Stella95 Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 I became really good friends with this guy. We talk about everything and he's mentioned already that he's not looking for a relationship. I started to have feelings for him. Because of this I told him it would probably be best we don't speak anymore since he doesn't want what I want. Now I miss talking to him. There are certain things I wish I could talk to him about him but given the circumstances I can't. My question is, can I go back and talk to him again even if I asked that we don't speak anymore? He was understanding when I asked him for us to stop speaking. It's just that I realized I'd rather have him as my friend than not at all.
Fletch Lives Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 Sure, just say what you have said here. But because you rejected him, he might reject you back, so it's up to you if you want to take the chance. Don't do it if you can't date others because you have too big of a crush on him (if you want to date, that is). 1
Wiseman2 Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 Unfortunately it will be difficult to backpedal from this. You already stated you wanted to date him and he doesn't want that. So it's a game changer. Date other guys. Make other friends. Hanging around in the friendzone won't change his mind.
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted April 19, 2021 Posted April 19, 2021 I wouldn’t if I were you. Guys aren’t really looking for random, female, strictly platonic friends.
mark clemson Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 You can do/attempt whatever you want. Whether he will agree and whether this approach is likely to be emotionally healthy for you are separate questions. Is there such as thing as stringing yourself along? I suspect there probably is, in fact it seems to be pretty common, actually. Is that what you want for yourself?
Author Stella95 Posted April 20, 2021 Author Posted April 20, 2021 16 minutes ago, mark clemson said: 15 minutes ago, mark clemson said: You can do/attempt whatever you want. Whether he will agree and whether this approach is likely to be emotionally healthy for you are separate questions. Is there such as thing as stringing yourself along? I suspect there probably is, in fact it seems to be pretty common, actually. Is that what you want for yourself? gree and whether this approach is likely to be emotionally healthy for you are separate questions. Is there such as thing as stringing yourself along? I suspect there probably is, in fact it seems to be pretty common, actually. Is that what you want for yourself? I don't know. I miss him as a friend since it was so easy to talk to him. will he welcome me back if I try to talk to him again? Will I be ok? I'd rather have a good friend than no friend.
Mrin Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 Dude here. I've been in that position as your dude. Ya, go ahead and tell him what you told us. But and I mean this - don't do this if you have any feels for him still. It will be like torture for you and confusing/frustrating for him. 3
Author Stella95 Posted April 20, 2021 Author Posted April 20, 2021 55 minutes ago, Mrin said: Dude here. I've been in that position as your dude. Ya, go ahead and tell him what you told us. But and I mean this - don't do this if you have any feels for him still. It will be like torture for you and confusing/frustrating for him. Thank you! I think I'll give myself sometime too before I talk to him again. Will it matter how much time i let pass before reaching out to him again?
Cersei Posted April 20, 2021 Posted April 20, 2021 Don't do it. Please don't. If you had/have feelings it will mess you up. The old feelings will surface. 1
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