Krystina Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 If your boyfriend wants to keep your relationship private what does that really mean?
glows Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 Is this social media statuses or in real life? More context is needed. How long have you been dating? How old are both of you?
Wiseman2 Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 1 hour ago, Krystina said: If your boyfriend wants to keep your relationship private what does that really mean? How long have you been dating? How old is he? What do you mean by "private"? You haven't met his friends or family or he's just not into broadcasting his life on social media?
Gaeta Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 He doesn't want his ex to know about you because he's still hoping she'll come back.
smackie9 Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 It means he is making himself look single just in case there is opportunity ( like Gaeta said, for the ex to come back) or he is actually dating someone else or he still wants female attention on social media. Never tolerate being someone's secret. You are being a shelp if you do. 1
dramafreezone Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 You've not given any kind of context. What does keeping the relationship "private" mean? I think all relationships should be private, in that no one needs to know our business. But other people seem to think private means he doesn't want to tell anyone you're dating. You have to specify what you mean because opinions are gonig to be all over the place. Everyone doesn't post relationship statuses on IG or FB. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 17 hours ago, Krystina said: If your boyfriend wants to keep your relationship private what does that really mean? Nothing good. It probably means that you are the sidepiece. He's keeping you a secret because he has a wife or GF.
BaileyB Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 18 hours ago, Krystina said: If your boyfriend wants to keep your relationship private what does that really mean? It’s not a good thing...
trident_2020 Posted April 11, 2021 Posted April 11, 2021 He's ashamed of you. Given the limited information provided that's as good a guess as any.
crappedmypantsthrice Posted April 12, 2021 Posted April 12, 2021 So, I am a female, so take this with a grain of salt...but I wanted to give you my experience/perspective. With my ex-boyfriend, we both wanted to keep our relationship pretty private. No one knew about it for probably the first 2 months. On my side, only my family and very best friend knew about him. On his side, only his cousin, coworkers, and some of his buddies knew about me. Our reasons were similar but..different. For me...I just didn't want to deal with all of the "Is this The One?" questions and more especially, if things didn't work out (which they didn't), I didn't want everyone to know my business, and essentially that I had failed. I know it sounds silly, but...still. For him...he didn't mind his buddies and people knowing about me, but he didn't want his family to know about me, because in his family, the ONLY time that a significant other is mentioned is when it is THE One. I do agree with everyone else that...it's more than likely not a good sign. But, there are situations where maybe he is a super private person or maybe there are issues with his family. There is a possibility it's not like....apocalyptic worst case scenario.
ShyViolet Posted April 12, 2021 Posted April 12, 2021 It means he's not proud of you. He doesn't want people to know he's with you, so he can cheat. He has someone else that he is interested in and he wants to keep those options open.
princessaurora Posted April 12, 2021 Posted April 12, 2021 It depends on what context he means. If it's just not announcing on SM for awhile, that's understandable. But if he',s trying to hide it from everyone he knows, that could be more concerning. But there are exceptions. I initially hid my relationship with my now husband from my family because I felt guilty for breaking up with my boyfriend to be with him. I didn't have the guts to tell them what I did, because they really liked the guy, so my friends met him long before they did. My friends supported my decision because it wasn't fair to string him along when I was pining for another. I knew my parents wouldn't see it they way though, so he remained a secret until my damn aunt saw us out together and called my parents right away. I had to tell them the truth at that point or they would have thought I was two timing. They still didn't welcome him with open arms for awhile after that though because to them he was the guy who stole me from another guy. So it just depends on his reasons. Can you elaborate a bit more? How long have you been together? Have you met his friends/ family? Does he have a recent ex?
Miss Peach Posted April 12, 2021 Posted April 12, 2021 I would normally not go for it unless there was a good reason. It's meaning he doesn't want others who know he's off the market for whatever reason. I have asked a guy I liked to do that but that but in my case my ex was acting like a stalker and we had a large social group in common so I didn't want anything to get back to him and escalate the situation.
Fletch Lives Posted April 12, 2021 Posted April 12, 2021 After six months, the relationship should not be private. If it is, he's chasing other women or the couple have an agenda besides love.
Andy_K Posted April 13, 2021 Posted April 13, 2021 Most of the time it means he doesn't want the world to know you're his girlfriend, but there are a number of other possibilities - reactions from crazy exes or family members, friends in common who need to be told first, etc.
Miss Peach Posted April 14, 2021 Posted April 14, 2021 On 4/11/2021 at 7:41 PM, crappedmypantsthrice said: For him...he didn't mind his buddies and people knowing about me, but he didn't want his family to know about me, because in his family, the ONLY time that a significant other is mentioned is when it is THE One. I assumed American culture when I answered your question. But I have dated some other cultures where someone is introduced to family only as a precursor to engagement. But I would still be wary about friends and other people not knowing.
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