jimbry Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 A store, I often shop, the cute cashier lady really seems into me. Eye contact, she always remembers what I buy, out of the corner of my eye -- saw her take her mask off before coming to the counter, will not stop talking till I get out the door, lots of smiling when we make eye contact, etc... It's really awkward; though I do think she's really, super cute. Don't want to get her in trouble, irk other customers standing around talking about the weather while other people are waiting in line, etc... She works a pretty busy shift and its always busy in there. Would it be appropriate to just give her a note letting know I'd love to chat more but don't want to get her trouble? With my phone number on it? TY,
Fletch Lives Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 Just ask her for her phone number, it only takes a second. Don't worry, the date cops won't get you.
norealusername Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 Go for it. Just realize it will be very awkward if she rejects you. And don't mistake her being friendly, doing her job, as flirting. Make sure she is really flirting. I got embarrassed once doing this with a very attractive cashier. I mistook her being friendly as flirting and it was not. Puts her in a very awkward position.
smackie9 Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 lean in and ask when her break is, and if she would join you for a coffee or juice.
Wiseman2 Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 8 hours ago, jimbry said: Would it be appropriate to just give her a note letting know I'd love to chat more but don't want to get her trouble? With my phone number on it? Can you connect on social media? Ask to friend/follow whatever. That way you can see if she has a BF. The here's my number" thing just seems too much like a pickup situation (turn off for many women). Ease into it.
dramafreezone Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, jimbry said: A store, I often shop, the cute cashier lady really seems into me. Eye contact, she always remembers what I buy, out of the corner of my eye -- saw her take her mask off before coming to the counter, will not stop talking till I get out the door, lots of smiling when we make eye contact, etc... It's really awkward; though I do think she's really, super cute. Don't want to get her in trouble, irk other customers standing around talking about the weather while other people are waiting in line, etc... She works a pretty busy shift and its always busy in there. Would it be appropriate to just give her a note letting know I'd love to chat more but don't want to get her trouble? With my phone number on it? TY, Just man up and ask her if you can call her sometime. It's nervewracking in such a public place, but she probably already gets the feeling you fancy her. Also, she's a cashier dude, not some movie star. You're already showing a tremendous amount of deference to her. Calm down, her breath stinks in the morning, she farts just like everyone else. "Listen , can I call you later, I'd love to take you out some time?" Something like that. If she not interested she'll probably say she has a BF, and you'll say "well he's not invited." Joking like that will take the awkwardness out of it and she'll see that you don't take things so seriously. Edited April 19, 2021 by dramafreezone
basil67 Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 My daughter has been a cashier we've talked about this. She says that being approached at the counter is really uncomfortable because, as a server, she's in a place of having less power than him. She says the playing field is leveled if he gives his number and puts the ball in her court. Of course, if a woman is *really* interested, she'll accept then and there. But if she's not interested, she's not being placed in the uncomfortable position of having to say No to a customer. 1
Ami1uwant Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 Matt Gaerz is that you??? these are really hard to read interest. Just like a waitress is she just a nice person vs did we hit it off with conversation.
d0nnivain Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 Do not give her a note. OMG. Middle school ended years ago. Don't do it. Instead ask her what's the least busy time she works. Then make a point to come back then so you can chit chat a bit. That conversation should give you a bit more insight into interest vs. paid to be personable to all customers. 2
Alpacalia Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 You could always become a regular, build rapport, ask her questions, remember the answers, and show her that you remember by mentioning things she likes or something she's done. Then proceed to Plan B.
Maldives Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 Don't know to be honest I can tell you my two experiences trying with a cashier it went south lol both rejected. It finally dawned on me that's what there paid to do be nice to there customers
lana-banana Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) Just casually give her your number, maybe on a business card or something. She'll either text/call or she won't, but that way gives her the most autonomy and won't get her in any trouble. And can the attitude. Yes, there are PUAs here and plenty of folks whose opinions are best ignored (like the real world), but there are also lots of happily married folks, widows, parents, professors, etc, and at any rate everyone here is a real person taking time out of their day to weigh in on your question. Your hypersensitive reaction doesn't speak well of your judgment. PS: the note idea is a bad one. Just give her your number like an adult. Edited April 20, 2021 by lana-banana
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