huskies08 Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 About 2 months ago, i got out of a two and half year relationship. I have been doing fine, and even though i miss my ex, i know that breaking up was for the better and we werent meant to be. Last night, my friend invited me to her friends get-together. I didnt know anybody. I met up with my friend and her live-in boyfriend and his best friend was with them. He was really nice guy. Cute, mature, independent, has his own place, etc. It seriously felt like i was being set up, without me knowing about it. So me and this guy hit it off and i drove him home becuase he came with someone else. He asked me to come up and at first i refused, but he was very pursuasive and i decided to come up to his apartment. We talked for about an hour and found out we had a lot in common. Then he started kissing me, but i stopped him after about 20 min and told him i had to go. I knew he wanted to have sex, but i knew it wasnt the right time, and i dont want to seem like a slut, so i left. But i also told him that i wasnt going to have sex with him and he said that he understood and he didnt want to pressure me into anything. he was still asking me to stay for another half an hour though. I left my phone number on a piece of paper in the kitchen when i was leaving and he promised he'd call today. I stilll havent heard from him. Am i just over reacting? Maybe its cause he's the first guy i've really liked since my ex. Maybe he was just interested in hooking up, and thats not what im looking for - i want a bf. I dont know and am incredibly confused. Maybe he's playing "ill wait a day till i call her" game? Or maybe he lost the paper with my number. Does he think that i'm a slut becuase we kissed so soon? maybe we moved too fast. I have been out of the dating scene for a while so i dont know. I would like to hear what some of you have to say. Am i just over reacting and he'll call tomorrow, or was he just interested in sex? Please be honest, dont sugar coat it.
magda Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 A lot of guys have a "never call before 3 days" or something kind of rule. It doesn't really sound like you did anything slutty... but it sounds like HE'S kind of slutty, ya know? Maybe not boyfriend material. If he doesn't call, don't feel bad. He's obviously physically attracted to you. He didn't call, most likely, because he's only looking to hook up.
J dub Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 First off, I want to applaud you for not sleeping with this fella. I dont see many good stories come of first date sex...and this wasnt even a date-date. Second, it's only been a day. These days, ya gotta give them up to a week to write them off entirely. Just hang in there sister...he may still call in a couple of days. And -- if he doesnt, be EXTRA glad you didnt sleep w/ him cuz thats all he was lookin for
SuperMonk Posted October 17, 2005 Posted October 17, 2005 Go with your gut instinct, and listen to the other broads in this thread. This guy is no good for you, he wanted something which was sex. I'm gonna speak from a man's POV - you're easy prey cause he knows your history and because he's friends of a friend that makes it easier for him to access you.
Author huskies08 Posted October 17, 2005 Author Posted October 17, 2005 Thanks to all of you for your advice. I know it sounds like all this guy is interested in is sex. Maybe its true, maybe its not. I guess I'll know if he'll call. But i was hoping he'd be different - he seemed like a very nice guy and to me it seemed like we had chemistry. Now, i KNOW i'm overreacting - i think im expecting too much from him too soon - after all i just met him. I was thinking that maybe he's not calling (i know im analyzing this too much, but i cant help it) because, as far as i know, guys like a chase, and i guess i was too easy to get. And he acutally doesnt know my history - unless my friend told him. Would that honestly make a difference in him calling? Maybe he's just a lot like other guys,just looking for sex. but i was hoping he'd be different.
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