ericw899 Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 I started talking to this girl I matched with on the Facebook dating app back in December. We talked for about a month, video chatted a lot and were planning a date. Unfortunately our schedules really never lined up and our last conversation was back on January 7th 2021. So we only knew each other for a month, and never met in real life. Fast forward to yesterday afternoon, she randomly texts me saying "Hi, How are you?" I said I'm good, and she said "I thought about you, and decided to say hi". So I then asked her what made her think of me and she said she was going through her old messages. Long story short, I sent back a response and she left my message on read. So what was the point of her reaching out to me, 3 months later than we last talked, and then she keeps her conversation brief. Is this something women will do to remind you they are still around just to mess with your head??
glows Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 Why didn't your schedules line up back in January? I would be hesitant to keep in touch or touch base with someone whose schedule wasn't free enough for even a one hour meet up in person. 1
Fletch Lives Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 Gotta love those people who keep little black books full of people they don't know 1
Wiseman2 Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 10 hours ago, ericw899 said: , she randomly texts me saying "Hi, How are you?" I said I'm good, and she said "I thought about you, and decided to say hi". Unfortunately some people just rifle through there social media and send random messages when they're bored. Just delete and block her. You don't even know her. This would be a good time to go through your social media and clear out the dead weight like this. Reset all your privacy settings and review who can see your content. The way you have things set up now, just invites catfish, trolls, scammers and time wasters like Ms. random "Hi". Make a more concerted effort to date. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting real-life single women in person. If someone won't meet in a timely manner, just move forward.
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 In the moment when she sent you the message she was bored & looking to be entertained. Now something better has come along to fill her time. 1
Andy_K Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 (edited) She probably hasn't had much luck dating recently and wanted some attention/validation. It's nothing to do with wanting to mess with your head. It's unlikely your feelings were even considered at all Edited April 13, 2021 by Andy_K 1
smackie9 Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 She probably had nothing going on. IMO if you haven't heard from her in months, block/delete their number. It's better to invest in someone that is readily available than spending weeks trying to fine one day to have a date. It's really not worth it. 1
poppyfields Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 (edited) I wouldn't say for sure boredom, or on a dry spell, it's possible she was thinking of you and feeling nostalgic. At that moment. I've felt that way at times about ex's even when in a new LTR. People read too much into these things; feelings of nostalgia are often fleeting and I've learned to not act on them. She has not learned that yet and reached out. Take it with a grain of salt, most likely it did not mean anything other than she was feeling nostalgic at that moment while going through and perhaps even purging her inbox. Edited April 13, 2021 by poppyfields 3
dramafreezone Posted April 14, 2021 Posted April 14, 2021 (edited) 23 hours ago, ericw899 said: I started talking to this girl I matched with on the Facebook dating app back in December. We talked for about a month, video chatted a lot and were planning a date. Unfortunately our schedules really never lined up and our last conversation was back on January 7th 2021. So we only knew each other for a month, and never met in real life. Fast forward to yesterday afternoon, she randomly texts me saying "Hi, How are you?" I said I'm good, and she said "I thought about you, and decided to say hi". So I then asked her what made her think of me and she said she was going through her old messages. Long story short, I sent back a response and she left my message on read. So what was the point of her reaching out to me, 3 months later than we last talked, and then she keeps her conversation brief. Is this something women will do to remind you they are still around just to mess with your head?? Ha. Well, based on the course of events, this is my theory; she did kinda dig you at first, but maybe she saw some needy tendencies so lost interest, or maybe a guy she liked more caught her eye. Some time passed and she thinks maybe I judged this FB guy too soon, she hits you up (it wasn't just by chance) and you reconfirmed why she ghosted you in the first place. Why would you ask her "What made you think of me?" Don't ever ask that. Because you're fricking awesome, that's why. Your question conveyed insecurity, doubt in yourself. I'm guessing you've said similar cringey things to her which made her lose interest in the first place. You may have blown it, but if she messages again, say hi and set the date. Get in and get out. Assume that if she wants to contact you, she wants to see you. The less time you message, the less time you have to mess up. If she turns you down you say "well I have to go, if you change your mind hit me up." That keeps happening she'll either eventually say yes or will stop messaging. Win/win in this case. The alternative is maybe she's just an attention sponge. Edited April 14, 2021 by dramafreezone
spiderowl Posted April 14, 2021 Posted April 14, 2021 On 4/13/2021 at 2:00 AM, ericw899 said: I started talking to this girl I matched with on the Facebook dating app back in December. We talked for about a month, video chatted a lot and were planning a date. Unfortunately our schedules really never lined up and our last conversation was back on January 7th 2021. So we only knew each other for a month, and never met in real life. Fast forward to yesterday afternoon, she randomly texts me saying "Hi, How are you?" I said I'm good, and she said "I thought about you, and decided to say hi". So I then asked her what made her think of me and she said she was going through her old messages. Long story short, I sent back a response and she left my message on read. So what was the point of her reaching out to me, 3 months later than we last talked, and then she keeps her conversation brief. Is this something women will do to remind you they are still around just to mess with your head?? Without knowing how you responded, OP, it is hard to tell. If you response suggested you were not interesting in picking up the conversation, then she probably read it and left it there.
SumGuy Posted April 14, 2021 Posted April 14, 2021 20 hours ago, dramafreezone said: Ha. Well, based on the course of events, this is my theory; she did kinda dig you at first, but maybe she saw some needy tendencies so lost interest, or maybe a guy she liked more caught her eye. Some time passed and she thinks maybe I judged this FB guy too soon, she hits you up (it wasn't just by chance) and you reconfirmed why she ghosted you in the first place. Why would you ask her "What made you think of me?" Don't ever ask that. Because you're fricking awesome, that's why. Your question conveyed insecurity, doubt in yourself. I'm guessing you've said similar cringey things to her which made her lose interest in the first place. You may have blown it, but if she messages again, say hi and set the date. Get in and get out. Assume that if she wants to contact you, she wants to see you. The less time you message, the less time you have to mess up. If she turns you down you say "well I have to go, if you change your mind hit me up." That keeps happening she'll either eventually say yes or will stop messaging. Win/win in this case. The alternative is maybe she's just an attention sponge. Have to agree. Better to say "Funny I was thinking of you too, how we never got a chance to meet." ...can ask her how she has been, but get to asking her out soon, like what is she doing this weekend... 1
BrianK Posted April 14, 2021 Posted April 14, 2021 Covid boredom. I was chatting with a girl from Brazil, even though there is literally no way we could meet in the foreseeable future, I called it off so we could stop wasting each others time.
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