Question for any lady on here who has used Bumble

[IntBrowser]

I get confused sometime when I get a BUZZ, (Which is only 3 times a year) and a message from her doesnt follow.   Then I have to extend the match another 24 hours and wait for her to respond.   So what is the reason for the delay?   Accidental swipe right?   Analyzing several profiles at one time?   I figured a buzz and a message comes all at the same time?     I think I am asking this because the woman is HOT and I am getting inpatient lol

[smackie9]

Might be fake, automated accounts to get you back to the site.

[norealusername]

I have no idea. I've used it but never liked bumble.

[WWYD]

Let it go. It doesn't matter if it's a fake profile, accidental swipe or whatever.... If she doesn't message you, she doesn't message you. End of.

If you're not getting many messages, your profile needs work. Depends on how much effort you're prepared to put in... I'm getting 2-3 likes per day and and can easily find out who they're from (without paying)... if I like the look of her, I'll match  

 

[IntBrowser]

3 minutes ago, norealusername said:

I have no idea. I've used it but never liked bumble.

what was the issue with Bumble?   it seems to be above all the other apps

[IntBrowser]

1 minute ago, WWYD said:

Let it go. It doesn't matter if it's a fake profile, accidental swipe or whatever.... If she doesn't message you, she doesn't message you. End of.

If you're not getting many messages, your profile needs work. Depends on how much effort you're prepared to put in... I'm getting 2-3 likes per day and and can easily find out who they're from (without paying)... if I like the look of her, I'll match  

 

you must be fine, if you are a man getting that many messages a week

[norealusername]

I only used it once for a couple weeks. It wasn't the worst app, I just didn't like the procedure.

[WWYD]

1 minute ago, IntBrowser said:

you must be fine, if you are a man getting that many messages a week

All in the eye of the beholder, isn't it? I think I'm a very average 40-something, though look quite young for my age and have stayed in good shape physically. I'm not going to compromise on what I want from a relationship, and it isn't *just* sex, and I make this clear on my profile. I think this appeals to women on dating apps, who (from what I've been told) have to put up with a lot of weirdos messaging them.

Most matches go nowhere tbh, though I'm meeting up with someone tomorrow that looks promising...

[IntBrowser]

29 minutes ago, norealusername said:

I only used it once for a couple weeks. It wasn't the worst app, I just didn't like the procedure.

I like that you can transition to the phone without exchanging numbers

[norealusername]

28 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

I like that you can transition to the phone without exchanging numbers

I don't think I made it that far, lol

[LauraXX]

I started using Bumble two weeks ago. Had to figure it out first and accidentally swiped right a few times. 

The way i‘m using it now is: I browse through the profiles for a few minutes and swipe right on the ones I like. Sometimes all of them are matches, sometimes only one or two of them.  When I only have one or two matches, I send both of them a message. If there are more than two (which is most  of the time) I pick the one or two I like best. I prefer to put a bit of effort into my messages and don‘t want to send a boring „Hey, how are you?“. 

I didn‘t even realize at first that the matches disappear after 24h 😅 

 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, norealusername said:

I only used it once for a couple weeks. It wasn't the worst app, I just didn't like the procedure.

How would you compare it to Tinder or Match?

[IntBrowser]

24 minutes ago, LauraXX said:

I started using Bumble two weeks ago. Had to figure it out first and accidentally swiped right a few times. 

The way i‘m using it now is: I browse through the profiles for a few minutes and swipe right on the ones I like. Sometimes all of them are matches, sometimes only one or two of them.  When I only have one or two matches, I send both of them a message. If there are more than two (which is most  of the time) I pick the one or two I like best. I prefer to put a bit of effort into my messages and don‘t want to send a boring „Hey, how are you?“. 

