Talking to a passive guy and I'm trying not to lose my mind!

[glows]

Agree with the low self-esteem comment. I think he's interested, he just isn't sure enough with himself. Maybe he's newly single or it's just not the right time. 

I don't think you have to chase so hard either. Just let him know that you enjoy his company and prefer to get to know him in person. Leave it at that. If he wants to continue texting that's fine. You don't have to reply right away. He would already know where you stand. 

Chat with other guys, plan other dates.

[chillii]

Never ceases to amaze, how there's always all these things wrong with a guy just bc he isn't interested, heaven forbid he doesn't like just anything with legs that comes he's way , there's something wrong with him.  Still sounds like a combo of convenience oh ok l may as well nothin else goin on seems she's offering, to me op, from a male, but eh l could be wrong. Really , take it easy , just see he does start showing some interest now, that can happen too. PS , alternatively seems as you've gone this far, as someone else said you could just go all the way and ask him out and be done with it now ,if your game.Just be ready to except the forewarn though just encase .

Edited April 11, 2021 by chillii

[Wiseman2]

15 hours ago, divegrl said:

This man has really low self esteem.

He doesn’t care about himself..... .

I disagree with this. It's sour grapes to paint someone with these accusations when the reality is he's just not interested.

[cleverusername]

Why would he try when you're throwing yourself at him like mud on a wall? Back off and you'll get your answer. Either he will initiate because he realizes what he's missing or he won't and you'll know he's not interested. 

[Fletch Lives]

3 weeks and he has not asked for a date? He's either not into you, does not know what to do, or has a major issue.

 

 

If they don't ask for a date/hangout in a two weeks, it's not a match.

[d0nnivain]

7 hours ago, basil67 said:

 Sounds like someone who's got no life, no friends and is overly passive.  He's a bundle of blaagh

Why are you giving this guy so much importance in your head that you're risking losing your mind over him?  

I agree, especially with the "bundle of blaagh" comment, although with all the lockdowns not too many people have a lot going on these days.  @Idontknowww "losing your mind" seems a bit strong for how little interaction you have to date, although I understand some of your frustration.   Tae matters into your own hands.  At least you will know & can move forward.  

[smackie9]

OP if you really like this guy and he made some effort in his inch worm way by initiating conversation, you are going to have to be in the driver's seat on this one. You are going to have to be the one to push him by throwing him more bones that you would with a regular guy if you can handle it.