dramafreezone Posted April 17, 2021 Posted April 17, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Happy Lemming said: At some point, the OP is going to need to develop "thick skin"... Dating is not for the timid or fragile. Sure, but you build up to cold approching women. Hell I don't cold approach women. I only consider it useful for someone who may have approach anxiety as a way of exposure therapy. I don't think that's the OP's main issue right now. As an effective method of meeting interesting women it's the worst thing he can do. A lot of women out in public aren't in the mood to be approached, so approaching them does nothing to help build confidence. Actually I don't advocate doing any activity as a means of meeting women. Someone mentioned meetup groups, that's actually really good because he's there for a special interest and he can meet women as a byproduct, but moreso he's there because of the activity, whether it's board games, trivia, whatever he likes to do. If he meets no women, it's fine because he still had a good time doing what he likes to do. Women that go to those know they're going to meet men though and they're in the headspace for it. What happens if OP goes out to specifically meet interested women and gets shot down 10 times, it's back to "I'm a piece of crap" because he based the entire activity on the outcome of getting numbers. Centereing any activity on meeting women is just the wrong type of energy IMO. Some guys learn best from being dumped in the deep end of the pool, but OP needs to start in the shallow end to see that water isn't out there to drown him. Edited April 17, 2021 by dramafreezone
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