She's also not been active on the dating app, not checking, just notice it when I'm lingering on the app.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 1, 2021 Posted May 1, 2021 (edited) 9 hours ago, unusedturnip said: I can see why you'd guess that but it's not the case. Unless you are with her yourself, you don't know what exactly she is doing in all her free time, OP. Is is a given that she's got another guy on her radar? No, of course not. Would I rule it out as an impossibility? No, I wouldn't. It would sure explain why she so swiftly prevented you from contacting her when you asked a very simply and reasonable question. Edited May 1, 2021 by ExpatInItaly
Wiseman2 Posted May 1, 2021 Posted May 1, 2021 Once it's over the best thing you can do for yourself is delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps Not as some game, but to move forward in peace without all the background noise from the past. Let go. Just let go.
Author unusedturnip Posted May 1, 2021 Author Posted May 1, 2021 Just got back from handing the ex's things to the mutual friend. Friend asked how I was doing, which was pretty fine, told her the ex blocked me on whatsapp. Friend told me Ex has been struggling since break-up and had to go to her parents cottage just to get away from London for a short while. Adds with the constant updates of her Insta anyway.
SaraSays Posted May 1, 2021 Posted May 1, 2021 Friends know not to say "s/he is deliriously happy now!". We can't take such news seriously, and we shouldn't seek it either. She's part of your past. Try your best to focus on the future. Looking for news on app's will delay healing, and consume time and energy, that should be devoted to looking forwards.
Author unusedturnip Posted May 5, 2021 Author Posted May 5, 2021 Opened up my DMs as I got one from a friend, as I came out of that chat and on to the list of DM chats I have with people I clocked that the image next to my ex's face was blanked out. Clicked on her profile and saw that she's blocked me. We stopped following each other and both of our accounts are on private so no idea why she blocked me there as well
d0nnivain Posted May 5, 2021 Posted May 5, 2021 1 minute ago, unusedturnip said: I clocked that the image next to my ex's face was blanked out. Clicked on her profile and saw that she's blocked me. We stopped following each other and both of our accounts are on private so no idea why she blocked me there as well It's just a definitive way of being done. If you are broken up there are no good reasons to stay connected on social media.
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