curious_guy Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 There is a girl. She was a roomate with my 5 years older brother and not to soon before he moved out to another country, she befriended me on facebook. We started chatting a lot and i started to really like her. However, I started to have a feeling that she might be just using me to get closer to my brother. For instance, once, she asked me to guard her dog while she was away. I was at her apartment and stayed for two more days after she came back. She was talking about how she really hopes for my brother to find a job, because she wants him to be happy soo much. She didn't mention same hopes for me, even though i was looking for a job for years then. Then we played one game online a lot and she would always ask to include him. Once i did, she let him win the game. I was about to win in next turn, but she traded all of her resources with him, just so he would. Finally, I went on to visit my brother in his other country. She contacted us both at the same time, but continued chatting only with him. She knew we were both in the living room, yet she devoted all her attention at him. For ten minutes I was staring at my phone, while he was typing, with self-indulgent smirk on his phone. We both knew we chatted with her and saw how much she gave to who. I was hoping that she was maybe trying to drive me crazy jealous and that she plays games, but she probably doesn't, right? I mean, she would be inconsistent then. She always chooses to boost his confidence, over me though. She does send me sexy or cute photographs of her from time to time , but probably does so also to my brother. I only had a glimpse of couple of photos she sent him, those were not so sexy, more friendly, but they are also friends on instagram, where she has lots of sexy photos. I know this is just my selective description of some unrelated events, but based on this, what is your opinion? a) she is using me to get closer to my brother b) she likes me too
Wiseman2 Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 14 minutes ago, curious_guy said: a) she is using me to get closer to my brother b) she likes me too Sounds like a bit of both. However distance yourself a bit. Three's a crowd.
Author curious_guy Posted April 21, 2021 Author Posted April 21, 2021 6 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Sounds like a bit of both. However distance yourself a bit. Three's a crowd. Thanks for the reply, seems there will be no more interest. So, i am just gonna say that this situation played out already. 2.5 years ago. Today, I think the first option is more likely. I did eventually told her that i like her. I also admitted to her that i dont know what should i do with my feelings, because i am clinically depressed. We still communicated after that. 1.5 years ago, i finally got a job. I thought i would be visiting her, but covid and lockdown ruined it for me. Year ago she got herself a boyfriend. I decided to stay friends, because i became very fond of her. We played one game for couple of hours almost every night from February till June last year. I let her invite me when she wants, because I wanted to be supportive. She had to finish her college in september or she would have lost her study rights. However, by the end of june, she started distancing herself from me. I congratulated her birthday. I feel a bit bad because i did it late, only after job, at 18 pm. I actually didnt want to interfere with her life, since she had a boyfriend. I thought me texting her at midnight might do some harm to her early relationship. My birthday was four days later. she didnt even congratulate. nobody texted no one for months. Then, i noticed she started liking my best friends posts on facebook. Week before she graduated, she liked one of mine too. I didnt start a contact. I just liked a photo of her with diploma. This year, she intensified liking of my best friends posts. Finally, on Easter I found out that she is still in contact with my brother and she was trying to meet up with him. Also, her cousin died of cancer. As I came to the city for couple of days, only two days after my brother, i texted her. I asked her if she would join us for a game night. she said no, because she had a death in family. I gave her my condolences and asked her to a coffee. She sent me a photo of a dog and said that its her boyfriends. They moved in together. I told her i would still like to see her, to what she responded with blushing smiley and i told her to call me if she would like to see me. she didnt. So, i came back to my city of residence and i unfriended her from facebook. so, f*** my life. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 21, 2021 Posted April 21, 2021 I agree that she was using you to stay close to your brother. While she might have been trying to make your brother jealous, I see no indication that she was trying to make you jealous. You were a means to an end for her. Unfortunately you developed feelings for her which she manipulated to her advantage. You say you are clinically depressed. Get that addressed. You will be amazed at how much better you feel. I'm glad you deleted her from social media. If you haven't already invest in your relationship with your brother. You grew to see him as a rival & I fear her antics poisoned your relationship as brothers. Fix that. There is no need to give up on life. You now have a job. You have removed her from your life. Things seem to be looking up.
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