I'm unsure whether he's looking for something casual despite him saying he's open to a relationship

[willnotdoit]

10 minutes ago, Versacehottie said:

Yeah flip it... right now you are so worry that you need to "change" his mind from casual or events at his house to what you want.  It's easier to PRESUME that he is like he said "open to a relationship" and thus not wanting to be lazy or mistreat you or put you out.  So in accordance, PRESUME that he absolutely would want to do something outside of the house with you.  Why wouldn't he?  You are dateable, girlfriend material.  If you only except the bare minimum stuff he offers and feel like you can't speak up or you will lose a (poor) status quo, you are actually worsening your position to get what you want out of this.  At only two dates in, IMO it will be easier to "change" the patterns and create an accurate impression vs trying to nag it out of him 2 months down the road.  You might "lose" in that he might not want to continue under what you want as well--but then you haven't really lost anything have you?  You would just be waiting for the inevitable, if he's only willing to do what you are doing under only his conditions--meaning eventually he would cut that off as well, move onto a real girlfriend or mistreat you so badly or dismissively that you would get totally fed up (or more  likely you would start squeaking about it then and he would see that as drama and decide to move on).  You can't be afraid to lose someone who won't give you their best.  You can't be afraid to lose someone period.  

Agree! In a way, it's great that it's only 2 dates in and I can really test the waters. 2 months/years not so much. Like you said, if he bails - it's nothing to me and at least no time is wasted. 

[princessaurora]

Just get him to do something with you  away from his house. Like others have said you don't want to go backwards, but you don't want to just become his fudge buddy either. 

I usually didn't have sex early when I was dating but I did accept a date  once with a guy when I first started college that resulted in us having sex the first night. He gave me the choice to go out dancing or let him make me  dinner at his house  .I chose dinner and I knew what that implied. That was just the point I was at in my life. Just looking for fun and not a boyfriend.  Surprisingly, I  ended up with one. But I didnt make a habit of having the dates start at his house or my dorm. The second date we went to the movies and then back to his apt for sex, 3rd we went to a nice restauraunt, and back to his apt for sex, future dates we went to the park, zoo, theatre productions at our college, country line dancing, etc.

So you could potentially turn this around if you act sooner rather than later. If he tries to set up another home date offer an alternative. If he's not willing to do that, none of us have to tell you what he sees you as.