Need advice

[Gust0001]

I have to admit that I am very lucky for who my best friend is. Her and I met about 3 years ago through work and since then our friendship has progressed and has been tremendous. At first when we met I had a HUGE crush on her, but when I learned of her having a boyfriend I immediately realized that and respected that.

 

Her boyfriend and I are also great friends and I’m fortunate to have them both as friends. Ever since we met we hang out a lot on the weekends, don’t really do much mainly just hang out at their house and drink, sit around and BS.

 

But here recently I don’t know, I’m just depressed over a couple things – and maybe it’s nothing. This is where you guys come in, I need your advice.

 

1). Prior to meeting her and her boyfriend, I literally had no friends I socialized. I had always dealt with being overweight and was anti-social. When I was in high school I had no friends either outside of school. So my life was pretty boring. Since I’ve met them, they invite me over almost every weekend to hang out and BS.

 

Now here’s the problem. I’ve become adapted to this. What I mean is I get so use to always being invited over there, that when a Friday or Saturday night comes and they have something going on I fall into a state of depression and sometimes upset. It’s wrong, I know and that’s why I am here. It’s because on those nights it just makes me remember that other than them, I have no other friends and I don’t have a girlfriend either, so it just emphasizes the fact that I don’t have anyone else in my life and I just get to feeling lonely and very depressed.

 

And here’s another thing has been on my mind non-stop and has me in a state of depression.

 

She recently got a new job where she met some new friends and Saturday night we went up to meet them at a bar. I’ve heard a lot of stuff about these people so I was glad to finally meet them. We get to the bar and she introduces her boyfriend to them but never introduces me… it wasn’t until about 15 mins later I realized who was who and introduced myself.

 

For some this just upset me. Was I right to be upset? I just couldn’t help but feel like she didn’t want me there or something, I mean that isn’t the case.. but ya know.

 

 

But eventually she notices that something is bothering me so we go outside where I kinda became an ass about the fact that she didn’t even bother to introduce me to them and that I had to figure out who was who and introduce myself, mainly because I’ve heard so much stuff about them that I figured she’d introduce me but she didn’t.

 

She apologized and I could tell she felt bad, she was almost in tears she felt so bad about it.

 

But now today I feel stupid and feel like an a**hole over getting upset like I did over something like that. In the 3 years we’ve been friends we have never fought or had an argument nor have I ever gotten upset towards her about something, so now I just feel bad.

 

What do you guys think? Advice? Am I making sense here?

[brittanyjean259]

well you can start by trying to meet new people your self, dont become depedant on other people...still see them once in a while but make time for your self... im sure you can meet new people and become friends with!