Best options with a partner who doesn't want to talk about their stress and issues

[Stupidkupid]

1 minute ago, MisteriousStranger said:

No I give my partner enough space, thats def true.

The only thing that I might see that is maybe not the best is that im very romantic and caring and do alot of small things and suprizes and romantic stuff, which I guess girls like, but I do it alot and often, perhaps for some maybe its too much, alltho she told me she is a person that likes this alot.

We're all different and I think its great that you do romantic stuff for your partner but for some women, a little less is more. Not to stop, many women (men too, I assume), myself included, love to know that we are being thought of. 

Have you ever read about love languages? I think there is an element of truth to it, I'm that we all show and receieve love differently. I suspect its not as clear cut as they make it out to be but maybe have a google and see what you think?

[MisteriousStranger]

Usually in my previous relationships whether I broke it off or they, it always started to go downhill etc... in my recent one everything was perfect and the best I could ever imagine, ideal relationship and everything, then all of a sudden BAM... now its really tough, I don't have apetite and the will to do much.

[BaileyB]

Give it time. 

[Gaeta]

It was good while it lasted but now it's over.

Look at it as a few months of happiness and now you have to move toward your next adventure. 

[d0nnivain]

I'm sorry you are hurting.  

Time heals all wounds.  But you do need to do some self care, which includes eating.  Surround yourself with supportive friends & family.  Make lists of things you can do now that you have more free time.  Keep busy.  Get rid of the photos & mementos so aren't constantly staring at them.  Go NC on all platforms including / especially social media.  

Hang in there.  

[Ami1uwant]

1 hour ago, MisteriousStranger said:

Usually in my previous relationships whether I broke it off or they, it always started to go downhill etc... in my recent one everything was perfect and the best I could ever imagine, ideal relationship and everything, then all of a sudden BAM... now its really tough, I don't have apetite and the will to do much.

 

this was a shock to you.

 

do you know why this ended or do you have unanswered questions?

[FMW]

On 4/14/2021 at 3:47 AM, MisteriousStranger said:

And everything was so perfect and magical

My guess is that you missed some clues along the way that she wasn't feeling the perfect and the magical.  We sometimes project our own thoughts and feelings onto our partners and don't stop to really pay attention to little nuances.  I also think if you really looked at things clearly you would see that even in earlier times things weren't really perfect.   

I'm sure she cared about you and enjoyed your time together - but at some point along the way the newness wore off and she starting having second thoughts.  It most likely took time, maybe even months, for her to get to this point.  It didn't just happen suddenly.  

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.  Most relationships just don't last - until one does.  This one is now making you feel lonely and rejected.  That's your sign to put it behind you and move forward to something better.  

[MisteriousStranger]

2 hours ago, Ami1uwant said:

 

this was a shock to you.

 

do you know why this ended or do you have unanswered questions?

Unanswered questions

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, MisteriousStranger said:

Usually in my previous relationships whether I broke it off or they, it always started to go downhill etc... in my recent one everything was perfect and the best I could ever imagine, ideal relationship and everything, then all of a sudden BAM... now its really tough, I don't have apetite and the will to do much.

You asked about 'how is this a dodged bullet'? Well here is an excellent example. Someone who is so secretive or insincere or unilateral, that you're blindsided by them.

[Gaeta]

The answers to your unanswered questions will not change the fact she is gone. The answers will only generate other questions. The answers will never feel satisfactory to you. All you need to know is that she is gone because she wanted to be gone.