Lack of affection

[jg888]

So, my girlfriend has never been overly physically affectionate but it definitely used to be than what it is now, she used to cuddle me and we used to be intimate quite often, last year that sort of all started to go away, now she isn't affectionate at all, she's never in the mood for sex which is okay, it's not my top priority, but i find intimacy and physically affection important in relationships, keeps you connected yknow.

For about 6 months i've been telling her that im not happy and that it just feels like a friendship, she keeps blaming lock down and saying it will get better now the rules are easing, we are seeing each other a bit more (she's putting more effort in since i was complaining about it) but the affection is just not there, she slept round on my birthday last month and we didn't even cuddle, this gets to me because i try but she just always thinks i want more. It's got to the point where i get annoyed when i go to hers and she's cuddling, kissing her dog, because i don't receive any affection, just a hug and a kiss when we say goodbye. Even on text it's not like a relationship, i'm a flirty person and she's the total opposite.

I've tried talking to her about this several times but it doesn't really get anywhere. I just don't know what to do anymore, I don't want us to break up but at the same time she can't give me what I need. She said if i don't think it's worth trying then it's up to me, but what if i regret it? I've read other peoples experiences and most say lack of physical affection is a serious problem and more likely than not leads to a break up anyway

 

[d0nnivain]

Since the relationship no longer works for you & brings you joy, why are you staying? 

[Wiseman2]

9 hours ago, jg888 said:

I don't want us to break up but at the same time she can't give me what I need. She said if i don't think it's worth trying then it's up to me, but what if i regret it? 

How long have you been dating? Is she on/off with an ex? She seems rather checked out with no affection and a sort of indifference about breaking up. You've already addressed it several time, to no avail.

[FMW]

If she was never overly affectionate anyway, it's highly unlikely things will change for the better.  I don't think there would be anything for you to regret about moving on.  A breakup might be hard, but if you want to have a chance at having your needs met, it's necessary.