I didn‘t even realize at first that the matches disappear after 24h 😅 

 

I heard that HEY HOW ARE YOU is the convo killer lol

[LauraXX]

1 minute ago, IntBrowser said:

I heard that HEY HOW ARE YOU is the convo killer lol

It is! I was on Tinder a year ago and almost ALL messages were „How are you?“ or even just an emoji 🙄 

[Wiseman2]

2 minutes ago, LauraXX said:

It is! I was on Tinder a year ago and almost ALL messages were „How are you?“ or even just an emoji 🙄 

😍🚗🍕📺👍

[norealusername]

12 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

How would you compare it to Tinder or Match?

The women have to initiate the message on bumble after you match. That's the main difference as I recall. I preferred Tinder or POF. The one I disliked the most was coffee meets bagel.

[IntBrowser]

15 minutes ago, norealusername said:

The women have to initiate the message on bumble after you match. That's the main difference as I recall. I preferred Tinder or POF. The one I disliked the most was coffee meets bagel.

Match seemed like a scammed.    I had to buy a membership in order to see what the women look like 

[norealusername]

3 minutes ago, IntBrowser said:

Match seemed like a scammed.    I had to buy a membership in order to see what the women look like 

I used match a long time ago, like 2008. I think you could use it without paying then but not sure. It wasn't bad then. I can't see paying when there's quite a few popular apps for free. I don't want to pay to get rejected.

[WWYD]

14 minutes ago, norealusername said:

The women have to initiate the message on bumble after you match. That's the main difference as I recall. I preferred Tinder or POF. The one I disliked the most was coffee meets bagel.

Personally, I prefer Bumble - exactly because it puts the woman in control of who she messages. The more you use it, the more frequently it puts up the people that 'liked' you as potential matches. It's easy to work out from the pixelated photos who they are, especially if you play with your preference settings.

[IntBrowser]

3 minutes ago, WWYD said:

Personally, I prefer Bumble - exactly because it puts the woman in control of who she messages. The more you use it, the more frequently it puts up the people that 'liked' you as potential matches. It's easy to work out from the pixelated photos who they are, especially if you play with your preference settings.

Explain the prefer settings

[Miss Peach]

45 minutes ago, LauraXX said:

It is! I was on Tinder a year ago and almost ALL messages were „How are you?“ or even just an emoji 🙄 

I got that a lot on OKC too. Or letters like WYD. It made it easy to weed people out.

[IntBrowser]

6 minutes ago, Miss Peach said:

I got that a lot on OKC too. Or letters like WYD. It made it easy to weed people out.

This was my first reply today when I matched on Bumble

 

Just read your profile and I have a few questions.        The last question was a compliment and the convo took off from there

[norealusername]

7 minutes ago, Miss Peach said:

I got that a lot on OKC too. Or letters like WYD. It made it easy to weed people out.

Most of the messages from women are the same, lol.

[mortensorchid]

I have used Bumble in the past and it's... Not good.  With your concerns it could be a lot of things (spam, lost interest, deleted account, etc.).  But that goes for other dating apps / websites.

Unfortunately in my case, and if you have followed my history here, I have encountered a lot of weak beta men.  Bumble, in my experience, is the weakest of them all because it's the women's choice.  If and when this happens, I expect that I will be making the plans and then I will go out, meet someone, spend an evening of awkwardness,  then walk away and never hear a word from the guy ever again.  Facts.

[Trail Blazer]

9 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

I think I am asking this because the woman is HOT and I am getting inpatient lol

If she's hot like you say, then almost every right-swipe she'll make will be a match.  If she's overwhelmed with matches, she'll probably let some expire and only message the ones she truly feels will go somewhere. Try not to let it bother you.  It is what it is.

When I used Bumble I had so many "buzz buzz" notifications throughout the day, every day, with many of them left to expire.  There was a strong correlation between the level of hotness of the girl, and the likelihood of receiving a response.

Talking to my girlfriend a while back about Bumble, she said that she would be so overwhelmed with matches that she simply couldn't keep up.  As she spent longer on the app, she was more able to keep up as the matches startee to dry up a little.

Perhaps the girl you're talking about here is a fairly new account.  If that is the case, she's probably swiping more than she will likely to swipe as she settles into the app and takes a more methodical approach to things.  Right now she could be like a kid in a candy store, right-swiping without too much of a care in the world.