shulkiv Posted April 24, 2021 Posted April 24, 2021 Hey guys, I needed a different perspective on this because this is driving me crazy, it's so confusing. I have a crush on this girl and each time I snapchat her it's the same pattern. She opens it instantly, like in the first minute of sending it or even in the first few minutes. She'll call me cute and be flirty on text while acting interested but then suddenly leave me on delivered for hours upon hours (1-2 days). It's really confusing because I can tell she takes a long time to send a selfie, so she's obviously trying to make it a good one and it is and then when the night comes and she goes to bed it's like she doesn't see my message in the morning or doesn't bother to reply to it. I don't know if she sees us as friends or more than friends. I'm a few years younger than her so I'm scared she may not take me seriously. Does anybody know what this could be? Thanks
Yosemite Posted April 24, 2021 Posted April 24, 2021 How old are you and how old is she? Have you ever met her irl?
Author shulkiv Posted April 24, 2021 Author Posted April 24, 2021 3 minutes ago, Yosemite said: How old are you and how old is she? Have you ever met her irl? I’m 18 and she’s 21. I haven’t met her irl but i’m going to the same university as her this year
Yosemite Posted April 24, 2021 Posted April 24, 2021 For right now, take it as a friendship and someone to help you get your social life started at university in the fall. Once you meet in person, you can see if you two have chemistry and if there's a possibility for romance. 1
Wiseman2 Posted April 24, 2021 Posted April 24, 2021 1 hour ago, shulkiv said: I’m 18 and she’s 21. I haven’t met her irl but i’m going to the same university as her this year Ok, you've made a penpal for now. Once you are on campus, see what happens. However don't depend on for timestamps to try to guess if she has a BF, etc.
cleverusername Posted April 24, 2021 Posted April 24, 2021 Doesn't matter why as long as she's doing it, all that matters is she's responding 2
Author shulkiv Posted April 24, 2021 Author Posted April 24, 2021 1 hour ago, Yosemite said: For right now, take it as a friendship and someone to help you get your social life started at university in the fall. Once you meet in person, you can see if you two have chemistry and if there's a possibility for romance. Yeah I guess I have to let fate decide that one as well it’s more just that it’s a long way to go until then and I wanna get to know her I just don’t know how
Author shulkiv Posted April 24, 2021 Author Posted April 24, 2021 30 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Ok, you've made a penpal for now. Once you are on campus, see what happens. However don't depend on for timestamps to try to guess if she has a BF, etc. She definitely doesn’t have a boyfriend but I’m not sure if she is interested in anyone. How do I get to know her without her thinking I’m trying to get with her or flirt with her, I kind of want to become friends but texting is an annoyance
Yosemite Posted April 24, 2021 Posted April 24, 2021 39 minutes ago, shulkiv said: Yeah I guess I have to let fate decide that one as well it’s more just that it’s a long way to go until then and I wanna get to know her I just don’t know how The only way to get to know her is to talk to her. If you hate texting, you could try face timing or dm-ing on Instagram...it doesn't sound like you know her well enough to FaceTime or Zoom, so I guess dm her. Just keep in touch with her, not too much (you don't want to come across as needy or thirsty) and not too little (you don't want to look like a player.) Once you get to university, meet up with her and see what happens. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2021 Posted April 25, 2021 She interacts with you when she's on line but she's not glued to her phone You know you go to the same school. Any chance you can ask her to meet in you in real life? Given the age difference if you are in the US I am not optimistic about this given the age difference. She may not want to date a freshman boy who can't go out to a bar with her.
spiderowl Posted April 25, 2021 Posted April 25, 2021 I'm afraid she just sees you as an online friend, OP. Until you meet in real life, that's all there is. The fact that she takes so long to reply suggests she's not majorly interested at the moment. I would not wait about for her messages or have any high hopes about her. You'll meet lots of attractive girls at uni, in real life, so wait and see what happens there. Good luck!
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